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((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact you in

any way tomorrow (Monday.)

Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse their

kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in my

opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we had

public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who commit

such atrocities.

No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez, Louise.

And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and didn't

help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

-Annie

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact you in

any way tomorrow (Monday.)

Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse their

kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in my

opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we had

public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who commit

such atrocities.

No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez, Louise.

And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and didn't

help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

-Annie

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact you in

any way tomorrow (Monday.)

Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse their

kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in my

opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we had

public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who commit

such atrocities.

No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez, Louise.

And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and didn't

help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

-Annie

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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Can you turn off your phone? Can someone else delete them tomorrow? can you

lock it in your car til then? I'd just turn mine off.

On Sun, Dec 26, 2010 at 3:53 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact

> you in any way tomorrow (Monday.)

>

> Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse

> their kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in

> my opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we

> had public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who

> commit such atrocities.

>

> No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez,

> Louise.

>

> And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and

> didn't help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

>

> Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

> cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

> little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

> Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's

> text messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself.

> Though for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my

> nada in person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My

> nada's abuse is of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme

> variety, and believe me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new

> phone number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a

> number costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I

> knew better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before

> I knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it

> was a cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive,

> manipulative messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my

> nada is a creepy one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way

> she can pull it off.) I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted

> them, nor did I respond to any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship

> with nada; I do not engage in two way communications with her of any kind;

> her emails are set to go to junk. So it was extremely creepy of her to act

> like we were buddy buddies, as if we've been in touch these few years. And

> of course it was invasive and traumatic and painful to see the inappropriate

> comments. In fact it took me several hours of tears and trauma purges, and I

> drank too much, too many times, and gained weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

> around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she

> saw that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get

> me to talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could

> attempt to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for

> although she had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via

> text--and that was enough for her. She went on a field day. She had

> something from my phone! She wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around

> 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

> changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate

> to have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a

> huge cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the

> keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

> junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

> from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

> around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on

> and delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were

> typical nada manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that

> they acted again like we have been in regular touch all this time, like

> nothing is wrong. Oh, come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to

> Christmas in five years! These texts, they felt particularly invasive and

> attacking to me. Nada is giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses

> the phrase 'get to him/her' a lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really

> disturbs someone, she'll say, giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for

> example, when she finds a real zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she

> 'got' to me by finding a way to force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

> sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to

> contact me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was

> terrifying. Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for

> several weeks, and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her

> reality on me--that she is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and

> 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel person for 'leaving' her, and the whole

> family thinks so. I've had to lay really low and not be in contact at ALL

> with the rest of the family this Christmas, because nada is lurking and

> using them and is after me, triangulating right now (several have approached

> me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

> an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada

> molested and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my

> ex-husband did indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse

> to take any active steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been

> this way my whole life. The only happiness and peace and success I have ever

> known, is far, far away from them. And yet they think they can pressure me

> to attend family events? One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is

> everything'. I beg to differ. Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

>

>

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Can you turn off your phone? Can someone else delete them tomorrow? can you

lock it in your car til then? I'd just turn mine off.

On Sun, Dec 26, 2010 at 3:53 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact

> you in any way tomorrow (Monday.)

>

> Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse

> their kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in

> my opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we

> had public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who

> commit such atrocities.

>

> No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez,

> Louise.

>

> And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and

> didn't help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

>

> Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

> cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

> little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

> Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's

> text messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself.

> Though for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my

> nada in person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My

> nada's abuse is of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme

> variety, and believe me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new

> phone number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a

> number costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I

> knew better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before

> I knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it

> was a cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive,

> manipulative messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my

> nada is a creepy one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way

> she can pull it off.) I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted

> them, nor did I respond to any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship

> with nada; I do not engage in two way communications with her of any kind;

> her emails are set to go to junk. So it was extremely creepy of her to act

> like we were buddy buddies, as if we've been in touch these few years. And

> of course it was invasive and traumatic and painful to see the inappropriate

> comments. In fact it took me several hours of tears and trauma purges, and I

> drank too much, too many times, and gained weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

> around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she

> saw that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get

> me to talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could

> attempt to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for

> although she had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via

> text--and that was enough for her. She went on a field day. She had

> something from my phone! She wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around

> 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

> changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate

> to have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a

> huge cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the

> keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

> junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

> from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

> around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on

> and delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were

> typical nada manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that

> they acted again like we have been in regular touch all this time, like

> nothing is wrong. Oh, come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to

> Christmas in five years! These texts, they felt particularly invasive and

> attacking to me. Nada is giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses

> the phrase 'get to him/her' a lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really

> disturbs someone, she'll say, giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for

> example, when she finds a real zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she

> 'got' to me by finding a way to force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

> sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to

> contact me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was

> terrifying. Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for

> several weeks, and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her

> reality on me--that she is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and

> 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel person for 'leaving' her, and the whole

> family thinks so. I've had to lay really low and not be in contact at ALL

> with the rest of the family this Christmas, because nada is lurking and

> using them and is after me, triangulating right now (several have approached

> me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

> an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada

> molested and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my

> ex-husband did indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse

> to take any active steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been

> this way my whole life. The only happiness and peace and success I have ever

> known, is far, far away from them. And yet they think they can pressure me

> to attend family events? One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is

> everything'. I beg to differ. Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

>

>

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Can you turn off your phone? Can someone else delete them tomorrow? can you

lock it in your car til then? I'd just turn mine off.

On Sun, Dec 26, 2010 at 3:53 PM, anuria67854 wrote:

>

>

> ((((((Charlotte)))))))) Good for you for blocking her ability to contact

> you in any way tomorrow (Monday.)

>

> Sorry but I have less than zero compassion for parents who sexually abuse

> their kids, its just reprehensible; the worst betrayal of trust possible in

> my opinion. Reading about that makes my blood boil. It makes me wish that we

> had public beheadings here like they do in Muslim countries for those who

> commit such atrocities.

>

> No wonder just getting texts from your nada re-traumatizes you. Jeez,

> Louise.

>

> And your foo members who protect nada, and enabled her to abuse you, and

> didn't help you when you had an abusive husband... are just as disgusting.

>

> Kudos to you for protecting yourself from further abuse by these human

> cockroaches. (I like your dream symbolism.)

>

> -Annie

>

>

>

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

> little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

> Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's

> text messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself.

> Though for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my

> nada in person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My

> nada's abuse is of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme

> variety, and believe me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new

> phone number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a

> number costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I

> knew better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before

> I knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it

> was a cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive,

> manipulative messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my

> nada is a creepy one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way

> she can pull it off.) I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted

> them, nor did I respond to any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship

> with nada; I do not engage in two way communications with her of any kind;

> her emails are set to go to junk. So it was extremely creepy of her to act

> like we were buddy buddies, as if we've been in touch these few years. And

> of course it was invasive and traumatic and painful to see the inappropriate

> comments. In fact it took me several hours of tears and trauma purges, and I

> drank too much, too many times, and gained weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

> around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she

> saw that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get

> me to talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could

> attempt to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for

> although she had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via

> text--and that was enough for her. She went on a field day. She had

> something from my phone! She wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around

> 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

> changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate

> to have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a

> huge cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the

> keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

> junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

> from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

> around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on

> and delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were

> typical nada manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that

> they acted again like we have been in regular touch all this time, like

> nothing is wrong. Oh, come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to

> Christmas in five years! These texts, they felt particularly invasive and

> attacking to me. Nada is giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses

> the phrase 'get to him/her' a lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really

> disturbs someone, she'll say, giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for

> example, when she finds a real zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she

> 'got' to me by finding a way to force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

> sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to

> contact me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was

> terrifying. Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for

> several weeks, and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her

> reality on me--that she is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and

> 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel person for 'leaving' her, and the whole

> family thinks so. I've had to lay really low and not be in contact at ALL

> with the rest of the family this Christmas, because nada is lurking and

> using them and is after me, triangulating right now (several have approached

> me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

> an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada

> molested and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my

> ex-husband did indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse

> to take any active steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been

> this way my whole life. The only happiness and peace and success I have ever

> known, is far, far away from them. And yet they think they can pressure me

> to attend family events? One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is

> everything'. I beg to differ. Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

>

>

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One day in college, I stayed in my apt all day to cram for my exam that evening.

I spoke to nada right before leaving for the exam. I forgot my phone in my room,

but I didn't worry, since I had just told her that I was leaving for an exam. I

returned 4 hrs later to my room to see 36 missed calls and 73 text messages.

When I called her, she couldn't even form full sentences, she was so freaked

out. Texting is a curse. Hahaha

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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One day in college, I stayed in my apt all day to cram for my exam that evening.

I spoke to nada right before leaving for the exam. I forgot my phone in my room,

but I didn't worry, since I had just told her that I was leaving for an exam. I

returned 4 hrs later to my room to see 36 missed calls and 73 text messages.

When I called her, she couldn't even form full sentences, she was so freaked

out. Texting is a curse. Hahaha

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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One day in college, I stayed in my apt all day to cram for my exam that evening.

I spoke to nada right before leaving for the exam. I forgot my phone in my room,

but I didn't worry, since I had just told her that I was leaving for an exam. I

returned 4 hrs later to my room to see 36 missed calls and 73 text messages.

When I called her, she couldn't even form full sentences, she was so freaked

out. Texting is a curse. Hahaha

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

the FOG syndrome.

One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

disable txts for specific periods.

You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

because they come from Nada.

Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

Doug

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I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

the FOG syndrome.

One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

disable txts for specific periods.

You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

because they come from Nada.

Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

Doug

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I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

the FOG syndrome.

One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

disable txts for specific periods.

You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

because they come from Nada.

Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

Doug

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Great advice Doug. We KOs have been trained/conditioned/brainwashed from birth

to accept abuse from our pd parents, the kind of treatment that we'd never take

from an acquaintance or stranger, so its much harder for us KOs to take the

steps necessary to protect ourselves. That's why I cheer so loudly when one of

us finally takes a baby step in that direction.

You are right, we can choose to protect ourselves and there are ways to do so;

the hard part is realizing and accepting that its OK to protect ourselves, we

have the RIGHT to protect ourselves, and it doesn't make you a bad person or a

bad son/daughter to protect yourself from an abusive parent.

-Annie

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Great advice Doug. We KOs have been trained/conditioned/brainwashed from birth

to accept abuse from our pd parents, the kind of treatment that we'd never take

from an acquaintance or stranger, so its much harder for us KOs to take the

steps necessary to protect ourselves. That's why I cheer so loudly when one of

us finally takes a baby step in that direction.

You are right, we can choose to protect ourselves and there are ways to do so;

the hard part is realizing and accepting that its OK to protect ourselves, we

have the RIGHT to protect ourselves, and it doesn't make you a bad person or a

bad son/daughter to protect yourself from an abusive parent.

-Annie

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Great advice Doug. We KOs have been trained/conditioned/brainwashed from birth

to accept abuse from our pd parents, the kind of treatment that we'd never take

from an acquaintance or stranger, so its much harder for us KOs to take the

steps necessary to protect ourselves. That's why I cheer so loudly when one of

us finally takes a baby step in that direction.

You are right, we can choose to protect ourselves and there are ways to do so;

the hard part is realizing and accepting that its OK to protect ourselves, we

have the RIGHT to protect ourselves, and it doesn't make you a bad person or a

bad son/daughter to protect yourself from an abusive parent.

-Annie

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Doug, I thank you for the very strong and clearly expressed wish that I have a

right to protect myself. But I am admittedly a little offended that you seem to

imply I am not doing so purposefully. The situation is a little more

complicated than your message would reflect. Remember, high functioning nadas

know how to manipulate the gray areas--they are masters. To turn my phone off

completely would have meant I missed texts and pictures from EVERYONE, including

best and comforting friends, cousins with newborn children. Also, nadas

messages are not directly abusive enough to qualify to obtain a restraining

order--you have to be a qualified therapist and understand the whole back story

to know that 'where should I send your presents' is actually a form of sexual

abuse. No magistrate, without more, would believe that. So again thanks for

the good wishes, but please do not assume that your version of how I should

protect myself is what's best for me. My mistake was to not spend the $5 month

immediately to block nada only. But I do not regret keeping my phone on so that

I could hear from other loved ones. Nada is atrocious to trick me into paying

such a price for that, but, again, I am on the way to correcting that now.

--ChhC

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Doug, I thank you for the very strong and clearly expressed wish that I have a

right to protect myself. But I am admittedly a little offended that you seem to

imply I am not doing so purposefully. The situation is a little more

complicated than your message would reflect. Remember, high functioning nadas

know how to manipulate the gray areas--they are masters. To turn my phone off

completely would have meant I missed texts and pictures from EVERYONE, including

best and comforting friends, cousins with newborn children. Also, nadas

messages are not directly abusive enough to qualify to obtain a restraining

order--you have to be a qualified therapist and understand the whole back story

to know that 'where should I send your presents' is actually a form of sexual

abuse. No magistrate, without more, would believe that. So again thanks for

the good wishes, but please do not assume that your version of how I should

protect myself is what's best for me. My mistake was to not spend the $5 month

immediately to block nada only. But I do not regret keeping my phone on so that

I could hear from other loved ones. Nada is atrocious to trick me into paying

such a price for that, but, again, I am on the way to correcting that now.

--ChhC

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Doug, I thank you for the very strong and clearly expressed wish that I have a

right to protect myself. But I am admittedly a little offended that you seem to

imply I am not doing so purposefully. The situation is a little more

complicated than your message would reflect. Remember, high functioning nadas

know how to manipulate the gray areas--they are masters. To turn my phone off

completely would have meant I missed texts and pictures from EVERYONE, including

best and comforting friends, cousins with newborn children. Also, nadas

messages are not directly abusive enough to qualify to obtain a restraining

order--you have to be a qualified therapist and understand the whole back story

to know that 'where should I send your presents' is actually a form of sexual

abuse. No magistrate, without more, would believe that. So again thanks for

the good wishes, but please do not assume that your version of how I should

protect myself is what's best for me. My mistake was to not spend the $5 month

immediately to block nada only. But I do not regret keeping my phone on so that

I could hear from other loved ones. Nada is atrocious to trick me into paying

such a price for that, but, again, I am on the way to correcting that now.

--ChhC

>

> I ve been amazed at the number of KO s caught in this trap. Remember

> the FOG syndrome.

>

> One thing everyone, and in this I include my wife, seems to forget is

> that we pay for the f ing phone. We get to decide when to accept

> messages, or calls. You CAN choose to NOT answer the GD phone! If there

> is anyone who must be able to reach you in an emergency, give them a way

> to do so, then turn of the phone. Take out the batteries.

>

> More to the point, your phone setup should have a setting for mobile

> network setup. Under that setting there ought to be something labeled

> data services, or something similar. If you turn that setting off, you

> will disable txt msgs , email, internet, and such services.

>

> You can do that temporarily until you can put in blocking. You can also

> disable txts for specific periods.

>

> You can also block specific numbers, and you should be able to set up

> your phone to reject any anonymous calls, blocked, private, or whatever.

>

> You can also, and I would not hesitate to do so, take those abusive

> text messages to a magistrate, and obtain a restraining order, ordering

> her not to text or email you. Abusive calls, emails, or texts are

> illegal. I have found so very often, that KO s , in their FOG, forget

> that they do not have to accept abusive or illegal activities just

> because they come from Nada.

>

> Seriously, if a total stranger sent you such txts and made such

> persistent and abusive phone calls, you would go to law enforcement or a

> court without hesitation. The fact that she has an emotional disorder

> that makes her F ed up, does NOT excuse her actions.

>

> Do what you want, Charlie, it s your life, and I m not trying to run it

> for you. But seriously, listen to what you said. If you were talking

> about another person, you d take steps without hesitation.

>

> Another option for you, get a different phone number from your supplier,

> and don t give it out. Block all private or unidentified numbers.

>

> Sorry you had such a tough weekend.

>

>

> Doug

>

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Charlie,Monday is here and I hope you are able to block that creepy controlling

creature...The " getting " to you is totally invasive and that whole thing with

sending inappropriate messages that are even more inappropriate because she's

acting like everything is fine is very sick.My skin was crawling imagining

it.I'm sorry she imposed her creepiness on your Christmas day.You are right:

physical safety is everything...I would have had something like a cockroach

nightmare after all that myself,your subconscious got it precisely.

You have an absolute right to keep yourself safe from people who not only

invalidate your reality but who pressure you to go along with this sickness like

it's alright on behalf of your perp.That truly is awful.

I hope it's better today and you've got nada blocked.

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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Charlie,Monday is here and I hope you are able to block that creepy controlling

creature...The " getting " to you is totally invasive and that whole thing with

sending inappropriate messages that are even more inappropriate because she's

acting like everything is fine is very sick.My skin was crawling imagining

it.I'm sorry she imposed her creepiness on your Christmas day.You are right:

physical safety is everything...I would have had something like a cockroach

nightmare after all that myself,your subconscious got it precisely.

You have an absolute right to keep yourself safe from people who not only

invalidate your reality but who pressure you to go along with this sickness like

it's alright on behalf of your perp.That truly is awful.

I hope it's better today and you've got nada blocked.

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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Charlie,Monday is here and I hope you are able to block that creepy controlling

creature...The " getting " to you is totally invasive and that whole thing with

sending inappropriate messages that are even more inappropriate because she's

acting like everything is fine is very sick.My skin was crawling imagining

it.I'm sorry she imposed her creepiness on your Christmas day.You are right:

physical safety is everything...I would have had something like a cockroach

nightmare after all that myself,your subconscious got it precisely.

You have an absolute right to keep yourself safe from people who not only

invalidate your reality but who pressure you to go along with this sickness like

it's alright on behalf of your perp.That truly is awful.

I hope it's better today and you've got nada blocked.

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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Thank you and Annie for these messages; I really needed them. I

really wasn't expecting Christmas to be full of such terrible little unexpected

nada-pricks; it so wasn't fair, since I had paid the price of staying away from

all my relatives, and got burned so badly anyhow. But the 'Smart Limits'

service is now set up on my phone, and I've set it to block nada from calling or

texting. Unfortunately the service says that if the number is 'blocked' or

anonymous it won't work--I will have to see how that plays out. Also she of

course can just borrow other peoples' phones (she used to call me from my Dad's

cell phone when I was answering his, a technique she enjoyed a lot.) Anyway if

nada breaks through the Smart Limits barrier, I'll consider getting a new

number. At least I know she won't be texting for a good while! She is not

technologically saavy so maybe she'll give up with just this first hurdle.

Let's keep our fingers crossed!

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw

that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to

talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt

to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she

had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was

enough for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She

wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and

delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact

me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested

and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

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Thank you and Annie for these messages; I really needed them. I

really wasn't expecting Christmas to be full of such terrible little unexpected

nada-pricks; it so wasn't fair, since I had paid the price of staying away from

all my relatives, and got burned so badly anyhow. But the 'Smart Limits'

service is now set up on my phone, and I've set it to block nada from calling or

texting. Unfortunately the service says that if the number is 'blocked' or

anonymous it won't work--I will have to see how that plays out. Also she of

course can just borrow other peoples' phones (she used to call me from my Dad's

cell phone when I was answering his, a technique she enjoyed a lot.) Anyway if

nada breaks through the Smart Limits barrier, I'll consider getting a new

number. At least I know she won't be texting for a good while! She is not

technologically saavy so maybe she'll give up with just this first hurdle.

Let's keep our fingers crossed!

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw

that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to

talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt

to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she

had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was

enough for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She

wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and

delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact

me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested

and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

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Thank you and Annie for these messages; I really needed them. I

really wasn't expecting Christmas to be full of such terrible little unexpected

nada-pricks; it so wasn't fair, since I had paid the price of staying away from

all my relatives, and got burned so badly anyhow. But the 'Smart Limits'

service is now set up on my phone, and I've set it to block nada from calling or

texting. Unfortunately the service says that if the number is 'blocked' or

anonymous it won't work--I will have to see how that plays out. Also she of

course can just borrow other peoples' phones (she used to call me from my Dad's

cell phone when I was answering his, a technique she enjoyed a lot.) Anyway if

nada breaks through the Smart Limits barrier, I'll consider getting a new

number. At least I know she won't be texting for a good while! She is not

technologically saavy so maybe she'll give up with just this first hurdle.

Let's keep our fingers crossed!

> >

> > Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few

little text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined

Christmas, and it's absolutely awful.

> >

> > A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

> >

> > I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

> >

> > First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

> >

> > Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right

around the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw

that I was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to

talk to her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt

to pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she

had tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was

enough for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She

wasn't giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

> >

> > I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

> >

> > I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so

junk emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were

from nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent

around three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and

delete without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

> >

> > Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it

sooner. I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact

me whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

> >

> > I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got

an entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested

and tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

> >

> > God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

> >

> > --Charlie

> >

>

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Charlottehoney--

You have every right to feel freaked out and violated. How could you not, after

a lifetime of violation?

I'm so glad you are giving yourself the protection of the call blocking service,

even as you are struggling to do so. Good for you--even in the midst of your

torment, you are still choosing yourself and your own protection. Yay, you!

One thing I wanted to pass on: I have a girlfriend who has a crazy stalker

ex-boyfriend. She, also, received threatening text messages CONSTANTLY! (And,

BTW--nada's intend was definitely to threaten you if she sent all of those gross

details, in my opinion). She couldn't block for other reasons . . .but she

began to send a text that said something like " System error. Text message did

not go through. "

She sent that back to crazy every time crazy sent a text message.

It worked like a charm--he stopped sending them entirely.

Hang tough. You did a great job, considering all!!

Blessings,

Karla

>

> Dear all, it's amazing how much discomfort, anxiety and fear just a few little

text messages can cause. But I have had an almost completely ruined Christmas,

and it's absolutely awful.

>

> A few weeks ago my nada discovered I had been responding to my sister's text

messages, and so she got a new phone and learned how to text, herself. Though

for my own good I've made no formal declaration, I have not seen my nada in

person or spoken with her on the phone in about three years. My nada's abuse is

of the intimate and inisidious, yet pervasively extreme variety, and believe

me--three years is NOT enough distance, even yet.

>

> I did some research, made some effort to discover how to block her new phone

number, but when I saw the only way to block texts and calls from a number

costed $5 month, I procrastinated the service. That was a BAD MOVE. I knew

better.

>

> First there was a series of invasive texts from nada's new number, before I

knew it was her yet--and I STUPIDLY texted asking who it was (thinking it was a

cousin) and got 'this is your MOTHER'...and a serious of invasive, manipulative

messages about bodies and bodily functions etc. (Remember, my nada is a creepy

one with a compulsive need to harm by molestation any way she can pull it off.)

I did not respond to any of the texts, just deleted them, nor did I respond to

any emails. I do not have an ongoing relationship with nada; I do not engage in

two way communications with her of any kind; her emails are set to go to junk.

So it was extremely creepy of her to act like we were buddy buddies, as if we've

been in touch these few years. And of course it was invasive and traumatic and

painful to see the inappropriate comments. In fact it took me several hours of

tears and trauma purges, and I drank too much, too many times, and gained

weight.

>

> Then there was a deluge of 'blocked' calls with no message left, right around

the family's scheduled Christmas events. I'm sure it was Nada; she saw that I

was texting my sister and so she thought this meant she could get me to talk to

her. She was also trying to have contact with me so she could attempt to

pressure me to come to Christmas. And, she had traction, for although she had

tricked me into it, she had GOT a response from my via text--and that was enough

for her. She went on a field day. She had something from my phone! She wasn't

giving up, now, and how. So yeah. Around 20 'blocked' calls.

>

> I SHOULD HAVE bought the service. I tried just now but I can't make the

changes online, I have to wait until stupid business hours. I am desperate to

have nada OUT of phone access. I even had a terrible nightmare that a huge

cockroach was crawling on my phone, and I smashed it all over the keypad.

>

> I am leading up here to Christmas, which was the worst. Around six or so junk

emails appeared--I deleted them without looking, but I'm sure they were from

nada. But, worse, MUCH worse, she went on a texting field day. She sent around

three or four texts. Most of them I was able to unfocus my eyes on and delete

without reading, but a couple of them I did see. They were typical nada

manipulations and invasions, and they were SO weird in that they acted again

like we have been in regular touch all this time, like nothing is wrong. Oh,

come get your presents! WTF? I have not been to Christmas in five years!

These texts, they felt particularly invasive and attacking to me. Nada is

giddy--she got CONTROL of communication. She uses the phrase 'get to him/her' a

lot--meaning she gets a rise when she really disturbs someone, she'll say,

giddily, 'I think I got to your father', for example, when she finds a real

zinger. I know she is giddily thinking she 'got' to me by finding a way to

force me to look at her communications.

>

> Tomorrow she is SO getting blocked but I am freaked out I can't do it sooner.

I talked to a pillow as nada and told her she does NOT get to contact me

whenever she wants--but I'm still freaked. To be honest, it was terrifying.

Nada won that round. She took control of the communication for several weeks,

and during those weeks she got to try and impose ALL her reality on me--that she

is panicked and abandoned and I am a 'bad' and 'dirty' girl and a terrible cruel

person for 'leaving' her, and the whole family thinks so. I've had to lay

really low and not be in contact at ALL with the rest of the family this

Christmas, because nada is lurking and using them and is after me, triangulating

right now (several have approached me and tried to pressure me to come).

>

> I'm sorry for the length here. It is extremely disturbing to me. I've got an

entire immediate AND extended family that completely denies my nada molested and

tortured me my whole life, and also completely denies that my ex-husband did

indeed get violent and threatening with me, and they refuse to take any active

steps to protect me from nada OR the ex. They have been this way my whole life.

The only happiness and peace and success I have ever known, is far, far away

from them. And yet they think they can pressure me to attend family events?

One weird uncle sent an email saying 'family is everything'. I beg to differ.

Physical safety, that's what's everything.

>

> God. Monday cannot come soon enough!!!

>

> --Charlie

>

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