Re: ep-new member- too all

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

,

Welcome to our group. I'm terribly sory for your loss, but I'm glad you

found us. This group is full of so many sweet, caring women. I hope it will

help you get through the hard times!

Again, welcome!

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

,

Welcome to our group. I'm terribly sory for your loss, but I'm glad you

found us. This group is full of so many sweet, caring women. I hope it will

help you get through the hard times!

Again, welcome!

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

,

Welcome to our group. I'm terribly sory for your loss, but I'm glad you

found us. This group is full of so many sweet, caring women. I hope it will

help you get through the hard times!

Again, welcome!

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi ,

Welcome to a great group of people that totally understands what you

are going through. Your story sounds so similar to mine. Although I

still have both tubes, one still has a mass from the ep in there.

Like you, I'm unsure of the state of my other tube, and am counting

the days until I can get an HSG. Also like you, this is my second

cycle where my period has been back to normal. So I'm waiting with

anticipation to move on to the next step (the HSG)--but my dr has

been cautiously waiting because of my mass.

It sounds like you've had a really tough year. A lot of us can join

you in saying that. Having an ep is so traumatic, and then we have

the additional worry of getting pg again and being afraid it's

another ep. It's so great to have this support group. I've found

that people can't really relate to the loss unless they've been

through it.

I've also been faced with the whole baby/pg scenario. In the 6

months I've been waiting for my HCG to get down, my best friend and

next-door neighbor have given birth. My closest coworker is due on

March 3rd--so any day now. It's really been tough watching them

progress as I've sat in limbo.

I'm glad you found this place. It'll help you a lot.

who usually talks about my feelings much.

> It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> that we even went though this at all, I guess because

> everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

> in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

> (I would of been about three months behind them)and I

> can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

> take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

> happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

> them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

> to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

> it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

> want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

> kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

> I have ever been though and like I said since

> everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

> was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

> listening. good luck to everyone out there.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

,

Welcome and I am soo sorry you had to find us... You will find unbelievable

support, understanding and compassion here, plus lots of info...

Everything you are feeling is normal... each day things will get better I

promise you.. and then there will the days that just get you.... you have to

have faith and hope.

I had an ep on 8/31/00 and lost my right tube too. It took me almost 2

years to get pg... I was almost 8 weeks pg and had to have emergency

surgery.. tube had already ruptured....

I started ttc in Nov and found out I was pg in Jan. I ended up having a m/c

and surgery again... it was 4 weeks ago today. It DOES get better...I

promise you that... and when it feels like it is not, I share here with

these wonderful women who pick me up and carry me until i can walk myself

again....From my losses, I have learned to see the positive in my life and

in all that i have today...this has given me such peace...

These past 6 months have been the hardest for me in my life, but I have also

grown soooooo much from them . I feel like I am a better person because of

this... I am finally becoming .... I truly believe that God is taking

care of me and all of you and when the time is right (not our time table!!)

we will all have babies. We are already mommies... and are blessed to have

been pg... even when it doesn't feel like it.

I am sorry if I sounded preachy... this was NOT my intent, I just wanted you

to know that it does get better...

Sorry soooo long,

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

I am sorry to hear your story. Thanks, it is nice, but

sad to hear I am not the only one feeling this way. I

feel bad because sometimes I hear about or see someone

with a baby and think how come the get to have a baby

and I didn't and than I feel bad because I don't want

to sound so mean, selfish and uncaring. I know

everyone has a right to be a parent. It is just hard.

In my heart I know things happen for a reason.

I hope things get better for you too. Thanks again

--- wrote:

> ,

> Welcome and I am soo sorry you had to find us... You

> will find unbelievable

> support, understanding and compassion here, plus

> lots of info...

>

> Everything you are feeling is normal... each day

> things will get better I

> promise you.. and then there will the days that just

> get you.... you have to

> have faith and hope.

>

> I had an ep on 8/31/00 and lost my right tube too.

> It took me almost 2

> years to get pg... I was almost 8 weeks pg and had

> to have emergency

> surgery.. tube had already ruptured....

> I started ttc in Nov and found out I was pg in Jan.

> I ended up having a m/c

> and surgery again... it was 4 weeks ago today. It

> DOES get better...I

> promise you that... and when it feels like it is

> not, I share here with

> these wonderful women who pick me up and carry me

> until i can walk myself

> again....From my losses, I have learned to see the

> positive in my life and

> in all that i have today...this has given me such

> peace...

>

> These past 6 months have been the hardest for me in

> my life, but I have also

> grown soooooo much from them . I feel like I am a

> better person because of

> this... I am finally becoming .... I truly

> believe that God is taking

> care of me and all of you and when the time is right

> (not our time table!!)

> we will all have babies. We are already mommies...

> and are blessed to have

> been pg... even when it doesn't feel like it.

> I am sorry if I sounded preachy... this was NOT my

> intent, I just wanted you

> to know that it does get better...

>

> Sorry soooo long,

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

It is hard to believe there are people out there who

know what I am going through or that your story is

similar. Thank you for sharing it with me. I will

say a pray for you too so we can get this test over

and done with. It seems like everywhere I go someone

else is pg. and it is hard. Waiting is so hard to do

sometimes....

--- franke100@... wrote:

> Hi ,

>

> Welcome to a great group of people that totally

> understands what you

> are going through. Your story sounds so similar to

> mine. Although I

> still have both tubes, one still has a mass from the

> ep in there.

> Like you, I'm unsure of the state of my other tube,

> and am counting

> the days until I can get an HSG. Also like you,

> this is my second

> cycle where my period has been back to normal. So

> I'm waiting with

> anticipation to move on to the next step (the

> HSG)--but my dr has

> been cautiously waiting because of my mass.

>

> It sounds like you've had a really tough year. A

> lot of us can join

> you in saying that. Having an ep is so traumatic,

> and then we have

> the additional worry of getting pg again and being

> afraid it's

> another ep. It's so great to have this support

> group. I've found

> that people can't really relate to the loss unless

> they've been

> through it.

>

> I've also been faced with the whole baby/pg

> scenario. In the 6

> months I've been waiting for my HCG to get down, my

> best friend and

> next-door neighbor have given birth. My closest

> coworker is due on

> March 3rd--so any day now. It's really been tough

> watching them

> progress as I've sat in limbo.

>

> I'm glad you found this place. It'll help you a

> lot.

>

> who usually talks about my feelings much.

> > It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> > that we even went though this at all, I guess

> because

> > everything happened so fast. From Happiness to

> Sorrow

> > in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> > cousins in NJ and both of their wives are

> expecting,

> > (I would of been about three months behind

> them)and I

> > can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want

> to

> > take away from their happiness but it is hard to

> be

> > happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to

> see

> > them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it

> going

> > to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think

> about

> > it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just

> cant'

> > want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have

> some

> > kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> > healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest

> things

> > I have ever been though and like I said since

> > everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like

> it

> > was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks

> for

> > listening. good luck to everyone out there.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

It is hard to believe there are people out there who

know what I am going through or that your story is

similar. Thank you for sharing it with me. I will

say a pray for you too so we can get this test over

and done with. It seems like everywhere I go someone

else is pg. and it is hard. Waiting is so hard to do

sometimes....

--- franke100@... wrote:

> Hi ,

>

> Welcome to a great group of people that totally

> understands what you

> are going through. Your story sounds so similar to

> mine. Although I

> still have both tubes, one still has a mass from the

> ep in there.

> Like you, I'm unsure of the state of my other tube,

> and am counting

> the days until I can get an HSG. Also like you,

> this is my second

> cycle where my period has been back to normal. So

> I'm waiting with

> anticipation to move on to the next step (the

> HSG)--but my dr has

> been cautiously waiting because of my mass.

>

> It sounds like you've had a really tough year. A

> lot of us can join

> you in saying that. Having an ep is so traumatic,

> and then we have

> the additional worry of getting pg again and being

> afraid it's

> another ep. It's so great to have this support

> group. I've found

> that people can't really relate to the loss unless

> they've been

> through it.

>

> I've also been faced with the whole baby/pg

> scenario. In the 6

> months I've been waiting for my HCG to get down, my

> best friend and

> next-door neighbor have given birth. My closest

> coworker is due on

> March 3rd--so any day now. It's really been tough

> watching them

> progress as I've sat in limbo.

>

> I'm glad you found this place. It'll help you a

> lot.

>

> who usually talks about my feelings much.

> > It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> > that we even went though this at all, I guess

> because

> > everything happened so fast. From Happiness to

> Sorrow

> > in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> > cousins in NJ and both of their wives are

> expecting,

> > (I would of been about three months behind

> them)and I

> > can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want

> to

> > take away from their happiness but it is hard to

> be

> > happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to

> see

> > them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it

> going

> > to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think

> about

> > it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just

> cant'

> > want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have

> some

> > kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> > healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest

> things

> > I have ever been though and like I said since

> > everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like

> it

> > was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks

> for

> > listening. good luck to everyone out there.

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Thanks for sharing your story with me, you are right,

this is a good place to be. Some people don't

understand or maybe they don't know how to talk about

it, but we lost our babies too. Maybe we were not

that far along to show or whatever but we were pg!

Sometimes I look at or hear about other people being

pg and I think why them and not me and I don't want to

be that mean, or selfish to think that why but I catch

myself. It is hard but it to make us stronger...

Thanks

--- wrote:

> ,

> Welcome and I am soo sorry you had to find us... You

> will find unbelievable

> support, understanding and compassion here, plus

> lots of info...

>

> Everything you are feeling is normal... each day

> things will get better I

> promise you.. and then there will the days that just

> get you.... you have to

> have faith and hope.

>

> I had an ep on 8/31/00 and lost my right tube too.

> It took me almost 2

> years to get pg... I was almost 8 weeks pg and had

> to have emergency

> surgery.. tube had already ruptured....

> I started ttc in Nov and found out I was pg in Jan.

> I ended up having a m/c

> and surgery again... it was 4 weeks ago today. It

> DOES get better...I

> promise you that... and when it feels like it is

> not, I share here with

> these wonderful women who pick me up and carry me

> until i can walk myself

> again....From my losses, I have learned to see the

> positive in my life and

> in all that i have today...this has given me such

> peace...

>

> These past 6 months have been the hardest for me in

> my life, but I have also

> grown soooooo much from them . I feel like I am a

> better person because of

> this... I am finally becoming .... I truly

> believe that God is taking

> care of me and all of you and when the time is right

> (not our time table!!)

> we will all have babies. We are already mommies...

> and are blessed to have

> been pg... even when it doesn't feel like it.

> I am sorry if I sounded preachy... this was NOT my

> intent, I just wanted you

> to know that it does get better...

>

> Sorry soooo long,

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome. I had an ep on October 24th and had my right tube

removed as well. They also did surgery on the left one because it was

damaged also. I understand doing OK and then falling apart. It's normal,

even if it is not at all easy. There are a lot of great women in this group

that have been supportive in just the past week or so that I have actually

been participating. I hope that you will find some comfort here.

Maggie

ep-new member- too all

Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

able to the end of March....

I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

that we even went though this at all, I guess because

everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

(I would of been about three months behind them)and I

can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

I have ever been though and like I said since

everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

listening. good luck to everyone out there.

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome. I had an ep on October 24th and had my right tube

removed as well. They also did surgery on the left one because it was

damaged also. I understand doing OK and then falling apart. It's normal,

even if it is not at all easy. There are a lot of great women in this group

that have been supportive in just the past week or so that I have actually

been participating. I hope that you will find some comfort here.

Maggie

ep-new member- too all

Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

able to the end of March....

I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

that we even went though this at all, I guess because

everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

(I would of been about three months behind them)and I

can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

I have ever been though and like I said since

everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

listening. good luck to everyone out there.

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome. I had an ep on October 24th and had my right tube

removed as well. They also did surgery on the left one because it was

damaged also. I understand doing OK and then falling apart. It's normal,

even if it is not at all easy. There are a lot of great women in this group

that have been supportive in just the past week or so that I have actually

been participating. I hope that you will find some comfort here.

Maggie

ep-new member- too all

Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

able to the end of March....

I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

that we even went though this at all, I guess because

everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

(I would of been about three months behind them)and I

can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

I have ever been though and like I said since

everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

listening. good luck to everyone out there.

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

susan,

i know what you mean... how come some get pg soo easily, even when they are

Not trying, and others' like us have such a hard time?? My dh says its'

because God is searching for the perfect soul for us ....

lisa r

T.T.F.N.

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

I like that answer....

--- wrote:

> susan,

> i know what you mean... how come some get pg soo

> easily, even when they are

> Not trying, and others' like us have such a hard

> time?? My dh says its'

> because God is searching for the perfect soul for us

> ....

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

I like that answer....

--- wrote:

> susan,

> i know what you mean... how come some get pg soo

> easily, even when they are

> Not trying, and others' like us have such a hard

> time?? My dh says its'

> because God is searching for the perfect soul for us

> ....

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

I like that answer....

--- wrote:

> susan,

> i know what you mean... how come some get pg soo

> easily, even when they are

> Not trying, and others' like us have such a hard

> time?? My dh says its'

> because God is searching for the perfect soul for us

> ....

>

> lisa r

> T.T.F.N.

>

__________________________________________________

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome!

I have also recently joined the group and the support I already got

out of it is wonderfull. You will feel at home in no time!

I am sorry to hear about your loss ... hang in there, we are here for

you!

Love,

Saskia

mom of two angels Stefaan and

http://www.geocities.com/svaneyge

> Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

> is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

> right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

> married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

> Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

> knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

> hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

> cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

> for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

> 10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

> emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

> problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

> all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

> but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

> urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

> doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

> Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

> get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

> tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

> for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

> this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

> want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

> able to the end of March....

> I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

> doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

> I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

> I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

> It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> that we even went though this at all, I guess because

> everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

> in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

> (I would of been about three months behind them)and I

> can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

> take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

> happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

> them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

> to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

> it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

> want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

> kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

> I have ever been though and like I said since

> everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

> was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

> listening. good luck to everyone out there.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome!

I have also recently joined the group and the support I already got

out of it is wonderfull. You will feel at home in no time!

I am sorry to hear about your loss ... hang in there, we are here for

you!

Love,

Saskia

mom of two angels Stefaan and

http://www.geocities.com/svaneyge

> Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

> is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

> right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

> married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

> Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

> knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

> hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

> cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

> for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

> 10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

> emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

> problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

> all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

> but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

> urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

> doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

> Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

> get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

> tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

> for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

> this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

> want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

> able to the end of March....

> I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

> doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

> I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

> I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

> It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> that we even went though this at all, I guess because

> everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

> in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

> (I would of been about three months behind them)and I

> can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

> take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

> happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

> them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

> to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

> it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

> want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

> kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

> I have ever been though and like I said since

> everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

> was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

> listening. good luck to everyone out there.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

Hi and welcome!

I have also recently joined the group and the support I already got

out of it is wonderfull. You will feel at home in no time!

I am sorry to hear about your loss ... hang in there, we are here for

you!

Love,

Saskia

mom of two angels Stefaan and

http://www.geocities.com/svaneyge

> Hello all- I just recently joined the group and this

> is my first time posting...I hope that I am doing this

> right...My dh and I have been together almost 7 years,

> married for almost 2 1/2. Back in the beginning of

> Nov 00, I found out I was pg. about 3 weeks along. I

> knew I was right away, hot flashes, nauseated,

> hungry... Unfortunately, by the end of Nov I had

> cramps and bleeding and on Dec 4 I had the injection

> for an ep but ended up with emergency surgery on the

> 10th and had to remove my rt tube. Not to mention the

> emotional end, right after the surgery I began to have

> problems with my bladder (I felt like I had to urinate

> all the time) Everyone first thought it was a UTI,

> but after all kinds of meds and 5 drs later, I seen a

> urologist in the beginning of Feb and but on med and

> doing better. (just want I needed on top of the loss)

> Anyway, I go back to him on March 5th and am hoping to

> get clearance so that I can do the hsg for the other

> tube. My OB doesn't want to do it until I get cleared

> for the UA problem, which is driving me crazy since

> this is the 2nd month I got Aunt Flo back and just

> want to get the test over with. SO I am hoping to be

> able to the end of March....

> I am not sure how I feel. Sometimes I think I am

> doing ok but other times I see a baby or something and

> I get this overwhelming feeling of sadness or angry.

> I am not one who usually talks about my feelings much.

> It has been hard, sometimes it is hard to imagine

> that we even went though this at all, I guess because

> everything happened so fast. From Happiness to Sorrow

> in such a short time I don't know. My dh has two

> cousins in NJ and both of their wives are expecting,

> (I would of been about three months behind them)and I

> can't bring myself to talk to them. I don't want to

> take away from their happiness but it is hard to be

> happy. (luckily we live in FL so I don't have to see

> them for awhile) I know the visit time we do it going

> to be extremely hard, but I don't want to think about

> it yet. I did to get through my stuff. I just cant'

> want to get the hsg done, so at least I will have some

> kind of piece of mind that at least one tube in

> healthy. This is definitely one of the hardest things

> I have ever been though and like I said since

> everything happened so fast sometimes I feel like it

> was all a dream turned into a nightmare.... thanks for

> listening. good luck to everyone out there.

>

> __________________________________________________

>

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

- I am so sorry for your loss and all of the related troubles and

heartache ... I had an ep in july of 99 and another just a week and a half

ago ... beleife it gets easier but the memory will always be with you ...

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

- I am so sorry for your loss and all of the related troubles and

heartache ... I had an ep in july of 99 and another just a week and a half

ago ... beleife it gets easier but the memory will always be with you ...

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

- I am so sorry for your loss and all of the related troubles and

heartache ... I had an ep in july of 99 and another just a week and a half

ago ... beleife it gets easier but the memory will always be with you ...

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001

,

I am sorry for your loss. I am glad to know that you have found the

wonderful group of people though. They are extremely knowledgable

and very caring. Your emotions will probably jump from one to the

next for awhile, but with time it will eventually get better. I

think one of the hardest things is to have to see other pg people and

babies. It is especially hard if you know the people and you can

compare how far you should have been compared to how far they are. I

don't know if this ever gets easier, but I hope with time that it

does. One of my best friends is pg about 3 mos behind where I should

have been so I can completely understand the feelings you are

having. And you know what? It is okay to feel them. Don't ever try

to not feel what is truly in your heart, it just makes trying to heal

so much harder. That's the best advice I can give.

Ya know you said sometimes it's hard to imagine it happened.

Sometimes now when I tell my story, I almost feel like I'm talking

about somebody else. It's a really strange feeling...hard to

explain. But then on the other hand, something will trigger all

those emotions and I can feel like I am right back at the day I was

told I had to have surgery. I don't think we will ever really forget

any aspect of what has happened. It is such a traumatic thing to go

through and on top of the loss, now we all will be scared and worried

when we do become pg next time. But, there are many, many women here

that are proof positive that you can have a very healthy pg after an

ectopic.

I hope you are able to get in for the HSG next month and you get

great results to put your mind to ease about your future. Take care

of yourself.

-AmyR

Posted February 24, 2001 · February 24, 2001