Guest guest Posted August 7, 2009 Report Share Posted August 7, 2009 Thanks to those who posted about a different way of looking at their bodies. This is a real issue for me. And it's hard to think of my body as soft when it is riddled with stretch marks and varicose veins. I try to remember that this body is a result of years of yo yo dieting and too much weight gained during 3 pregnancies. When my husband turns away from me, my sick mind thinks it's always due to my body being so horribly unattractive. When in reality it is quite possibly other things going on. Of course, I dont ask him about it. I just get upset with myself. I loved the post about women being attractive because of their self confidence. Even when I was a normal weight, boyfriends would often break up with me I think because I was so clingy and dependent. Yesterday was a crappy day food wise. Still trying to recognize the tiny tidbits of progress. Let's see if I can name a few: 1. I packed a breakfast and ate it at work when i was hungry 2. I ate lunch and stopped when i was full 3. I walked my body to work. 4. I enjoyed an ice cream cone and was satisfied after the food police told me water ice would be healthier for me! Thanks, Deb Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2009 Report Share Posted August 9, 2009 Good job! Actually, your body is smarter than the food police. I don't know about you but sugar water (water ice) on an empty stomach is much worse for me than an ice cream cone. Although I did have a lovely pink lemonade snow cone the other day and it was quite satisfying...hmm. Re: soft bodies. I recently dated a man who is classically conflicted about health and healthy eating. One reason I am totally over him is that he brought me nuts and berries once when what my body was asking for was a cheeseburger--and said it was because he cared. Um, no, if you cared you would listen when I tell you what I need, thankyouverymuch. Anyway, even though he was obsessed with eating 'healthy' and losing weight (his mother keeps telling him he's fat..he isn't, but she keeps telling him he is), he said to me on many, many occasions while snuggled up on the couch, "your body feels SO GOOD." It was nice to hear..but would've been nicer if his own eating conflicts hadn't caused him to think he could boss around my eating habits, lol. He isn't the first man to say something similar, either. I once dated a man who poked me in the arm one day and said, "a man wants to feel a little give. No fun hitting bone right away." LOL Visit my blog! www.jenny-fair.blogspot.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2009 Report Share Posted August 9, 2009 I'm loving these soft body compliment stories. Anyone have more? For someone with a husband caged by the societal ideal, it gives me a lot of hope and inspiration to hear of men who love us soft, curvy girls. I've requested some books from the library on just this subject. I'll let you all know if they're any good. I will tell you that I feel much stronger with less pain with my +50 pounds than I ever did thin. I tested my lower ab strength shortly after I had my second son (I'm a physical therapist), and I easily tested out at 5/5 or perfect. I was like a 2/5 when I was at my thinnest 10 years earlier in PT school. Chronic dieting/starvation really uses up your muscle mass. I read recently about a study showing that if the subjects were given a guilt message about the dessert they ate they had a lowered immunity afterward. Those who got a loving message had a heightened immune system. There are so many ways that peace with food gives us peaceful bodies. Sara > > Good job! Actually, your body is smarter than the food police. I don't > know about you but sugar water (water ice) on an empty stomach is much worse > for me than an ice cream cone. Although I did have a lovely pink lemonade > snow cone the other day and it was quite satisfying...hmm. > > Re: soft bodies. I recently dated a man who is classically conflicted > about health and healthy eating. One reason I am totally over him is that he > brought me nuts and berries once when what my body was asking for was a > cheeseburger--and said it was because he cared. Um, no, if you cared you > would listen when I tell you what I need, thankyouverymuch. Anyway, even > though he was obsessed with eating 'healthy' and losing weight (his mother keeps > telling him he's fat..he isn't, but she keeps telling him he is), he said > to me on many, many occasions while snuggled up on the couch, " your body > feels SO GOOD. " It was nice to hear..but would've been nicer if his own > eating conflicts hadn't caused him to think he could boss around my eating > habits, lol. He isn't the first man to say something similar, either. I once > dated a man who poked me in the arm one day and said, " a man wants to feel a > little give. No fun hitting bone right away. " LOL > > > > Visit my blog! www.jenny-fair.blogspot.com > **************A Good Credit Score is 700 or Above. See yours in just 2 easy > steps! > (http://pr.atwola.com/promoclk/100126575x1222846709x1201493018/aol?redir=http://\ www.freecreditreport.com/pm/default.aspx?sc=668072 & hmpgID=115 & bcd > =JulystepsfooterNO115) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 9, 2009 Report Share Posted August 9, 2009 I think that is truer than most men and women want to think it is. Thanks for the smile maker and good reminder too Katcha >I once dated a man who poked me in the arm one day and said, " a man > wants to feel a little give. No fun hitting bone right away. " LOL > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 10, 2009 Report Share Posted August 10, 2009 I'm loving these stories too! Wish I had some to share but I don't. As for the strength thing...the weakest time in my life was also my skinniest. My family has a farm and I help hay every summer. The year I had lost a bunch of weight I was soooo weak haying. It was like I didn't have any strength in my body. To: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Sunday, August 9, 2009 11:46:22 PMSubject: Re:a Soft body I'm loving these soft body compliment stories. Anyone have more? For someone with a husband caged by the societal ideal, it gives me a lot of hope and inspiration to hear of men who love us soft, curvy girls. I've requested some books from the library on just this subject. I'll let you all know if they're any good. I will tell you that I feel much stronger with less pain with my +50 pounds than I ever did thin. I tested my lower ab strength shortly after I had my second son (I'm a physical therapist), and I easily tested out at 5/5 or perfect. I was like a 2/5 when I was at my thinnest 10 years earlier in PT school. Chronic dieting/starvation really uses up your muscle mass. I read recently about a study showing that if the subjects were given a guilt message about the dessert they ate they had a lowered immunity afterward. Those who got a loving message had a heightened immune system. There are so many ways that peace with food gives us peaceful bodies. Sara >> Good job! Actually, your body is smarter than the food police. I don't > know about you but sugar water (water ice) on an empty stomach is much worse > for me than an ice cream cone. Although I did have a lovely pink lemonade > snow cone the other day and it was quite satisfying.. .hmm.> > Re: soft bodies. I recently dated a man who is classically conflicted > about health and healthy eating. One reason I am totally over him is that he > brought me nuts and berries once when what my body was asking for was a > cheeseburger- -and said it was because he cared. Um, no, if you cared you > would listen when I tell you what I need, thankyouverymuch. Anyway, even > though he was obsessed with eating 'healthy' and losing weight (his mother keeps > telling him he's fat..he isn't, but she keeps telling him he is), he said > to me on many, many occasions while snuggled up on the couch, "your body > feels SO GOOD." It was nice to hear..but would've been nicer if his own > eating conflicts hadn't caused him to think he could boss around my eating > habits, lol. He isn't the first man to say something similar, either. I once > dated a man who poked me in the arm one day and said, "a man wants to feel a > little give. No fun hitting bone right away." LOL> > > > Visit my blog! www..jenny-fair. blogspot. com> ************ **A Good Credit Score is 700 or Above. See yours in just 2 easy > steps! > (http://pr.atwola. com/promoclk/ 100126575x122284 6709x1201493018/ aol?redir= http://www. freecreditreport .com/pm/default. aspx?sc=668072 & hmpgID=115 & bcd> =JulystepsfooterNO1 15)> Yahoo! Canada Toolbar : Search from anywhere on the web and bookmark your favourite sites. Download it now! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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