Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 -----Original Message----- I'm dealing with a lot of emotions over this - feeling like I've let him down because he still doesn't have a wife who is even close to normal... Let him down? Wasn’t the whole point behind his gift - that he still HAS a wife? A loving, caring woman (who loves him more than anyone else) and who is the superb mother of his child? Wasn’t that the point of his life saving gift? All this “stuff” that followed is/was out of your control anyway. Besides, he gave this wonderful gift 100% out of pure love, not looking for something in return (other than your life)….thinking that you let him down sort of diminishes that gift, that love, don’t you think? If the case was reversed, would you feel he let you down because he wasn’t “normal” yet? Nope, wouldn’t happen. Todd’s body rejected his brothers liver, but that in no way diminished the Gift, did it? gave his dad (Maureen’s Jim) the Gift of Life, do you think regrets giving that Gift now, because Jim has skin cancers? Nope. Deb, don’t worry over this one second more! You will have years & years to be a “normal wife”. Barb in Texas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Deb in VA, I'm with Barb 100% on this one! Heed her advice and don't think about it a second more. Besides you are worth far more than a liver to many, many, many people!!! Mike and Noah love you and so do we! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 Dear Deb, For some reason, I never received your original email to the group, but from Barb and 's responses, I think I have the gist of your post. I totally agree with Barb and . Do not waste one more minute fretting about this. You are certainly not at all responsible for any of the problems that you so courageously have overcome in the past year. I've told you before that you are my hero, and you continue to be. When you are feeling down and out, please remember how many of us adore you and look forward to your knowledgeable and compassionate posts. In addition to Mike and Noah, please add all of us to the list of people who love you and count on you in many ways! Ricky Re: Deb in VA > Deb in VA, > I'm with Barb 100% on this one! Heed her advice and don't think about > it a second more. Besides you are worth far more than a liver to many, > many, many people!!! Mike and Noah love you and so do we! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2006 Report Share Posted February 20, 2006 So well said, brought tears to my eyes. dee > > Let him down? Wasn't the whole point behind his gift - that he still > HAS a wife? A loving, caring woman (who loves him more than anyone > else) and who is the superb mother of his child? Wasn't that the point > of his life saving gift? All this " stuff " that followed is/was out of > your control anyway. Besides, he gave this wonderful gift 100% out of > pure love, not looking for something in return (other than your > life)..thinking that you let him down sort of diminishes that gift, that > love, don't you think? If the case was reversed, would you feel he let > you down because he wasn't " normal " yet? Nope, wouldn't happen. > > Todd's body rejected his brothers liver, but that in no way diminished > the Gift, did it? > > gave his dad (Maureen's Jim) the Gift of Life, do you think > regrets giving that Gift now, because Jim has skin cancers? Nope. > > Deb, don't worry over this one second more! You will have years & years Dee Vinovich, GRI Your Realtor for Life Traders Realty Corp. 721 W. Lake Peoria, IL 61614 dvinovich@... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 21, 2006 Report Share Posted February 21, 2006 Hi Deb I didn't see your original post either, but I wouldn't feel bad about not yet being a normal wife. I have been married 7+ years and while my wife is healthy, she is certainly not normal. This means, of course, that she is totally normal! Don't know if that makes sense which is what makes me normal too! I am sure he feels blessed to have you with him and he is not thinking less of you or that he made a mistake just because you have experienced setbacks and challenges. Back to my wife for a second, I met a lot of normal people in my life but I never wanted to marry any of them. Normal is overrated and boring. I married her because she was different and special. You are so much more appreciated by your husband than most wives are because he almost lost you. When you are finally " recovered " , your marriage will be anything but normal and that is good. in Cleveland Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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