Re: lisa r sad

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Sheila

You know it's funny when you read what someone else

has posted and it describes the same thoughts and

feelings that YOU have had...(I guess that happens

alot) but it feels good to know that someone else

really knows how you feel. If there is one ++ thing

for me since my ep, it is this group!

I know it might sound strange, but sometimes for a

moment I can actually think I am still pg and this

mess never happened. I kept my hpt too, I just

couldn't bring myself to throw it away, but haven't

been able to look at it.

I admire your ++ attitude. I know, we will all get a

chance to be a mommy one day, just not as soon as we

would like, but like I have said before, we will

definitely, appreciate it and never take it for

granted when we do.

Take care. Sending some more +++++thoughts your way.

--- SAVQ71@... wrote:

> Hi ,

>

> I know how you feel. Doesn't it sometimes seem that

> the whole world is

> spinning, yet you are standing still? You know I

> say that I want ttc in the

> summer, but in my heart I wish I was already pg. My

> baby would have been(if

> I had it on my due date) 1 year, 1 month and 1 day

> old today. When I was pg

> my dh and I said that we would try ttc when the baby

> turned 1. Now here I am

> with nothing. The pain that I feel is unbearable at

> times and the only thing

> that I have is my positive pg stick, some toys and

> things we started to pick

> up, and one heavy heart that somedays weighs a ton.

> But you know it isn't

> the person that is the fastest that wins the race,

> it is the person that

> thinks they can win that does. So even though there

> has been some set backs

> everything is gonna be ok I truly believe that now

> especially since I've

> found this board. There is alot of pgs going on

> here and before you know it

> you will be expecting again, too.

> Sheila

>

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

>

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,

Please don't cry. I know it is easier said than done. Your dh is just

thinking of your well being and he is afraid if something were to happen

again that you won't be able to handle it emotionally. Everything is gonna be

ok and even though right now he is hesitant about ttc you don't know how he

is gonna feel in May(or even sooner).

Sheila

[Guest guest]

,

Please don't cry. I know it is easier said than done. Your dh is just

thinking of your well being and he is afraid if something were to happen

again that you won't be able to handle it emotionally. Everything is gonna be

ok and even though right now he is hesitant about ttc you don't know how he

is gonna feel in May(or even sooner).

Sheila

[Guest guest]

,

Please don't cry. I know it is easier said than done. Your dh is just

thinking of your well being and he is afraid if something were to happen

again that you won't be able to handle it emotionally. Everything is gonna be

ok and even though right now he is hesitant about ttc you don't know how he

is gonna feel in May(or even sooner).

Sheila

[Guest guest]

thanks susan.. I am sure all of our little angels are playing together and

wishing that their mommies on earth weren't soooo sad.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

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,

I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I am

so sorry. Men look at these things so differently than we do. Maybe

if dh goes to a Dr. appt with you and you get your Dr. opinion that

you are ready, that will help dh see another side of this. Also, have

you told dh that you just would like to have a plan? He is probably

just afraid---he doesn't want you to go through any more pain.

I am praying for you...

Try to get some sleep and I hope tomorrow will be a better day.

Lots of {{{HUGS}}}

elle

> thanks sheila!!

>

> I like that its not the fastest one who wins the race....

>

> I am very sad tongight. Dh told me he is not ready to start ttc

anytime

> soon... that there can't be a plan to start in may... and the worse

is that

> he keeps saying , " we are not ready " " as if he knows what is inside

my

> heart and mind.........

> He thinks we weren't ready to start ttc the 2nd time(looking back on

it now)

> because on the way to the hospital and at the hospital I just kept

saying

> over and over that I couldn't go through this again... and he keeps

using

> that against me....

>

> My heart is breaking yet again.... all I wanted was a

plan....nothing

> definite, just something to look forward to.... can't stop crying..

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

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,

I wish there was something I could say to make you feel better. I am

so sorry. Men look at these things so differently than we do. Maybe

if dh goes to a Dr. appt with you and you get your Dr. opinion that

you are ready, that will help dh see another side of this. Also, have

you told dh that you just would like to have a plan? He is probably

just afraid---he doesn't want you to go through any more pain.

I am praying for you...

Try to get some sleep and I hope tomorrow will be a better day.

Lots of {{{HUGS}}}

elle

> thanks sheila!!

>

> I like that its not the fastest one who wins the race....

>

> I am very sad tongight. Dh told me he is not ready to start ttc

anytime

> soon... that there can't be a plan to start in may... and the worse

is that

> he keeps saying , " we are not ready " " as if he knows what is inside

my

> heart and mind.........

> He thinks we weren't ready to start ttc the 2nd time(looking back on

it now)

> because on the way to the hospital and at the hospital I just kept

saying

> over and over that I couldn't go through this again... and he keeps

using

> that against me....

>

> My heart is breaking yet again.... all I wanted was a

plan....nothing

> definite, just something to look forward to.... can't stop crying..

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

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I am so sorry to hear that you are so sad. I understand wanting to at least

have the thought of a possible plan, even if it's not time for it yet. I'm

sure you know that your dh is thinking of how painful all of this has been

for you and can't stand to see you take a chance of being hurt further (or

him, too) but that wouldn't make me any less upset than you are now. He

will come around. It is hard when we are at different points than our

partner's when dealing with this. If only we could both feel the same kinds

of things at the same time it would be easier. Just keep letting him know

how you feel and that you respect his feelings, too, and hope the compromise

(well, not really a compromise, but you know what I mean) comes a little

sooner than he thinks. Hugs to you.

Maggie

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I am so sorry to hear that you are so sad. I understand wanting to at least

have the thought of a possible plan, even if it's not time for it yet. I'm

sure you know that your dh is thinking of how painful all of this has been

for you and can't stand to see you take a chance of being hurt further (or

him, too) but that wouldn't make me any less upset than you are now. He

will come around. It is hard when we are at different points than our

partner's when dealing with this. If only we could both feel the same kinds

of things at the same time it would be easier. Just keep letting him know

how you feel and that you respect his feelings, too, and hope the compromise

(well, not really a compromise, but you know what I mean) comes a little

sooner than he thinks. Hugs to you.

Maggie

[Guest guest]

(())

I am so sorry to hear that you are so sad. I understand wanting to at least

have the thought of a possible plan, even if it's not time for it yet. I'm

sure you know that your dh is thinking of how painful all of this has been

for you and can't stand to see you take a chance of being hurt further (or

him, too) but that wouldn't make me any less upset than you are now. He

will come around. It is hard when we are at different points than our

partner's when dealing with this. If only we could both feel the same kinds

of things at the same time it would be easier. Just keep letting him know

how you feel and that you respect his feelings, too, and hope the compromise

(well, not really a compromise, but you know what I mean) comes a little

sooner than he thinks. Hugs to you.

Maggie

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-- ok, here is my advice ... a big ol' ice cream sundae ... you know i

am proof that it works! hang in there sweetie ... i'm thinking about you!

courtney

[Guest guest]

r, I am so sorry you probally feel so stuck. Heath still dosen't have a job

and things are moving so slow that I get frustated too, I want to be ttc all the

time and to get on with our lives but he dosen't really seem to understand my

need to get preg. and I feel stuck. Have you really told dh how you feel? I hope

you are having a better day. If you need to vent then vent or if you need

anything just let me know.----Keri

>

> thanks sheila!!

>

> I like that its not the fastest one who wins the race....

>

> I am very sad tongight. Dh told me he is not ready to start ttc anytime

> soon... that there can't be a plan to start in may... and the worse is that

> he keeps saying , " we are not ready " " as if he knows what is inside my

> heart and mind.........

> He thinks we weren't ready to start ttc the 2nd time(looking back on it now)

> because on the way to the hospital and at the hospital I just kept saying

> over and over that I couldn't go through this again... and he keeps using

> that against me....

>

> My heart is breaking yet again.... all I wanted was a plan....nothing

> definite, just something to look forward to.... can't stop crying..

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

>

>

>

>

>

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R

I know it is so hard sometimes. There has been times

where I have asked myself how my dh can handle things

so differently. (it can be very fustrating) I know my

dh did say before that it was hard watching me go

through the pain (physical and emotional) and there

was nothing he could do to make it better. Maybe your

dh is scared for both of you. I think it would be a

good idea if you both could go to dr. together and let

him hear for himself that you are able to ttc. Honey,

I know it is so hard, all you want is to ttc and when

you decide you are mentally ready, you don't want to

hear someone tell you " let's wait. " I wish I could

make you feel better, but dh will come around. I am

sorry, ...I want you to feel better...

((((((hug))))))

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[Guest guest]

thanks .. I couldn't do it without all of you!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

thanks .. I couldn't do it without all of you!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

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Thanks Maggie!!

You wrote exactly how I felt and clarified it all for me!!

Thanks for understanding me and making me feel less crazy!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Maggie!!

You wrote exactly how I felt and clarified it all for me!!

Thanks for understanding me and making me feel less crazy!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Maggie!!

You wrote exactly how I felt and clarified it all for me!!

Thanks for understanding me and making me feel less crazy!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Sheila...

it's amazing how when you all right to me, I can actually feel the love

througth the screen... what a gift to be blessed to have you all as my

friends....

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

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Thanks Sheila...

it's amazing how when you all right to me, I can actually feel the love

througth the screen... what a gift to be blessed to have you all as my

friends....

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Keri..

I know the feelings of being stuck and frustration will not last forever,

they just feel like it!!

I am praying that Heath finds a job soon.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Keri..

I know the feelings of being stuck and frustration will not last forever,

they just feel like it!!

I am praying that Heath finds a job soon.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

Thanks Keri..

I know the feelings of being stuck and frustration will not last forever,

they just feel like it!!

I am praying that Heath finds a job soon.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

[Guest guest]

thanks susan, the hugs helped!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

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thanks susan, the hugs helped!!

lisa r

T.T.F.N.