Guest guest Posted March 2, 2004 Report Share Posted March 2, 2004 Mom still hasn't gotten an appointment for a CT scan. Now, I wonder if she may have told the onc she didn't want it. Her PCP told her it had probably gone to her liver, so I think she just gave up. I, of course, don't want to lose her, but I don't know any way to make her want more treatment. I empathize with all caregivers who feel helpless and afraid, because that is what we feel. Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2004 Report Share Posted March 2, 2004 Sharon: point out that it really doesn't hurt. It could clarify matters,and it might be a lot better than she thinks. Any support groups your way that might come and talk to mom? Are you a health surrogate? They may be able to control it.No one guarantees a cure. You must feel bad,but wait a bit and keep trying,we will put you inour prayers and we are sure many others want to help too. Hugs Nick & Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 2, 2004 Report Share Posted March 2, 2004 Sharon: point out that it really doesn't hurt. It could clarify matters,and it might be a lot better than she thinks. Any support groups your way that might come and talk to mom? Are you a health surrogate? They may be able to control it.No one guarantees a cure. You must feel bad,but wait a bit and keep trying,we will put you inour prayers and we are sure many others want to help too. Hugs Nick & Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 3, 2004 Report Share Posted March 3, 2004 Thank you for the advice. I keep thinking that it makes sense to know what the picture is before giving up, but it can't be my decision. What do you mean by health surrogate? If you mean power of attorney, I'm not one. Maybe her friends can convince her to get more info. I don't think that my brother and I can. My thoughts and prayers are with all on this board. Sharon > Sharon: point out that it really doesn't hurt. It could clarify matters,and > it might > be a lot better than she thinks. Any support groups your way that might come > and talk to mom? Are you a health surrogate? They may be able to control it.No > one guarantees a cure. You must feel bad,but wait a bit and keep trying,we > will put you inour prayers and we are sure many others want to help too. Hugs > Nick & Jane > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 Dale & a, Thank you for the information. Mom does not have a surrogate in place. I'm not sure if I should bring it up just now. I know it would be best but she is so low in spirit. Sharon > Sharon, A health surrogate is the person designated to act on the behalf of > the patient in the event that the patient has become incapacitated to make > their own descisions. I gave the hospital a living will which named my wife as my > surrogate. Dale M. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 Dale & a, Thank you for the information. Mom does not have a surrogate in place. I'm not sure if I should bring it up just now. I know it would be best but she is so low in spirit. Sharon > Sharon, A health surrogate is the person designated to act on the behalf of > the patient in the event that the patient has become incapacitated to make > their own descisions. I gave the hospital a living will which named my wife as my > surrogate. Dale M. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 5, 2004 Report Share Posted March 5, 2004 Dale & a, Thank you for the information. Mom does not have a surrogate in place. I'm not sure if I should bring it up just now. I know it would be best but she is so low in spirit. Sharon > Sharon, A health surrogate is the person designated to act on the behalf of > the patient in the event that the patient has become incapacitated to make > their own descisions. I gave the hospital a living will which named my wife as my > surrogate. Dale M. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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