Re: Privacy Issue

July 13, 2000

Hum...I would get upset if it were me. I don't even breastfeed in front of

ANY of my IL's and not in front of any MALES except my DH. I did however

breastfeed in a restaurant for the first time the other night out of

desperation but used the car seat as a block from people's view. I think it

is personal thing and it should be up to you when and where you want to

feed. I know it is easier to say 'just blow her off' and do your own thing

than to actually do it...but my best wishes to you!!

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July 13, 2000

Hum...I would get upset if it were me. I don't even breastfeed in front of

ANY of my IL's and not in front of any MALES except my DH. I did however

breastfeed in a restaurant for the first time the other night out of

desperation but used the car seat as a block from people's view. I think it

is personal thing and it should be up to you when and where you want to

feed. I know it is easier to say 'just blow her off' and do your own thing

than to actually do it...but my best wishes to you!!

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July 13, 2000

Hum...I would get upset if it were me. I don't even breastfeed in front of

ANY of my IL's and not in front of any MALES except my DH. I did however

breastfeed in a restaurant for the first time the other night out of

desperation but used the car seat as a block from people's view. I think it

is personal thing and it should be up to you when and where you want to

feed. I know it is easier to say 'just blow her off' and do your own thing

than to actually do it...but my best wishes to you!!

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July 13, 2000

> ,i am a chubby lady and i really dont have a wonderful

> body image i just feel as if she is trying to humiliate me because

> she will always say these comments in front of others kind of putting

> me on the spot.

My MIL makes comments to about me not bf around them. I just don't feel

comfortable around them. I get the weight comments too. She will buy me a

shirt in a small and make some comment about me one day fitting into it (I

have no plans on wearing a small) or ask when will I loose my pg weight (I've

lost it already -- In fact, I am looking good). Hang in there and let her

comments disappear into empty air.

July 13, 2000

> ,i am a chubby lady and i really dont have a wonderful

> body image i just feel as if she is trying to humiliate me because

> she will always say these comments in front of others kind of putting

> me on the spot.

My MIL makes comments to about me not bf around them. I just don't feel

comfortable around them. I get the weight comments too. She will buy me a

shirt in a small and make some comment about me one day fitting into it (I

have no plans on wearing a small) or ask when will I loose my pg weight (I've

lost it already -- In fact, I am looking good). Hang in there and let her

comments disappear into empty air.

July 13, 2000

You have every right to be as modest as you choose. It sounds like she is

trying to put you down.

Perhaps, depending on your relationship, you counter her " joking " with your

own " joking " about how not everyone feels as free as she does (in a tone

which implies that her attitude is inappropriate).

Or suggest that it would be ok if she were to flash the neighbors to

distract them during the time you are nursing.

Or you could just be nice about it and say that despite the experiences of

labor and delivery you retained some sense of modesty, then head inside.

HTH

Lynn

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July 13, 2000

You have every right to be as modest as you choose. It sounds like she is

trying to put you down.

Perhaps, depending on your relationship, you counter her " joking " with your

own " joking " about how not everyone feels as free as she does (in a tone

which implies that her attitude is inappropriate).

Or suggest that it would be ok if she were to flash the neighbors to

distract them during the time you are nursing.

Or you could just be nice about it and say that despite the experiences of

labor and delivery you retained some sense of modesty, then head inside.

HTH

Lynn

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July 13, 2000

You have every right to be as modest as you choose. It sounds like she is

trying to put you down.

Perhaps, depending on your relationship, you counter her " joking " with your

own " joking " about how not everyone feels as free as she does (in a tone

which implies that her attitude is inappropriate).

Or suggest that it would be ok if she were to flash the neighbors to

distract them during the time you are nursing.

Or you could just be nice about it and say that despite the experiences of

labor and delivery you retained some sense of modesty, then head inside.

HTH

Lynn

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July 13, 2000

You know, I am like you. I sure as heck don't mind others bf'ing in public, I just am not real comfortable with it myself.

Just go with what you feel. And learn how to ignore your mil real good:o)

And for me..."public" is different. I mean with my family, I'm not too uncomfortable...but around many other people I am.

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July 13, 2000

You know, I am like you. I sure as heck don't mind others bf'ing in public, I just am not real comfortable with it myself.

Just go with what you feel. And learn how to ignore your mil real good:o)

And for me..."public" is different. I mean with my family, I'm not too uncomfortable...but around many other people I am.

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July 13, 2000

Hi ,

I am with you. I would ignore the woman myself. I don't

breastfeed in public. I only do it in front of close family out of

necessity and only then in front of certain family. I find it hard to

latch on without a blanket and nearly impossible with a blanket

draped. I won't just " whip it out " except in front of my mom and

sisters and husband. My mom has actually been helpful.

> I have a issue with my breastfeeding privacy that is probley not the

> " norm " ,my step mom expects me to whip out my breast wherever we may

> be!!we were at a 4th of july gathering and literally over a thousand

> people were gathered and she made fun of me because i wouldnt bf in

> public.And whenever we go to visit which is at least once a week we

> eat dinner outdoors and there are a few houses surrounding thiers with

> others eating outside as well and she makes fun of me because i go

> inside to feed the baby. i dont know wiether i am being self consious

> or she is pushing me ,i have no problem with women who bf publically i

> just dont feel comfortable and i have told her i dont feel comfortable

> and she just laughs at me ,i am a chubby lady and i really dont have a

> wonderful body image i just feel as if she is trying to humiliate me

> because she will always say these comments in front of others kind of

> putting me on the spot.

Carla Zorko, carladee@...

Adam Dean Zorko (DOB: 5-9-00)

http://home.earthlink.net/~gzorko

July 13, 2000

,

I think your mom should respect you limits of comfort. If she wants you to

bf in public, that's fine, but if aren't comfortable with it, she shouldn't

push you. After all, it's not her breasts and body that are being exposed

in public. I don't think it's anyone's business but yours.

Tina

Mommy to Blake

born 4-2-00

visit Blake's web site at http://www.growthspurts.com/view.asp?s=20969

July 13, 2000

,

I think your mom should respect you limits of comfort. If she wants you to

bf in public, that's fine, but if aren't comfortable with it, she shouldn't

push you. After all, it's not her breasts and body that are being exposed

in public. I don't think it's anyone's business but yours.

Tina

Mommy to Blake

born 4-2-00

visit Blake's web site at http://www.growthspurts.com/view.asp?s=20969

July 13, 2000

>From: BibleKitty@...

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>To: breastfeedingegroups

>Subject: Re: privacy issue

>Date: Thu, 13 Jul 2000 11:10:52 EDT

>

> > ,i am a chubby lady and i really dont have a wonderful

> > body image i just feel as if she is trying to humiliate me because

> > she will always say these comments in front of others kind of putting

> > me on the spot.

>My MIL makes comments to about me not bf around them. I just don't feel

>comfortable around them. I get the weight comments too. She will buy me a

>shirt in a small and make some comment about me one day fitting into it (I

>have no plans on wearing a small) or ask when will I loose my pg weight

>(I've

>lost it already -- In fact, I am looking good). Hang in there and let her

>comments disappear into empty air.

wow you mil sounds like a doozy!!!!

my stepmom is a bit sarcastic and a know it all so i basically just have to

listen to it because whenever i have tryed to say anything to her she gets

defensive and nobodys opinions are correct compaired to her's and if you

have different view points she thinks you are the weird one!!!and guess

what...i will be moving back in with her and my dad in 2 months with my

kids!!!!!!and her views on raising children are so different than mine.as

long as we get past those things we shall be fine,but it will be a hard 6

months in some ways and easier for us in some ,so i just have to keep my

temper under control and keep a smile and let everything go in one ear and

out the other!!

wish me luck

cindy

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July 13, 2000