Re: Started Preschool

[Guest guest]

It is very common for these kids (and all kids) to use home as the

place to release stress and regulate themselves after a new

experience. My son will walk in the door, demand a video (which he

knows he's not going to get) and throw a temper tantrum as soon as I

say " no. "

Here some ideas, hope others can provide more

- create an " unwind " routine when he comes home that includes some

sensory activities that sooth him - e.g. deep pressure, swings,

quiet music, ... and go to this right away when you walk in the door

- look and see what physical needs he might have that he can't

express because he's so wound up - hunger, sleep, thirst,...

- calmly name his feelings, " You look like you have a lot of energy

after school, should we jump? dance? " " You look tired after school,

can I rock you? "

- hang in there an stay calm - new experiences take time for all

kids to come to terms with and having you as a " calm reassuring

rock " will help them adjust quicker.

Hope this helps - we've been through a number of these experiences

because we've unfortunately had to move a number of times as my son

was coming fully into his symptoms. It also appears from time to

time as he goes through a growth spurt or is fighting a cold, etc.

so the routine you create will continue to help in the future.

Good luck - you're welcome to email me if you need any more support.

AMK - mom to Will PDDNOS 3.5

> My son began preschool this week. (I almost cried this morning,

> although he never does!) He is 3 and a half, and we really just

> prayed about it and felt it might be good for him, even though I

am a

> stay at home mom. I am at home with my 11 month old. Anyway, the

> teachers so far are saying he is doing so well. Gets along well,

> plays, etc. Then he comes home and is a complete !@##$. This

really

> frustrates me. I see so many weird and awful behaviors at home,

but

> no one else seems to see them, like at a school or sitter

setting.

> What is going on here!! I know this is common for kids but, it is

> ridiculous. He is so wild and crazy here at home, mean and

yelling,

> etc. I have tried it all, and it really bothers me. Any help or

> ideas?

>

> The ladies at the preschool are so far working very well with his

> dietary issues, which I am thankful. He came home yesterday and

was

> just laughing and said, " I ate strawberry cake and milk!!! " I

almost

> died, and asked, " Are you joking with Mommy? " and as he was

running

> and screaming and laughing, he said, " Yes! "

>

> I just want him to be happy, and school seems to help for some

> reason, but I want him to be happy at home too. He just feels

bad, I

> know, but it drives me crazy...He acts like a psychotic sometimes,

> babbling in an unknown language, bizarre stuff, and sosoooooo

> demanding. Everything is VERY hard, even worse than a few weeks

> ago. He was so much more mellow then. What's happening! Any

> guesses!

>

> Tina mom to Abraham and Micah SCD 3 months almost

>

>

> God bless you all today,

> Tina

[Guest guest]

Hi Tina,

My is on her LAST day of Junior Kindergarten today ... who can

believe it?

Let me tell you ... she could have a screaming, raving, kicking

tantrum about going to school, and then once she got there, she was

peachy-fine, and the teacher would tell me she had a GREAT day!

I think they can control themselves sometimes, and they feel safest

at home, so they let it out. You're fortunate that they are

supportive of your dietary interventions. Our school was great too.

Sue (From Pickering)

Mom to , 4.5, formerly? ASD, started SCD March '03