Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Here is what I would do......take a before and after picture of yourself and tell him that his talking about this other persons loss made you think and you wanted to show him your progress. I have only lost 23 lbs. but local folk don't really notice, but I saw a guy sometime back from college and he noticed right off the bat and said I was looking great! And he could really tell I had lost weight. Moe Ranting and Raving > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but no!!!! Is it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Here is what I would do......take a before and after picture of yourself and tell him that his talking about this other persons loss made you think and you wanted to show him your progress. I have only lost 23 lbs. but local folk don't really notice, but I saw a guy sometime back from college and he noticed right off the bat and said I was looking great! And he could really tell I had lost weight. Moe Ranting and Raving > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but no!!!! Is it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 I had someone tell me the reason they never said anything was because they were afraid I was sick. Charlie > RE: Ranting and Raving > > > Some people also don't say anything because they don't want to offend you. > What? Offend by saying a person looks great? Well... If a person is told > " You've lost a " ton " of weight... " It could make the person who > lost weight > think that the other person thought they were REALLY fat to start > with. So, > when people don't know what to say or how to phrase something, they > typically don't say anything. > > Maybe they don't acknowledge it this time around because this is > your second > time around trying to lose the weight? (Or they feel bad that they didn't > say anything the first time and by saying something NOW will make > them feel > worse?) > > It could be that they think you must hear it all the time and are sick of > it. (Think of celebrities who are fawned over all the time.. it DOES get > sickening.) > > One other thing.. maybe they are just giving you privacy with your weight > loss program? I mean, maybe some of these people assume that you > don't want > to talk about how you are losing weight, so they just aren't commenting. > ??? > > I was brain storming. It could be that none of the above are right, a > combination, or something entirely different. > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: scmoore > > > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or > > if they just > > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's > > deliberate, I mean > > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but > I'm not going > > to say anything. > > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 I had someone tell me the reason they never said anything was because they were afraid I was sick. Charlie > RE: Ranting and Raving > > > Some people also don't say anything because they don't want to offend you. > What? Offend by saying a person looks great? Well... If a person is told > " You've lost a " ton " of weight... " It could make the person who > lost weight > think that the other person thought they were REALLY fat to start > with. So, > when people don't know what to say or how to phrase something, they > typically don't say anything. > > Maybe they don't acknowledge it this time around because this is > your second > time around trying to lose the weight? (Or they feel bad that they didn't > say anything the first time and by saying something NOW will make > them feel > worse?) > > It could be that they think you must hear it all the time and are sick of > it. (Think of celebrities who are fawned over all the time.. it DOES get > sickening.) > > One other thing.. maybe they are just giving you privacy with your weight > loss program? I mean, maybe some of these people assume that you > don't want > to talk about how you are losing weight, so they just aren't commenting. > ??? > > I was brain storming. It could be that none of the above are right, a > combination, or something entirely different. > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: scmoore > > > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or > > if they just > > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's > > deliberate, I mean > > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but > I'm not going > > to say anything. > > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 The people that matter most in my life and ME do acknowldge my success, but this guy is a really good friend of mine and we are far more than co-workers and he knows that I am on WW, he even comments on my " Rabbit food " that I eat daily. And for him to just go on forever about her loss just irritated me. I did say something to him about it today and he appologized profusley, he explained that he hears everyone else in the office commenting to me and he knows my BF very wll also who constantly praises me and he just thought it would be redundant. He also told me that he bragged to the other girl about my weight loss too when he saw her, so I am happy now. Also, just had my WI and I lost .6, not a huge loss but way more than I expected and after 3 weeks of gaining .4 each week, it was a good change in the right direction. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 , maybe it makes you mad because you view gastric bypass as not being the struggle you're going through.. yet since it is fast like you mentioned it gets the most attention? Steph Ranting and Raving Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look dramatically different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I have met since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this one girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric bypass surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding for her. Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours about how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 pounds less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but no!!!! Is it because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and does not notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I don't know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left my office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, I am back to my happy place now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 I know WLS is not easy, and it is a struggle but the results are faster than my journey. Truthfully, I feel sorry for those who have it..I have one friend that had it done and she said to me just the other day " I miss eating, I once loved food and now it is something that just keeps me alive " That broke my heart!! Her and her husband met (both 2nd marriages) late in life and the were both thin and healthy and found food to be the common ground of enjoyment (Her ex husband always told her she was fat at 119 pounds so she never enjoyed eating back then) well, they both gained weight together and she had the surgery and he didn't, he still enjoys his food and she can't, they have lost the comon ground of enjoyment, how sad. I am in no means judging anyone that has had WLS surgery just for me, it's not even an option because I love food!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 > I know WLS is not easy, and it is a struggle but the results are faster > than my journey. Truthfully, I feel sorry for those who have it..I > have one friend that had it done and she said to me just the other day > " I miss eating, I once loved food and now it is something that just > keeps me alive " That broke my heart!! Her and her husband met (both > 2nd marriages) late in life and the were both thin and healthy and > found food to be the common ground of enjoyment (Her ex husband always > told her she was fat at 119 pounds so she never enjoyed eating back > then) well, they both gained weight together and she had the surgery > and he didn't, he still enjoys his food and she can't, they have lost > the comon ground of enjoyment, how sad. My aunt lost over 200 pounds on a year-long " protein shake " diet given to her by her doctor. She has since said that losing all that weight has been the worst thing that has ever happened to her; eating, she says, was the only thing in life that she enjoyed and now she can't do it anymore. Sliante, S. Crawford http://www.mossroot.com AIM: Buffalo2K ICQ: 11646404 Y!: rscrawford MSN: underpope@... Dean for America: http://www.deanforamerica.com " It is only with the heart that we see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. " --Antoine de Saint Exupéry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 My experience: I agree with what wrote. 2 years ago I went from 205 lbs. to about 170 lbs. I got all kinds of comments from my friends and family. I got every thing from very nice compliments to ridiculous and unrealistic over inflations. Everyone meant well, and wanted to be encouraging to me. Even on of my chubby friends would say I looked nice, and I know we shared our weight struggles a lot and it is hard to see another person get some weight off, but she was very gracious about it and very sweet. Well, by 2003 I was back up to 198!! No one said anything (I'm sure they noticed, they're not blind). Now, after starting WW I'm losing again and weigh 177. I have had very few comments and I believe it is because I've just previously lost the weight. It just didn't really register too much for them, it's just like, " Oh, she's thinner again, that's nice " but no verbal comment is necessary. Personally, I HATED all the comments the first time, they got so ridiculous, " You're going to blow away " " Don't lose anymore " " You're too thin " (yea, at a size 16!! I hardly think so). I am really enjoying it more this time, because all my comments are from this group and gals at WW Meeting. That's plenty for me. But for those of you who are only " shadows of your former selves " , I have been meaning to tell you for a long time that you look fabulous!!! Your hard work in taking care of yourselves is inspiring. Your success gives me what I need to press toward my own goals. Do something wonderful for yourselves, you really deserve it. You have accomplished what many others only gave up on. Have you ever told an anonymous person how much you have lost, and relished their disbelief? I just put a " before " picture of me at my heaviest in my WW packet and showed it at the last meeting. Their jaws dropped. But I would never want to take it out in public, just my WW pals (~_~). This is the best place, thanks to you all. ~~ Lou ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Unfortunately I guess one of my real pleasures in life was enjoying good (tasting) food. I have to curtail that pleasure to remain healthy but I'm not real happy about it. Charlie RE: Ranting and Raving > I know WLS is not easy, and it is a struggle but the results are faster > than my journey. Truthfully, I feel sorry for those who have it..I > have one friend that had it done and she said to me just the other day > " I miss eating, I once loved food and now it is something that just > keeps me alive " That broke my heart!! Her and her husband met (both > 2nd marriages) late in life and the were both thin and healthy and > found food to be the common ground of enjoyment (Her ex husband always > told her she was fat at 119 pounds so she never enjoyed eating back > then) well, they both gained weight together and she had the surgery > and he didn't, he still enjoys his food and she can't, they have lost > the comon ground of enjoyment, how sad. My aunt lost over 200 pounds on a year-long " protein shake " diet given to her by her doctor. She has since said that losing all that weight has been the worst thing that has ever happened to her; eating, she says, was the only thing in life that she enjoyed and now she can't do it anymore. Sliante, S. Crawford http://www.mossroot.com AIM: Buffalo2K ICQ: 11646404 Y!: rscrawford MSN: underpope@... Dean for America: http://www.deanforamerica.com " It is only with the heart that we see rightly; what is essential is invisible to the eye. " --Antoine de Saint Exupéry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Thanks Lou, I hadn't thought of it that way--if you lost weight, put it on again soon after, then lost it again, that people might not have registered at all that you DID put it back on. So, that puts it in another perspective for me and this time around (the second shot at lifetime) I'll try to remember that and not get so irritated. I did love the comments, but as you said--we have them from our families and those closest to us and then forget the rest!! This group is supportive too, although I know I don't post to everyone's individual losses with the little free time I have from the kids. SOOOOOOOO, HERE'S TO ALL OF US THAT HAVE LOST--WAY TO GO and thanks for the support. RE: Ranting and Raving My experience: I agree with what wrote. 2 years ago I went from 205 lbs. to about 170 lbs. I got all kinds of comments from my friends and family. I got every thing from very nice compliments to ridiculous and unrealistic over inflations. Everyone meant well, and wanted to be encouraging to me. Even on of my chubby friends would say I looked nice, and I know we shared our weight struggles a lot and it is hard to see another person get some weight off, but she was very gracious about it and very sweet. Well, by 2003 I was back up to 198!! No one said anything (I'm sure they noticed, they're not blind). Now, after starting WW I'm losing again and weigh 177. I have had very few comments and I believe it is because I've just previously lost the weight. It just didn't really register too much for them, it's just like, " Oh, she's thinner again, that's nice " but no verbal comment is necessary. Personally, I HATED all the comments the first time, they got so ridiculous, " You're going to blow away " " Don't lose anymore " " You're too thin " (yea, at a size 16!! I hardly think so). I am really enjoying it more this time, because all my comments are from this group and gals at WW Meeting. That's plenty for me. But for those of you who are only " shadows of your former selves " , I have been meaning to tell you for a long time that you look fabulous!!! Your hard work in taking care of yourselves is inspiring. Your success gives me what I need to press toward my own goals. Do something wonderful for yourselves, you really deserve it. You have accomplished what many others only gave up on. Have you ever told an anonymous person how much you have lost, and relished their disbelief? I just put a " before " picture of me at my heaviest in my WW packet and showed it at the last meeting. Their jaws dropped. But I would never want to take it out in public, just my WW pals (~_~). This is the best place, thanks to you all. ~~ Lou ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 I've had a lot of experience with folks who don't say anything about the weight you've lost because they're afraid you'll get offended ( " you " as in the general " you " ). I actually have had a person come up to me and say, " Now don't get offended, but I've noticed you've been losing some weight. I think that's great! " Why on earth anyone would get offended is beyond me. Really. I mean, what are we going to say, " Are you insinuating that I was FAT??? That I NEEDED TO LOSE WEIGHT?? " Hee hee... Go figure. People are a complicated breed, that's for sure. 164/159/135 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 4, 2003 Report Share Posted September 4, 2003 Sometimes people aren't sure what to say. You say you lost, regained, and are now losing again. When I know people who are going through that I tend to not say anything at all. It's just so hard to know why they are going up and down...are they sick? Is something wrong? Medication? I always feel if they share that they've lost or are on a diet, then I'll say something. ~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~'~' Tory Klementsen, MCP A+ Career and Technology Educator www.teechur.com www.msteechur.com -The successful person will do the things that the unsuccessful person will not. > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that > I have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is > outstanding for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday > and does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he > notices. I don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me > vent, I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 I just want to clarify something, I am not the one that has lost, gained and lost again. This is my frist go at weight loss and I can see everyone's point where if someone is constantly going up and down with weight to not say anything, but I am only going down and I was the original complainer about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 I really like this!!!!!!!! I wonder if I should tape it to my hand. I do think that I will have to post this on my fridge and maybe the bathroom and bedroom mirrors too. > -----Original Message----- > From: on > I can eat all I want to eat OR I can be the size I > want to be, BUT I can't do both Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 I think that we are all just trying to respond to your post and share our experiences too in that regard. Whether we have gained, lost and gained again, we are all in this weight loss process together and this board is to share things like that and support each other. All of us, or I guess I could say many of us, have had the experience to lose and not have anyone notice or to have people be food police when we mention weight loss, etc. and we are all trying to share that with you. I shared mine because I had similar experiences when I lost the first time and SOME people in my group never said a word--now I'm getting used to it. I sure hope that you go down this time and never go back up, that would be great to not go through that again. RE: Ranting and Raving I just want to clarify something, I am not the one that has lost, gained and lost again. This is my frist go at weight loss and I can see everyone's point where if someone is constantly going up and down with weight to not say anything, but I am only going down and I was the original complainer about this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 ----- Original Message ----- From: " on " When I read the lifetimers board at the WW site, there is a signature line of one of the posters that sticks in my head...it goes something like this... ** " I can eat all I want to eat OR I can be the size I want to be, BUT I can't do both. " ** --------------------------------- That's a good one, ; it's very much like mine: " I can have/do *any*thing I want; I just can't have/do *every*thing I want. " It works for food and also for time: we all have 24 hours a day; if I spend 1 hour reading, I can't spend that hour watching TV (or walking the dogs, or talking with my husband, or doing a weight workout, or whatever). (But I can walk on the treadmill while watching TV!!! <grin>) -:|:- Lifetime WW since June 2001 148 / 123.5 / 124 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 5, 2003 Report Share Posted September 5, 2003 --- " Charlie.. " wrote: > Unfortunately I guess one of my real pleasures in > life was enjoying good > (tasting) food. I have to curtail that pleasure to > remain healthy but I'm > not real happy about it. You can *still* enjoy good-tasting food. And you have a couple of ways to do it too. 1. If the food is high in undesirable characteristics (high-fat, high-sugar, or just plain Bad For You), you can simply choose to enjoy a smaller portion. OR 2. You can discover new foods that taste great AND are low in undesirable characteristics, and enjoy a larger portion. Enjoyment of food does not depend on quantity. The fifth or sixth or eighteenth bite doesn't taste any better than the first. Donna in Surrey, British Columbia, Canada Donna.Hrynkiw@... Sept. 19: Talk Like a Pirate Day, matey! http://www.talklikeapirate.com/piratehome.html Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 I tend to notice it's the real overweight people who don't say anything or the real thin people. I get the most comments from the average folks. I think the overweight people might have a jealously thing going on and with the thin people, maybe weight's just not their focus. Then, there was a couple of weeks ago where a friend of mine said " Joe (Joe's really thin) asked me " what's going on with Mitch? Is he sick " ? So, maybe some people are just being polite and don't want to delve into your personal life. Mitch scmoore wrote: > Hey , > I can SOOOO relate to your frustration and even anger over people not > noticing the weight loss. That happened to me when I lost 87 pounds by May > of 2001. I am not currently working but the all the people connected > with my > kids' school had never seen me thin, so I thought (silly me) that 87 > pounds > would really warrant some comments and I found that when I didn't get > them, > I got really angry and hurt. I'm not talking about the ones that don't > really know me, but the ones that are on the PTA board or committees > that I > had worked on, etc.--really an eye opener. I went from a size 22/24 to an > 8/10, so that's a pretty big change (I'm 5'10 " ). There were alot that DID > say something but what gets me are the many that didn't--I know it's my > problem in how I react and I do take partial responsibility for my > feelings > but it still hurts. I need to just get OVER it and not expect anything at > all--I gained alot of the weight back over 2002 and am now starting over > again since April 17th. > I've lost 35 pounds so far and need to lose another 35, but same thing as > last time--when school was out I had lost some but now it's been 2 1/2 > months and we're back to school and the same old crap as before. No one's > saying anything and I'm mad but I'm not letting it get to me like last > time--the last time around I was incredulous I guess is what it was. > My kids are in Pop Warner football and last season of course I was hideous > looking but this year has started and I look SOOO much better, but is > anyone > saying anything?? NOOOOOO--last year I wore sweats and big ugly shirts and > now can wear some tight capris and tight tops even though I'm not back at > goal, but no one has said anything. > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or if > they just > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's deliberate, > I mean > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but I'm not going > to say anything. > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I > have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding > for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and > does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I > don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, > I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 I tend to notice it's the real overweight people who don't say anything or the real thin people. I get the most comments from the average folks. I think the overweight people might have a jealously thing going on and with the thin people, maybe weight's just not their focus. Then, there was a couple of weeks ago where a friend of mine said " Joe (Joe's really thin) asked me " what's going on with Mitch? Is he sick " ? So, maybe some people are just being polite and don't want to delve into your personal life. Mitch scmoore wrote: > Hey , > I can SOOOO relate to your frustration and even anger over people not > noticing the weight loss. That happened to me when I lost 87 pounds by May > of 2001. I am not currently working but the all the people connected > with my > kids' school had never seen me thin, so I thought (silly me) that 87 > pounds > would really warrant some comments and I found that when I didn't get > them, > I got really angry and hurt. I'm not talking about the ones that don't > really know me, but the ones that are on the PTA board or committees > that I > had worked on, etc.--really an eye opener. I went from a size 22/24 to an > 8/10, so that's a pretty big change (I'm 5'10 " ). There were alot that DID > say something but what gets me are the many that didn't--I know it's my > problem in how I react and I do take partial responsibility for my > feelings > but it still hurts. I need to just get OVER it and not expect anything at > all--I gained alot of the weight back over 2002 and am now starting over > again since April 17th. > I've lost 35 pounds so far and need to lose another 35, but same thing as > last time--when school was out I had lost some but now it's been 2 1/2 > months and we're back to school and the same old crap as before. No one's > saying anything and I'm mad but I'm not letting it get to me like last > time--the last time around I was incredulous I guess is what it was. > My kids are in Pop Warner football and last season of course I was hideous > looking but this year has started and I look SOOO much better, but is > anyone > saying anything?? NOOOOOO--last year I wore sweats and big ugly shirts and > now can wear some tight capris and tight tops even though I'm not back at > goal, but no one has said anything. > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or if > they just > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's deliberate, > I mean > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but I'm not going > to say anything. > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I > have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding > for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and > does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I > don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, > I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 , before I read this latest post, i would have said this guy was terribly insensitve to you. Now, its' obvious, he just made an honest mistake. Glad you said something and got a posititive response. Congrats on your WI as well. Mitch sihughes@... wrote: > The people that matter most in my life and ME do acknowldge my > success, but > this guy is a really good friend of mine and we are far more than > co-workers > and he knows that I am on WW, he even comments on my " Rabbit food " > that I eat > daily. And for him to just go on forever about her loss just > irritated me. I > did say something to him about it today and he appologized profusley, he > explained that he hears everyone else in the office commenting to me > and he > knows my BF very wll also who constantly praises me and he just > thought it > would be redundant. He also told me that he bragged to the other girl > about my > weight loss too when he saw her, so I am happy now. > > Also, just had my WI and I lost .6, not a huge loss but way more than I > expected and after 3 weeks of gaining .4 each week, it was a good > change in the > right direction. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 I tend to notice it's the real overweight people who don't say anything or the real thin people. I get the most comments from the average folks. I think the overweight people might have a jealously thing going on and with the thin people, maybe weight's just not their focus. Then, there was a couple of weeks ago where a friend of mine said " Joe (Joe's really thin) asked me " what's going on with Mitch? Is he sick " ? So, maybe some people are just being polite and don't want to delve into your personal life. Mitch scmoore wrote: > Hey , > I can SOOOO relate to your frustration and even anger over people not > noticing the weight loss. That happened to me when I lost 87 pounds by May > of 2001. I am not currently working but the all the people connected > with my > kids' school had never seen me thin, so I thought (silly me) that 87 > pounds > would really warrant some comments and I found that when I didn't get > them, > I got really angry and hurt. I'm not talking about the ones that don't > really know me, but the ones that are on the PTA board or committees > that I > had worked on, etc.--really an eye opener. I went from a size 22/24 to an > 8/10, so that's a pretty big change (I'm 5'10 " ). There were alot that DID > say something but what gets me are the many that didn't--I know it's my > problem in how I react and I do take partial responsibility for my > feelings > but it still hurts. I need to just get OVER it and not expect anything at > all--I gained alot of the weight back over 2002 and am now starting over > again since April 17th. > I've lost 35 pounds so far and need to lose another 35, but same thing as > last time--when school was out I had lost some but now it's been 2 1/2 > months and we're back to school and the same old crap as before. No one's > saying anything and I'm mad but I'm not letting it get to me like last > time--the last time around I was incredulous I guess is what it was. > My kids are in Pop Warner football and last season of course I was hideous > looking but this year has started and I look SOOO much better, but is > anyone > saying anything?? NOOOOOO--last year I wore sweats and big ugly shirts and > now can wear some tight capris and tight tops even though I'm not back at > goal, but no one has said anything. > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or if > they just > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's deliberate, > I mean > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but I'm not going > to say anything. > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I > have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding > for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and > does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I > don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, > I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 I tend to notice it's the real overweight people who don't say anything or the real thin people. I get the most comments from the average folks. I think the overweight people might have a jealously thing going on and with the thin people, maybe weight's just not their focus. Then, there was a couple of weeks ago where a friend of mine said " Joe (Joe's really thin) asked me " what's going on with Mitch? Is he sick " ? So, maybe some people are just being polite and don't want to delve into your personal life. Mitch scmoore wrote: > Hey , > I can SOOOO relate to your frustration and even anger over people not > noticing the weight loss. That happened to me when I lost 87 pounds by May > of 2001. I am not currently working but the all the people connected > with my > kids' school had never seen me thin, so I thought (silly me) that 87 > pounds > would really warrant some comments and I found that when I didn't get > them, > I got really angry and hurt. I'm not talking about the ones that don't > really know me, but the ones that are on the PTA board or committees > that I > had worked on, etc.--really an eye opener. I went from a size 22/24 to an > 8/10, so that's a pretty big change (I'm 5'10 " ). There were alot that DID > say something but what gets me are the many that didn't--I know it's my > problem in how I react and I do take partial responsibility for my > feelings > but it still hurts. I need to just get OVER it and not expect anything at > all--I gained alot of the weight back over 2002 and am now starting over > again since April 17th. > I've lost 35 pounds so far and need to lose another 35, but same thing as > last time--when school was out I had lost some but now it's been 2 1/2 > months and we're back to school and the same old crap as before. No one's > saying anything and I'm mad but I'm not letting it get to me like last > time--the last time around I was incredulous I guess is what it was. > My kids are in Pop Warner football and last season of course I was hideous > looking but this year has started and I look SOOO much better, but is > anyone > saying anything?? NOOOOOO--last year I wore sweats and big ugly shirts and > now can wear some tight capris and tight tops even though I'm not back at > goal, but no one has said anything. > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or if > they just > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's deliberate, > I mean > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but I'm not going > to say anything. > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I > have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding > for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and > does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I > don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, > I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 6, 2003 Report Share Posted September 6, 2003 I tend to notice it's the real overweight people who don't say anything or the real thin people. I get the most comments from the average folks. I think the overweight people might have a jealously thing going on and with the thin people, maybe weight's just not their focus. Then, there was a couple of weeks ago where a friend of mine said " Joe (Joe's really thin) asked me " what's going on with Mitch? Is he sick " ? So, maybe some people are just being polite and don't want to delve into your personal life. Mitch scmoore wrote: > Hey , > I can SOOOO relate to your frustration and even anger over people not > noticing the weight loss. That happened to me when I lost 87 pounds by May > of 2001. I am not currently working but the all the people connected > with my > kids' school had never seen me thin, so I thought (silly me) that 87 > pounds > would really warrant some comments and I found that when I didn't get > them, > I got really angry and hurt. I'm not talking about the ones that don't > really know me, but the ones that are on the PTA board or committees > that I > had worked on, etc.--really an eye opener. I went from a size 22/24 to an > 8/10, so that's a pretty big change (I'm 5'10 " ). There were alot that DID > say something but what gets me are the many that didn't--I know it's my > problem in how I react and I do take partial responsibility for my > feelings > but it still hurts. I need to just get OVER it and not expect anything at > all--I gained alot of the weight back over 2002 and am now starting over > again since April 17th. > I've lost 35 pounds so far and need to lose another 35, but same thing as > last time--when school was out I had lost some but now it's been 2 1/2 > months and we're back to school and the same old crap as before. No one's > saying anything and I'm mad but I'm not letting it get to me like last > time--the last time around I was incredulous I guess is what it was. > My kids are in Pop Warner football and last season of course I was hideous > looking but this year has started and I look SOOO much better, but is > anyone > saying anything?? NOOOOOO--last year I wore sweats and big ugly shirts and > now can wear some tight capris and tight tops even though I'm not back at > goal, but no one has said anything. > So, I know how you feel--don't know what people's issues are or if > they just > plain don't see it on certain people?? I don't think it's deliberate, > I mean > they aren't thinking to themselves, oh she's lost weight but I'm not going > to say anything. > I know we should take 's advice here, but some days it's hard. > > > > Re: Ranting and Raving > > > Do YOU acknowledge that you have succeeded in this journey? > That, my friend, should be what matters. All the outsiders that notice... > Those are just perks. > > > > sihughes@... wrote: > Currently to date, I have lost 70 pounds on WW and think I look > dramatically > different. A year ago I changed jobs so the new the people that I > have met > since then I don't expect them to notice, although they notice the past 30 > pounds. Well this one guy that I worked with at my former office and he > chagned firms right before I did (we work together again) he ran into this > one > girl that worked in our former office the other day and she had gastric > bypass > surgery and has lost a little over 100 pounds, which is outstanding > for her. > Well anywho, he runs into her and comes back and just goes on for hours > about > how good she looks and how much weigh she has lost, I have lost only 35 > pounds > less than she did, you would think he would comment on that--but > no!!!! Is > it > because mine has been so gradual or because he sees me everyday and > does not > notice--although my boyfriend sees me everyday too and he notices. I > don't > know why this made me so mad, but I was just fuming yesterday when he left > my > office. Any kind of weight loss is a struggle and even the smallest loss > should be acknowledged in my opinion. OK, thanks for letting me vent, > I am > back to my happy place now > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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