Re: Hi all....new to the group!!......(my story)

March 7, 2001

Welcome, Cary. I am sorry that you had to find us, but glad that you did.

My ep was on October 24, 2000, and I also lost one tube and had surgery on

the other. I was given the same grim prognosis as you were, but yet we have

decided to try it and see if it can work as it sometimes does before moving

on to more expensive methods. No matter what you decide, you will find

support here. Take the time you have off from work to heal as much as you

can.

Maggie

March 7, 2001

Welcome, Cary. I am sorry that you had to find us, but glad that you did.

My ep was on October 24, 2000, and I also lost one tube and had surgery on

the other. I was given the same grim prognosis as you were, but yet we have

decided to try it and see if it can work as it sometimes does before moving

on to more expensive methods. No matter what you decide, you will find

support here. Take the time you have off from work to heal as much as you

can.

Maggie

March 7, 2001

Welcome, Cary. I am sorry that you had to find us, but glad that you did.

My ep was on October 24, 2000, and I also lost one tube and had surgery on

the other. I was given the same grim prognosis as you were, but yet we have

decided to try it and see if it can work as it sometimes does before moving

on to more expensive methods. No matter what you decide, you will find

support here. Take the time you have off from work to heal as much as you

can.

Maggie

March 7, 2001

Cary,

I'm extremely sorry that you've had to experience the loss of a

baby. You have found a group of very wonderfully caring people. I

hope that we will be able to help you while you are finding your

feelings. Don't be surprised if they change on a moment's notice

from mad to sad to oh, anything else you can think of. It's very

very normal. There are a couple women here that have just recently

been through IVF (successfully!) so they should be able to provide

you with some great insights on what you should expect. I think the

amount that your insurance covers is great! Alot of them don't cover

anything at all. Good luck with the wedding plans!! (there are a

couple of other women planning weddings here too).

Post whenever you want to and don't worry about how long it is, just

say what you want to say.

-AmyR

March 7, 2001

Hi Cary,

Welcome to the group--I'm sorry to hear your story, but I'm so glad

you found us. I think you'll find this group to be a tremendous

source of support. It is for me.

Your story sounds similar to mine in that on my first U/S they saw

two sacs in my uterus. One week later, there were no sacs and then

they saw the ep in my tube. From twins to nothing--uggh. I was

treated with a drug called metho, which led to a whole different set

of complications. I'm so sorry to hear you lost a tube, and that

there was scarring evident.

The good news is that there are women in this group that have no

tubes, and they had very good luck with IVF. I guess, in an ironic

sort of way, it is good that you know what you are dealing with.

Although my ep was last September, I'm still in the state where I

don't know what the heck is going on, but I'll be finding out soon.

Feel free to ask us anything,

March 7, 2001

Hi Cary,

Welcome to the group--I'm sorry to hear your story, but I'm so glad

you found us. I think you'll find this group to be a tremendous

source of support. It is for me.

Your story sounds similar to mine in that on my first U/S they saw

two sacs in my uterus. One week later, there were no sacs and then

they saw the ep in my tube. From twins to nothing--uggh. I was

treated with a drug called metho, which led to a whole different set

of complications. I'm so sorry to hear you lost a tube, and that

there was scarring evident.

The good news is that there are women in this group that have no

tubes, and they had very good luck with IVF. I guess, in an ironic

sort of way, it is good that you know what you are dealing with.

Although my ep was last September, I'm still in the state where I

don't know what the heck is going on, but I'll be finding out soon.

Feel free to ask us anything,

March 7, 2001

Hi Cary,

Welcome to the group--I'm sorry to hear your story, but I'm so glad

you found us. I think you'll find this group to be a tremendous

source of support. It is for me.

Your story sounds similar to mine in that on my first U/S they saw

two sacs in my uterus. One week later, there were no sacs and then

they saw the ep in my tube. From twins to nothing--uggh. I was

treated with a drug called metho, which led to a whole different set

of complications. I'm so sorry to hear you lost a tube, and that

there was scarring evident.

The good news is that there are women in this group that have no

tubes, and they had very good luck with IVF. I guess, in an ironic

sort of way, it is good that you know what you are dealing with.

Although my ep was last September, I'm still in the state where I

don't know what the heck is going on, but I'll be finding out soon.

Feel free to ask us anything,

March 7, 2001

Cary

I had an ep 8/99. I soon went to an RE who said I had tubal disease.

I had lap surgery 6/00 to try and open my tubes. We did a couple of

IUI's w/meds that was unsuccessful. In 01/01 we did our first IVF. It

was successfull. My IVF was all out of pocket except meds. The meds

can be expensive depending how much you need. Mine was about $3000.00-

$4,000.00. just did IVF and she was on double the meds I was on

so hers was more. I order mine through a fertility drug store that my

RE office uses. They are a little cheaper than if you order them

through a regular pharmacy.

Pam

March 7, 2001

Cary,

I'm so sorry for your loss. You sound like you have a great guy who's very

supportive, and a very sweet little boy. I had lap surgery on 12/7/00 and

had both tubes removed (right damaged from the pregnancy, left disformed due

to DES exposure). We started IVF late January, and last week I found out

that I am pregnant. I know it seems like a lifetime from now, but you can

be pregnant just as easily. As my doctor says, you don't need fallopian

tubes to have a baby!

If you need to talk, you can email me directly marriaaa@...

{{{{ hugs }}}

maria

March 7, 2001

Cary,

I'm so sorry for your loss. You sound like you have a great guy who's very

supportive, and a very sweet little boy. I had lap surgery on 12/7/00 and

had both tubes removed (right damaged from the pregnancy, left disformed due

to DES exposure). We started IVF late January, and last week I found out

that I am pregnant. I know it seems like a lifetime from now, but you can

be pregnant just as easily. As my doctor says, you don't need fallopian

tubes to have a baby!

If you need to talk, you can email me directly marriaaa@...

{{{{ hugs }}}

maria

March 7, 2001

Cary,

I'm so sorry for your loss. You sound like you have a great guy who's very

supportive, and a very sweet little boy. I had lap surgery on 12/7/00 and

had both tubes removed (right damaged from the pregnancy, left disformed due

to DES exposure). We started IVF late January, and last week I found out

that I am pregnant. I know it seems like a lifetime from now, but you can

be pregnant just as easily. As my doctor says, you don't need fallopian

tubes to have a baby!

If you need to talk, you can email me directly marriaaa@...

{{{{ hugs }}}

maria

March 7, 2001

Cary

Welcome to the group. I found this wonderful place

not long ago myself and it has helped me a great deal.

I found out I was pg (our 1st try) in the beginning

of Nov. by the beginning of Dec. I was dx with having

a ep and my dr gave me metho inj. after she did the

1st b/w to check the stat I ended up in the ER one

night, it had ruptured and I needed my rt tube

removed! It was so hard to comprehend because it all

happened so fast, but you know that. I have had

problems with my bladder ever since the surgery, went

to several dr and I think I finally found a urologist

who is helping me. (crossing my fingers) He said

sometimes after a rupture there is alot of blood in

the abd that has no place to go until it gets

reabsorbed back into the body and it can put pressure

on the bladder and make one feel like they have to go

allll the time!! (haven't heard anyone else having

this problem after ep, I guess I was just lucky! lol!)

Now I am waiting to hopefully finally schedule my hsg

soon. Anyway, it has been really hard to get ahold of

my feeling sometimes. I would be ok one minute and

than feel angry, mad, sad...and seeing other pg people

and babies well, I am still trying to work through

that. I think finding this caring women has been the

best thing for me! My dh, family and friend all have

been supportive but they just don't understand! Many

seem to think that since it was " awhile " ago that I

have moved on. They don't seem to really understand

that I lost our baby.

I am sorry for your loss and I hope you will find

comfort and some helpful knowledge here. Like I said

these women are very supportive and there are some

amazing stories here. I am very slowly, finding out

that there is hope after an ep through these great

people. I am glad your dp is supportive. I know it is

must be hard to put your heart into planning the

wedding, but I hope you try to enjoy.

(sorry, sometimes I get carried away typing)

--- Cary wrote:

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March 7, 2001

Cary,

welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You will find wonderful support

here. Lots of woman here have done IVF and are now pg!! You sound sooo

positive, you are amazing.

Keeping you in my prayers and have fun planning your wedding.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

March 7, 2001

Cary,

welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You will find wonderful support

here. Lots of woman here have done IVF and are now pg!! You sound sooo

positive, you are amazing.

Keeping you in my prayers and have fun planning your wedding.

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

March 7, 2001

Thanks .....I'm looking forward to reading through the message

board (past & present). I've begun but WOW there's so much....it's

quite overwhelming, but so wonderful for me during this time. I feel

sharing these stories is such a great healer not to mention an

educational experience for all of us! Each of you are inspirational!!

> Cary,

> welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You will find wonderful

support

> here. Lots of woman here have done IVF and are now pg!! You sound

sooo

> positive, you are amazing.

>

> Keeping you in my prayers and have fun planning your wedding.

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

March 7, 2001

Thanks .....I'm looking forward to reading through the message

board (past & present). I've begun but WOW there's so much....it's

quite overwhelming, but so wonderful for me during this time. I feel

sharing these stories is such a great healer not to mention an

educational experience for all of us! Each of you are inspirational!!

> Cary,

> welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You will find wonderful

support

> here. Lots of woman here have done IVF and are now pg!! You sound

sooo

> positive, you are amazing.

>

> Keeping you in my prayers and have fun planning your wedding.

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

March 7, 2001

Thanks .....I'm looking forward to reading through the message

board (past & present). I've begun but WOW there's so much....it's

quite overwhelming, but so wonderful for me during this time. I feel

sharing these stories is such a great healer not to mention an

educational experience for all of us! Each of you are inspirational!!

> Cary,

> welcome and I am so sorry for your loss. You will find wonderful

support

> here. Lots of woman here have done IVF and are now pg!! You sound

sooo

> positive, you are amazing.

>

> Keeping you in my prayers and have fun planning your wedding.

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

March 7, 2001

Welcome to the group Cary! I'm sorry you had to find us, but you

couldn't find a more supportive group of women. IVF has had some great

successes around here and it sounds like you have a very supportive

soon-to-be dh to help you make those decsisions. In the meantime, if

you need to talk about any of the emotions that go with an ep, just

post - there's always someone around here who knows exactly how you're

feeling. Good luck to you.

Dominique

March 7, 2001

Welcome to the group Cary! I'm sorry you had to find us, but you

couldn't find a more supportive group of women. IVF has had some great

successes around here and it sounds like you have a very supportive

soon-to-be dh to help you make those decsisions. In the meantime, if

you need to talk about any of the emotions that go with an ep, just

post - there's always someone around here who knows exactly how you're

feeling. Good luck to you.

Dominique

March 7, 2001

Thank you Dominique!! I'm very excited to have found you all! In

fact I couldn't even sleep...kept thinking about my new discovery

(YOU ALL) and had to come sign on!! Once again thanks for the warm

welcome!!

Cary

> Welcome to the group Cary! I'm sorry you had to find us, but you

> couldn't find a more supportive group of women. IVF has had some

great

> successes around here and it sounds like you have a very supportive

> soon-to-be dh to help you make those decsisions. In the meantime,

if

> you need to talk about any of the emotions that go with an ep, just

> post - there's always someone around here who knows exactly how

you're

> feeling. Good luck to you.

>

> Dominique

March 7, 2001

Thank you Dominique!! I'm very excited to have found you all! In

fact I couldn't even sleep...kept thinking about my new discovery

(YOU ALL) and had to come sign on!! Once again thanks for the warm

welcome!!

Cary

> Welcome to the group Cary! I'm sorry you had to find us, but you

> couldn't find a more supportive group of women. IVF has had some

great

> successes around here and it sounds like you have a very supportive

> soon-to-be dh to help you make those decsisions. In the meantime,

if

> you need to talk about any of the emotions that go with an ep, just

> post - there's always someone around here who knows exactly how

you're

> feeling. Good luck to you.

>

> Dominique

March 8, 2001

Hi Cary,

I am very sorry for your loss, but am very happy you found this group. I had

surgery for my EP on Jan. 4, and I, too joined the group a week after. The

girls have been a tremendous help to me in the last 9 or so weeks, and while

I am not completely healed emotionally, I do owe a lot of where I am now to

the group. Unfortunately, things will continue to sink in and you will have

plenty of time to think about your future options in the next few weeks.

Don't hesitate to bring up any questions to the group to help you along the

way, and if you need to vent to us, believe me - the girls are great at

helping with that too!

I had a great time planning my wedding, which will be a year ago next month,

and I wish you and your fiance the best.

Jen

March 8, 2001