Re: ireland ( m/c mentioned)

March 31, 2004

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I am from the U.S. but I can tell that what you are going through is

normal. I lost 3 in one year until they sent me to a RE and found my septum.

Plus until I saw her and then got the resection it was 4 months. Now 6

months after my last m/c I am able to try to conceive again. Let me tell you

DH and I are doing the baby dance with a passion.

You will fell better in time about the preg women who have babies. You will

not be a bitter person. It took me almost a year to not feel ANGRY!!! I

feel better now. You are grieving and all of your feelings are normal. Good

luck and know that things will get better I promise. - Liz

Liz

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>Reply-To: MullerianAnomalies

>To: MullerianAnomalies

>Subject: ireland ( m/c mentioned)

>Date: Wed, 31 Mar 2004 11:12:19 -0000

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March 31, 2004

Hi and Welcome!

We have several other members here from other countries (UK, Austria,

Australia, NZ...to name a few!) but I don't think that currently

there are any active members from Ireland.

I'm very sorry about your loss. It sounds like this was not your

first. It is very sad and unfair that many women are not treated

until they have suffered many losses.

Here in the US if the dr is going to do the lap/hys they usually are

prepared to resect the septum at that time if one is found. It saves

you from 2 visits to the hospital and the need to be anesthetized

twice. But I understand that it is not done that way everywhere. I

think we had a member from the UK sometime ago that mentioned she

would need 2 appts like yourself - one for the lap/hys to determine

if she was SU and the 2nd appt to resect it.

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> my patience is running thin as i am no further on 5 months after my

> misscarriage, they seem to be taking forever to organise the

> laps/hysth meanwhile everyone i know seems to be getting pregnant

and

> it is really beginning to get to me. this sounds awful but i

> sometimes feel so bitter that it is not me. i dont want to turn

into

> some bitter person who cant look at pregnant women.

Understandably so. After suffering a loss I think that many people

just want to hurry up and get better so that they can try again. I

am sorry that this is moving so slowly for you. Although I was able

to have my SU resected during my lap/hys, it was a challenge to find

a dr to do the lap/hys. It took 6 months to get that surgery done

and a month later after the resection I had an HSG only to find out

that my septum was entirely intact. I then had to seek out a 2nd dr

that would agree that the septum was still there and perform another

surgery. The utter waste of time was killing me and I too was

finding myself very sad and starting to find some social situations

unbearable. I too was afraid of becoming a bitter person.

Don't be too hard on yourself. Your feelings are very normal and

quite common around here. You will find lots of support from this

group from all over the world.

Again, welcome and I hope you find the support that you need here.

Sara

36, SU resected x2, dd 10/2/03

March 31, 2004

I am in England not Ireland but your message made me want to reply

anyway. I am also trying to get a clear diagnosis via a hysteroscopy

at the moment. I had my first miscarriage 2 years ago and since my

3rd miscarriage in December am also still no closer to that

happening - still awaiting various blood test results etc. before a

referral. The uterine abnormality seems to be a minor consideration

to the doctors and yet to me it seems an obvious big factor in my 3

miscarriages - I just want the doctors to tell me what the problem is

and what I can do about it. It is very frustrating and stressful to

have to wait and wait and wait.

As I have a 3 year old son already I spend a lot of my time around

other mums and am finding it really hard too not to be jealous of

those who just seem to fall pregnant and sail through a pregnancy - I

don't think those feelings make me a bad person just human. What is

happening to you is really difficult and I think that your feelings

about friends/other women who don't have any problem getting pregnant

is completely normal - don't feel guilty for how you're feeling.

I really hope that you get some positive news soon - sorry I can't

help with actual local information for you. It helps me to know that

other people in this group have similar situations to me and that

they have come out the other side - I hope it helps you too.

Best wishes and Good Luck

> is there anyone else on this site from ireland. most seem to be

from

> america, so i was just wondering if anyone from ireland so i could

> get names of doctors etc.

>

> i had a hysteropinogram done and the radiographer said it was a uu

> but my consultant still thinks it looked like a su when they did my

> last d+c. so i am waiting to go for lap/hyst to make it clearer.

> all on site seem to have septum resected at the same time to avoid

2

> surgerys, but it does not seem possible here.

>

> therfore if anyone is from here maybe they could let me know of any

> doctors etc who specialise in this.

>