Guest guest Posted March 10, 2001 Report Share Posted March 10, 2001 Oh My Gosh ! and I thought my Boys were hard to raise.......... I have no advice "off the top of my head". Let me think about it... you have to think of a "fair" punishment and a way to get through to her "how dangerous this behavior is". Love and Prayers........ Dianne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 10, 2001 Report Share Posted March 10, 2001 OMG!! This is awful! How did you finally get her home? Is she sorry? That was good that she didn't let him do anything to here. I caught my 14-yr. old daughter, smoking outside today and she is also grounded, with no phone or computer. This is not the first time and she had promised me that she wouldn't do it again. I hate being lied to. I know this isn't as serious, but I am so losing my trust in her. How is your daughter dealing with her punishment? What's weird about mine, is that she keeps coming out and kissing me and telling me she loves me. Of course her big night out each week is Friday night at the Mall and she already did that last night, so she's not missing anything right now. Barbara >well now my 13 yr old has really done it. we thought she was still sleeping and about 1 pm my oldest came down and said no shes not there she put pillows in her bed to make it look like she was there ..so we called all her friends and went on aol and finally one of them was decent enough to have her call her sister.. turns out she was talking to some 17 yr old boy on AOL and he came at 6 30AM and picked her up .he took her about 30 miles away to a friends house so he could do his thing with her and when she refused he drove off and left her at this strangers house.. the boy had no car to bring her home luckily he did have AOL and she was able to talk to her friends and one of them let her know we were trying to find her. the rest of her friends who knew where she was refused to tell us... she could have been raped or beaten up and she doesnt seem to understand she had never met this boy nor did she know anything about him .. i happen to know the family from my job and hes been >arrested for drugs and other stuff.. so not only is she grounded from aol its getting removed from the computer totally .. she wont be allowed on the phone nor to anyones house anyone have any other suggestions? >catherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2001 Report Share Posted March 11, 2001 Oh , How frightened you must have been. If this is a real change in behavior, sneaking, maybe you should consider taking her to the school councellor. If a 17 yr old is meeting 13 yr olds on line, I believe he should be reported to the police. Your daughter, thank God, did get away without rape or a beating but what about the next child? Barb ot KIDs well now my 13 yr old has really done it. we thought she was still sleeping and about 1 pm my oldest came down and said no shes not there she put pillows in her bed to make it look like she was there ..so we called all her friends and went on aol and finally one of them was decent enough to have her call her sister.. turns out she was talking to some 17 yr old boy on AOL and he came at 6 30AM and picked her up .he took her about 30 miles away to a friends house so he could do his thing with her and when she refused he drove off and left her at this strangers house.. the boy had no car to bring her home luckily he did have AOL and she was able to talk to her friends and one of them let her know we were trying to find her. the rest of her friends who knew where she was refused to tell us... she could have been raped or beaten up and she doesnt seem to understand she had never met this boy nor did she know anything about him .. i happen to know the family from my job and hes been arrested for drugs and other stuff.. so not only is she grounded from aol its getting removed from the computer totally .. she wont be allowed on the phone nor to anyones house anyone have any other suggestions? catherinePlease visit our homepage at http://members.xoom.com/AChallengersYou will find information, recipes, before and after pictures.To contact the list owner please send mail to lindag@...Visit our 2000 Train Tour Site - http://www.brunnet.net/k & l/web_site_train_tour/actraintour.htm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2001 Report Share Posted March 11, 2001 So sorry this has happened to you and your family. I re-felt a bad experience with my daughter when she was young, so I can relate to your feelings. Have you mentioned them to your daughter, to make her see her side of responsability. Its so hard today. they do nor seem to realize the danger that might happen at all. Sometimes when they are made to see others bad experiemce, it might wake some up. Wish the best to you fd ----- Original Message ----- From: catherine To: AtkinsChallengers well now my 13 yr old has really done it. . The rest of her friends who knew where she was refused to tell us....cut .. she could have been raped or beaten up and she doesnt seem to understand she had never met this boy nor did she know anything about him .. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2001 Report Share Posted March 11, 2001 , 90 days is a long time. Will you be able to stick to that or will you shorten it for good behavior? Things are much better when my daughter is grounded. She has to talk to me, because there's no one else around and she is much sweeter, because she doesn't have to make any of the bad decisions she usually makes in her crowd of friends. My daughter quit dancing, too. She used to love it and was so outgoing. I like it when she's grounded because I don't have to worry where she is. I haven't set a time limit yet. I took the phone out of her room yesterday, but I see she has it back and probably used it after I went to bed. I don't know what to do either. I hope things get better for both of us. Barbara >Dear Barbara she knows she is grounded for 90 days so shes not saying much >shes been there before no shes not sorry her answer was she knows how to >say no.. she doesnt realize that maybe a boy just might not take no and >that maybe we might not find her the next time.. these were boys she had >never met they go to a different school even i dont know what is going on >with her shes all of a sudden not wanting to dance or go to her lessons . i >realize its normal teen thing but i worry she seems so depressed lately >catherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2001 Report Share Posted March 11, 2001 , 90 days is a long time. Will you be able to stick to that or will you shorten it for good behavior? Things are much better when my daughter is grounded. She has to talk to me, because there's no one else around and she is much sweeter, because she doesn't have to make any of the bad decisions she usually makes in her crowd of friends. My daughter quit dancing, too. She used to love it and was so outgoing. I like it when she's grounded because I don't have to worry where she is. I haven't set a time limit yet. I took the phone out of her room yesterday, but I see she has it back and probably used it after I went to bed. I don't know what to do either. I hope things get better for both of us. Barbara >Dear Barbara she knows she is grounded for 90 days so shes not saying much >shes been there before no shes not sorry her answer was she knows how to >say no.. she doesnt realize that maybe a boy just might not take no and >that maybe we might not find her the next time.. these were boys she had >never met they go to a different school even i dont know what is going on >with her shes all of a sudden not wanting to dance or go to her lessons . i >realize its normal teen thing but i worry she seems so depressed lately >catherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 11, 2001 Report Share Posted March 11, 2001 Oh gosh Cath, im so glad she turned out to be ok. Sorry I have no suggestions, I would be at loss at what to do other then the extreme ones .. boot camp, military school....Im so glad she is ok though, I know it was a nightmare for u looking for her. well now my 13 yr old has really done it. we thought she was still sleeping and about 1 pm my oldest came down and said no shes not there she put pillows in her bed to make it look like she was there ..so we called all her friends and went on aol and finally one of them was decent enough to have her call her sister.. turns out she was talking to some 17 yr old boy on AOL and he came at 6 30AM and picked her up .he took her about 30 miles away to a friends house so he could do his thing with her and when she refused he drove off and left her at this strangers house.. the boy had no car to bring her home luckily he did have AOL and she was able to talk to her friends and one of them let her know we were trying to find her. the rest of her friends who knew where she was refused to tell us... she could have been raped or beaten up and she doesnt seem to understand she had never met this boy nor did she know anything about him .. i happen to know the family from my job and hes been arrested for drugs and other stuff.. so not only is she grounded from aol its getting removed from the computer totally .. she wont be allowed on the phone nor to anyones house anyone have any other suggestions? catherine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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