Re: stress eating and changes

[Guest guest]

Cecilia:

WOW! You are doing the hard work now. Congratulations! I don't

mean this in a condescending way, but your words remind me of my

thought processes when I was starting out.

And if it's any comfort, that work that I did (mental stuff,

planning, soul searching) paid off big time. I finally realized that

this whole process is not about food manipulation (diet mentality)

because the food is just a part of the whole process. I realized

early on that I needed to deal with the fears that kept me from

reaching for hope and success.

I can tell that you " get " it. You are making some very important

insights into your issues, issues that we all share here. I now know

that if my mind and heart are not in the right place, I can't make

the right choices: to exercise 6 days a week and to follow my food

plan. I need to work just as much--actually even more--on my

internal dialogues as I do my sit ups. I have to be ever mindful and

not slip into autopilot mode. Kaiser was responsible for the

surgery, but I am responsible for my actions, my feelings, and my

reactions to challenges. I can choose to do what is right for me

(often scary and painful) or I can hide from my problems and go back

to a life half-lived. I choose the more difficult path because the

rewards are tremendously uplifting! And finally I realize that I'm

worth the hard work.

In doing so, I have found that I have a place in this world, that I

have intrinsic value and that I have something, however so small, to

contribute. If the only reward I get is feeling wonderful and free,

wow, how blessed am I?

Thanks for sharing your journey, Cecilia. You are helping us all

with your words of wisdom.

Gemello

-153 lbs / at goal

>

> I watched Dr. Phil on friday and he had carney wilson and others

who

> have had the gastric bypass or where thinking of it. I guess what

> hit me most was a young girl who had the surgery and lost the

weight

> (alot) and was eating like there was no tomorrow. She was eating

> evrything.........junk food and amount that would equal up to 4,000

> calories a day. What struck me the most and hit HARD was that he

> asked her, why she ate before. stress. what had she done before the

> surgery about stress eating? nothing. Why does she eat like that

> today? stress.

> She had done nothing about the reasons she binged. That scared me.

> I am a stress eater and i dont want that. What is the point?

>

> I think it scared me enough to figuring out my trigger points and

> what i can do TODAY to change Before i have the surgery.

>

> Before i gained all this weight i used to walk and garden and take

> classes for fun at a college. I stopped when i gained 120 lbs

> because physically its hard (two surgeries on knees/plates and

> screws) so i had figured i would use these agin as stress

releivers

> after the surgery. That WAS my rationalization. I have to change

> now. I have to make a comitment to myself and you guys

> (accountability) to find things i can turn to now instead of eating.

>

> I CAN CAN CAN AND WILL do some of the following..........play with

> my house plants....journal .......scrap book.......read......

> take a shower.......walk a few minutes at a time.......join a class

> at kaiser like thai chi...post when im nutting up.......

>

> today i make a comittment to do the following. eat 3 meals and two

> planned snacks......3-4 hrs a part all portioned. i will not eat

> sugar unless its 1 tsp in my tea. i will tale my 2 15 minutes

breaks

> and walk around the shelter (homeless where i work) and last as

long

> as i can. i will go to my mindful eating class tonight for support.

>

> i want to post my daily comittments to you guys becasue if left to

> my own devices......i eat.

> i want this to work so bad!!!!!

> I know without the mental changes..........a skinny body with the

> same thinking and dealing as my heavy body does today is crazy.

> i hope you guys are patient with my struggle.....it is necessary to

> be free in mind body and soul

>

> thank you for listening......cecilia

[Guest guest]

t I

Some people just carry their weight well, you must be one of those and so

am I. Your post, and the talk about the doctor Phil show in general,

brings up a good point. I think it is important to isolate in our own

minds what makes us eat. With me I think it is feeling bad, I know I am a

comfort eater, aside from just genetically being large. I am going to

learn to employ different behaviors when I feel bad or I will end up dead

from overweight just as my sister did. died in March of '03, from

congestive heart failure, she weighed 466 pounds, before going into the

hospital, and was 5 feet 1 inch tall. She had one of the old tummy

stappling surgeries in '85 and lost over a hundred pounds, and put much

more than that back on.

Because our family was dysfunctional and we were abused as overweight

children, both she and I have issues around food, she had them more so than

I did. Since her death, I have had to realize that my stepfather probably

murdered her with his treatment of her about food, my mother helped by not

taking any action to stop the abuse and let them get away with

it. While I have been going through all of this, with my husband out of

town because of his mother having Alzheimer's and his needing to care for

her, I have been binge eating to such a degree that my blood sugars have

zoomed and so has my weight.

Sometime around the first of the year, I asked my pcp for a referral to

gastric bypass surgery. Although he was opposed to the surgery

philosophically, he gave me the referral anyhow. Since then I have been

through one orientation class at my local Kaiser, another at the Freemont

Kaiser where my surgery will be, and I have been for my consultation with

my surgeon. I must lose about twenty more pounds and get my diabetes under

much better control, and then I will get the surgery. I am determined to

do all of that. I will not allow myself to go where did, and I won't

allow my stepfather to win! Thank you all for listening to my long

ramble, it went on longer than I thought it would. LaWanda

[Guest guest]

Hi LaWanda, I’m

glad you had a “long ramble” (even though it really wasn’t!)

It sounds like something you’ve probably needed to get off your chest for

awhile. You’ve obviously been through a lot in your life. I’m happy

that you’re able to be determined now to make your life better with the

tool of wls and you seem to have a really positive

outlook for your future. Best wishes to you!

- Lesa -

Re:

stress eating and changes

t I

Some people just carry their weight well, you must

be one of those and so

am I. Your post, and the talk about the

doctor Phil show in general,

brings up a good point. I think it is

important to isolate in our own

minds what makes us eat. With me I think it

is feeling bad, I know I am a

comfort eater, aside from just genetically being

large. I am going to

learn to employ different behaviors when I feel

bad or I will end up dead

from overweight just as my sister did.

died in March of '03, from

congestive heart failure, she weighed 466 pounds,

before going into the

hospital, and was 5 feet 1 inch tall. She

had one of the old tummy

stappling surgeries in '85 and lost over a hundred

pounds, and put much

more than that back on.

Because our family was dysfunctional and we were

abused as overweight

children, both she and I have issues around food,

she had them more so than

I did. Since her death, I have had to

realize that my stepfather probably

murdered her with his treatment of her about food,

my mother helped by not

taking any action to stop the abuse and let

them get away with

it. While I have been going through all of

this, with my husband out of

town because of his mother having Alzheimer's and

his needing to care for

her, I have been binge eating to such a degree

that my blood sugars have

zoomed and so has my weight.

Sometime around the first of the year, I asked my

pcp for a referral to

gastric bypass surgery. Although he was

opposed to the surgery

philosophically, he gave me the referral

anyhow. Since then I have been

through one orientation class at my local Kaiser,

another at the Freemont

Kaiser where my surgery will be, and I have been

for my consultation with

my surgeon. I must lose about twenty more

pounds and get my diabetes under

much better control, and then I will get the

surgery. I am determined to

do all of that. I will not allow myself to

go where did, and I won't

allow my stepfather to win! Thank you

all for listening to my long

ramble, it went on longer than I thought it

would. LaWanda

[Guest guest]

Thanks for your encouragement and support, Lesa. LaWanda At 06:06 PM

11/1/04, you wrote:

>Hi LaWanda, I'm glad you had a " long ramble " (even though it really

>wasn't!) It sounds like something you've probably needed to get off your

>chest for awhile. You've obviously been through a lot in your life. I'm

>happy that you're able to be determined now to make your life better with

>the tool of wls and you seem to have a really positive outlook for your

>future. Best wishes to you!

>

>- Lesa -

>

> Re: stress eating and

>changes

>

>t I

>Some people just carry their weight well, you must be one of those and so

>am I. Your post, and the talk about the doctor Phil show in general,

>brings up a good point. I think it is important to isolate in our own

>minds what makes us eat. With me I think it is feeling bad, I know I am a

>comfort eater, aside from just genetically being large. I am going to

>learn to employ different behaviors when I feel bad or I will end up dead

>from overweight just as my sister did. died in March of '03, from

>congestive heart failure, she weighed 466 pounds, before going into the

>hospital, and was 5 feet 1 inch tall. She had one of the old tummy

>stappling surgeries in '85 and lost over a hundred pounds, and put much

>more than that back on.

>Because our family was dysfunctional and we were abused as overweight

>children, both she and I have issues around food, she had them more so than

>I did. Since her death, I have had to realize that my stepfather probably

>murdered her with his treatment of her about food, my mother helped by not

>taking any action to stop the abuse and let them get away with

>it. While I have been going through all of this, with my husband out of

>town because of his mother having Alzheimer's and his needing to care for

>her, I have been binge eating to such a degree that my blood sugars have

>zoomed and so has my weight.

>Sometime around the first of the year, I asked my pcp for a referral to

>gastric bypass surgery. Although he was opposed to the surgery

>philosophically, he gave me the referral anyhow. Since then I have been

>through one orientation class at my local Kaiser, another at the Freemont

>Kaiser where my surgery will be, and I have been for my consultation with

>my surgeon. I must lose about twenty more pounds and get my diabetes under

>much better control, and then I will get the surgery. I am determined to

>do all of that. I will not allow myself to go where did, and I won't

>allow my stepfather to win! Thank you all for listening to my long

>ramble, it went on longer than I thought it would. LaWanda

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