Re: Mom Opting Out of Liver Resection

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

My husband died in February after about a year of illness. Colon

cancer was dxd in June, 2003. He had liver involvement as well, but

much more extensive than your mom's. He too decided against

treatment after surgery to remove the primary tumor. I think I'd

have made a different decision for myself, but I knew that I needed

to support him in whatever he decided. We brought in Hospice in

September and I know I couldn't have done it without those wonderful

people who dedicate their lives to making the last months comfortable

for people who are dying. I don't know enough about your mom's

situation to have any thoughts about her decision to opt out of the

liver resection, but it sounds like the surgeon is supporting her.

I wish you and your mom peace with her decision. If you want to know

more about hospice, there's lots of info on the web. Just

put " Hospice " into the search engine.

Maeve

> Even if there is only one liver nodule, mom has decided not to go

> through with the surgery. Actually, she had decided not to do

> anything more at all. I did talk to the general surgeon, whom she

> trusts, and he didn't think she could withstand the resection. He

> said it would break her spirit. Well, that is already broken, but

> his advice seems reasonable from a stamina viewpoint.

>

> Being as ignorant as I am, I don't know what to do. She told me

> yesterday that she is scared. So am I, but I want to be positive

for

> her.

>

> I might get her to have the PET scan, but even that is iffy. If

she

> does, I don't know if it will be of any use.

>

> Should I back off? It isn't my body or life. I'm trying to will

her

> to not give up.

>

> Thanks for the support. I wish there was more that I could bring

to

> all here. You have my thoughts and prayers always.

>

> Sharon

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

My husband died in February after about a year of illness. Colon

cancer was dxd in June, 2003. He had liver involvement as well, but

much more extensive than your mom's. He too decided against

treatment after surgery to remove the primary tumor. I think I'd

have made a different decision for myself, but I knew that I needed

to support him in whatever he decided. We brought in Hospice in

September and I know I couldn't have done it without those wonderful

people who dedicate their lives to making the last months comfortable

for people who are dying. I don't know enough about your mom's

situation to have any thoughts about her decision to opt out of the

liver resection, but it sounds like the surgeon is supporting her.

I wish you and your mom peace with her decision. If you want to know

more about hospice, there's lots of info on the web. Just

put " Hospice " into the search engine.

Maeve

> Even if there is only one liver nodule, mom has decided not to go

> through with the surgery. Actually, she had decided not to do

> anything more at all. I did talk to the general surgeon, whom she

> trusts, and he didn't think she could withstand the resection. He

> said it would break her spirit. Well, that is already broken, but

> his advice seems reasonable from a stamina viewpoint.

>

> Being as ignorant as I am, I don't know what to do. She told me

> yesterday that she is scared. So am I, but I want to be positive

for

> her.

>

> I might get her to have the PET scan, but even that is iffy. If

she

> does, I don't know if it will be of any use.

>

> Should I back off? It isn't my body or life. I'm trying to will

her

> to not give up.

>

> Thanks for the support. I wish there was more that I could bring

to

> all here. You have my thoughts and prayers always.

>

> Sharon

[Guest guest]

Maeve,

My heart hurts for you. Certainly, hospice is to be considered. I

hope that won't be necessary for some time. I will continue to hope

and pray for some quality time.

Take care.

Sharon

colon_cancer_support , " mweigand_ch2001 "

<mweigand_ch2001@y...> wrote:

> Sharon,

> My husband died in February after about a year of illness. Colon

> cancer was dxd in June, 2003. He had liver involvement as well,

but

> much more extensive than your mom's. He too decided against

> treatment after surgery to remove the primary tumor. I think I'd

> have made a different decision for myself, but I knew that I needed

> to support him in whatever he decided. We brought in Hospice in

> September and I know I couldn't have done it without those

wonderful

> people who dedicate their lives to making the last months

comfortable

> for people who are dying. I don't know enough about your mom's

> situation to have any thoughts about her decision to opt out of the

> liver resection, but it sounds like the surgeon is supporting her.

>

> I wish you and your mom peace with her decision. If you want to

know

> more about hospice, there's lots of info on the web. Just

> put " Hospice " into the search engine.

> Maeve

>

>

>

>

> > Even if there is only one liver nodule, mom has decided not to go

> > through with the surgery. Actually, she had decided not to do

> > anything more at all. I did talk to the general surgeon, whom

she

> > trusts, and he didn't think she could withstand the resection.

He

> > said it would break her spirit. Well, that is already broken,

but

> > his advice seems reasonable from a stamina viewpoint.

> >

> > Being as ignorant as I am, I don't know what to do. She told me

> > yesterday that she is scared. So am I, but I want to be positive

> for

> > her.

> >

> > I might get her to have the PET scan, but even that is iffy. If

> she

> > does, I don't know if it will be of any use.

> >

> > Should I back off? It isn't my body or life. I'm trying to will

> her

> > to not give up.

> >

> > Thanks for the support. I wish there was more that I could bring

> to

> > all here. You have my thoughts and prayers always.

> >

> > Sharon