Re: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

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e,

Can you sit down with DH and explain to him your feelings about another

baby? He needs to know how important this is to you and you all need to make

a decision together. I mean it really is not that much to the insemenation

part of the procedure... What did he think the doctor was going to say? I

think that you need to go to him with how you are feeling and tell him that

together you all need to make some decisions, otherwise there is going to be

resentment from you towards him if not taken care of. I am sorry that you

have to go thru this. We don't have any kids so whatever has been suggested

we have tried. And now here we are at IVF. Take care-

Amy H.

>

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>Subject: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

>Date: Fri, 29 Jun 2001 08:45:42 -0500

>

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Hello and Good Morning~

Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!!

Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!"

Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!"

WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!!

Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!!

I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

Thanks for listening!!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

e

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e,

Can you sit down with DH and explain to him your feelings about another

baby? He needs to know how important this is to you and you all need to make

a decision together. I mean it really is not that much to the insemenation

part of the procedure... What did he think the doctor was going to say? I

think that you need to go to him with how you are feeling and tell him that

together you all need to make some decisions, otherwise there is going to be

resentment from you towards him if not taken care of. I am sorry that you

have to go thru this. We don't have any kids so whatever has been suggested

we have tried. And now here we are at IVF. Take care-

Amy H.

>

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>To: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic

>Subject: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

>Date: Fri, 29 Jun 2001 08:45:42 -0500

>

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Hello and Good Morning~

Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!!

Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!"

Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!"

WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!!

Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!!

I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

Thanks for listening!!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

e

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e,

Can you sit down with DH and explain to him your feelings about another

baby? He needs to know how important this is to you and you all need to make

a decision together. I mean it really is not that much to the insemenation

part of the procedure... What did he think the doctor was going to say? I

think that you need to go to him with how you are feeling and tell him that

together you all need to make some decisions, otherwise there is going to be

resentment from you towards him if not taken care of. I am sorry that you

have to go thru this. We don't have any kids so whatever has been suggested

we have tried. And now here we are at IVF. Take care-

Amy H.

>

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>To: PregnancyBabiesAfterEctopic

>Subject: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

>Date: Fri, 29 Jun 2001 08:45:42 -0500

>

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Hello and Good Morning~

Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!!

Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!"

Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!"

WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!!

Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!!

I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

Thanks for listening!!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

e

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Hang in there e!!! I wonder if DH was just really really

embarrassed at the dr.'s office, they are so sensitive about their

sperm, really!! Sit down later and have a talk with him, I wouldn't want

to do the clomid behind his back either. I bet he will come around and

agree to the clomid. I'm sorry to hear about your Dad too! I'll keep on

praying for him!

Vicki

michaele pyf wrote:

>

> Hello and Good Morning~

>

> Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic

> cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the

> D & C came back normal!!

>

> Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

>

> Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

> The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12

> and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH

> ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! " If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get

> pg then it is not ment to be! " " That is not 'how' it is supposed to

> be done! "

>

> Okay then, I said, " How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S

> and the sperm wash? " That to him was completely out of the question

> as well. His thinking is " we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we

> already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is

> not God's will! "

>

> WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called

> this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE

> down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway

> and bd from cds 10-17!!

>

> Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly,

> behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him

> and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg

> thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

>

> That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has

> CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My

> dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the

> CPT11!!!

>

> I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

>

> Thanks for listening!!!!!!

> {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

> e

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Hang in there e!!! I wonder if DH was just really really

embarrassed at the dr.'s office, they are so sensitive about their

sperm, really!! Sit down later and have a talk with him, I wouldn't want

to do the clomid behind his back either. I bet he will come around and

agree to the clomid. I'm sorry to hear about your Dad too! I'll keep on

praying for him!

Vicki

michaele pyf wrote:

>

> Hello and Good Morning~

>

> Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic

> cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the

> D & C came back normal!!

>

> Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

>

> Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

> The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12

> and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH

> ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! " If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get

> pg then it is not ment to be! " " That is not 'how' it is supposed to

> be done! "

>

> Okay then, I said, " How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S

> and the sperm wash? " That to him was completely out of the question

> as well. His thinking is " we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we

> already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is

> not God's will! "

>

> WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called

> this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE

> down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway

> and bd from cds 10-17!!

>

> Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly,

> behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him

> and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg

> thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

>

> That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has

> CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My

> dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the

> CPT11!!!

>

> I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

>

> Thanks for listening!!!!!!

> {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

> e

>

>

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Hang in there e!!! I wonder if DH was just really really

embarrassed at the dr.'s office, they are so sensitive about their

sperm, really!! Sit down later and have a talk with him, I wouldn't want

to do the clomid behind his back either. I bet he will come around and

agree to the clomid. I'm sorry to hear about your Dad too! I'll keep on

praying for him!

Vicki

michaele pyf wrote:

>

> Hello and Good Morning~

>

> Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic

> cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the

> D & C came back normal!!

>

> Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

>

> Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

> The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12

> and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH

> ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! " If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get

> pg then it is not ment to be! " " That is not 'how' it is supposed to

> be done! "

>

> Okay then, I said, " How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S

> and the sperm wash? " That to him was completely out of the question

> as well. His thinking is " we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we

> already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is

> not God's will! "

>

> WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called

> this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE

> down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway

> and bd from cds 10-17!!

>

> Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly,

> behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him

> and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg

> thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

>

> That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has

> CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My

> dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the

> CPT11!!!

>

> I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

>

> Thanks for listening!!!!!!

> {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

> e

>

>

>

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e,

Honey, I am so sorry you are going through this !!! Life can be so

unfair! I really think you and DH need to be in agreement on the

issue though (although it is easy for me to say, as I have never been

in your shoes). If it helps at all, your DH is not the only one who

feels that way. Mine would never go along w/ any IF treatments, his

reasoning being the same. We have already been blessed w/ 2 beautiful

children and if we need any kind of assistance to conceive then it is

not God's will for us to have any more. I am reasonably sure he

would not feel that way if we didn't have any children, which makes it

all the more frustrating.

You and DH and especially your father are in my prayers. I wish there

was more I could do for you, but I can pray.

Take Care

Kendall

>

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e, You just have so much on your plate right now... I can see how you're getting so upset. Well, I'm sure your dh's decision would be upsetting even if nothing else was going on. I can't really tell you what to do about it but I can tell you what I'd do... if it would help. I think the secrecy might would be really hard on you and in fact make you more upset than you are... but I know that you don't want to give up on this. Does your dh give any reason for not wanting to do it this way? Is it possible that more talking may lead the two of you to a mutual decision? The only thing that comes to mind when reading that he doesn't want to go through all of that is he thinks that the whole thing may become stressful. I think we all know that as each cycle passes, we become more and more obsessed and maybe he doesn't want add stress to your lives. Honestly, I could've seen telling me the same thing if we had more than and he knew that it wouldn't be the last straw for me. When I was crying that we'd never have another he was always very quick to tell me that at least we do have one beautiful daughter and if we never get anymore then she'd be enough. My guess is that your dh just doesn't want the whole ttc thing to become an obsession... but you'll never know this if you and he never get a chance to talk about things. Does he work weekends? Maybe if he's off then you can get someone to take the girls for a day while the two of you have a whole day to try to come to an agreement... I hope the two of you can come to a decision soon that you can live with. I know this must be an extremely hard time for you. ((((HUGS)))) Amy 21w 1d Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~ Hello and Good Morning~ Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!! Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck?? Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right?? The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!" Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!" WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!! Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance???? That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!! I just want to RUN away and never return!!! Thanks for listening!!!!!! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} e Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e, You just have so much on your plate right now... I can see how you're getting so upset. Well, I'm sure your dh's decision would be upsetting even if nothing else was going on. I can't really tell you what to do about it but I can tell you what I'd do... if it would help. I think the secrecy might would be really hard on you and in fact make you more upset than you are... but I know that you don't want to give up on this. Does your dh give any reason for not wanting to do it this way? Is it possible that more talking may lead the two of you to a mutual decision? The only thing that comes to mind when reading that he doesn't want to go through all of that is he thinks that the whole thing may become stressful. I think we all know that as each cycle passes, we become more and more obsessed and maybe he doesn't want add stress to your lives. Honestly, I could've seen telling me the same thing if we had more than and he knew that it wouldn't be the last straw for me. When I was crying that we'd never have another he was always very quick to tell me that at least we do have one beautiful daughter and if we never get anymore then she'd be enough. My guess is that your dh just doesn't want the whole ttc thing to become an obsession... but you'll never know this if you and he never get a chance to talk about things. Does he work weekends? Maybe if he's off then you can get someone to take the girls for a day while the two of you have a whole day to try to come to an agreement... I hope the two of you can come to a decision soon that you can live with. I know this must be an extremely hard time for you. ((((HUGS)))) Amy 21w 1d Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~ Hello and Good Morning~ Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!! Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck?? Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right?? The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!" Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!" WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!! Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance???? That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!! I just want to RUN away and never return!!! Thanks for listening!!!!!! {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} e Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e,

OMG sweetie - it never rains it pours! I think you need to sit down with dh when the girls are in bed and have a real heart to heart. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and that you would never want to dishonest or do anything behind his back. But that this is something that you have wanted so long (which I'm sure he is aware of) that it would break your heart to give up without at least trying the clomid! Why did you go through with the surgery if you weren't at least going to ttc after? Maybe with some reasoning in a calm environment (without the dr present), he might understand better!

I'm also so sorry to hear about your Dad. But keep your chin up sweetie, it might work this time. I'm keeping you all in my prayers.

Love & hugs,

Jo-Ann

Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

Hello and Good Morning~

Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!!

Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!"

Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!"

WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!!

Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!!

I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

Thanks for listening!!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

e

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e,

OMG sweetie - it never rains it pours! I think you need to sit down with dh when the girls are in bed and have a real heart to heart. Tell him exactly how you are feeling and that you would never want to dishonest or do anything behind his back. But that this is something that you have wanted so long (which I'm sure he is aware of) that it would break your heart to give up without at least trying the clomid! Why did you go through with the surgery if you weren't at least going to ttc after? Maybe with some reasoning in a calm environment (without the dr present), he might understand better!

I'm also so sorry to hear about your Dad. But keep your chin up sweetie, it might work this time. I'm keeping you all in my prayers.

Love & hugs,

Jo-Ann

Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~

Hello and Good Morning~

Dr. said EVERYTHING looks wonderful. He basically said the my pelvic cavity looks 100% minus one fallopian tube. The path report from the D & C came back normal!!

Now you are ALL wondering why I am an emotional wreck??

Well~~~~Dh ~~go figure right??

The Dr. DID perscribe Clomid, and also wants to do the U/S at cd 12 and for dh to go give sperm, have it washed and then injected. DH ABSOLUTELY refused!!!!! "If we need 'that' kind of assistance to get pg then it is not ment to be!" "That is not 'how' it is supposed to be done!"

Okay then, I said, "How 'bout we just try the clomid witout the U/S and the sperm wash?" That to him was completely out of the question as well. His thinking is "we do NOT need to get pg that badly, we already have 2 beautiful daughters and if we need the assistance it is not God's will!"

WE left the Drs. with NOTHING, no plan, no nothing!!! The Dr. called this AM to double check our (**DH's** decision)!! I immediately BROKE down started crying and he, the Dr., suggested I try the clomid anyway and bd from cds 10-17!!

Now where do I go with this~~~~???? Do I try the clomid secretly, behind DH's back? And feel as though I am *hiding* something from him and not being completely honest?? Or do I just drop the whole pg thinking until *IT HAPPENS* without assistance????

That is my dilema and I just feel as though the whole world has CRUSHED on my shoulders!! In ADDITION to this whole PG thing....My dad's chemo is NOT working!! They just changed it from 5 FU to the CPT11!!!

I just want to RUN away and never return!!!

Thanks for listening!!!!!!

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

e

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Hi e,

Sorry you are having such a rough time right now. I don't think

keeping secrets from your dh would help matters, although, I can see

why it is tempting. Maybe he (your dh) just needs time to think about

it and he'll come around. You are in my prayers,

32 Weeks

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Hi e,

Sorry you are having such a rough time right now. I don't think

keeping secrets from your dh would help matters, although, I can see

why it is tempting. Maybe he (your dh) just needs time to think about

it and he'll come around. You are in my prayers,

32 Weeks

[Guest guest]

Hi e,

Sorry you are having such a rough time right now. I don't think

keeping secrets from your dh would help matters, although, I can see

why it is tempting. Maybe he (your dh) just needs time to think about

it and he'll come around. You are in my prayers,

32 Weeks

[Guest guest]

Dear e,

Geez Sweetie... I'm so sorry to hear abut DH's reaction to treatment. I agree with the others though, you just really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. I think he'll come around. A lot of men get spooked by the whole insemination thing, but you taking Clomid isn't that invasive at all.

I'm terribly sorry your Dad isn't responding to the Chemo right now. It sounds as though he's in good care and I hope the DR's can get the treatment just right for him really soon.

{{{HUGS}}}

PS: I'm praying for you dear!

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Dear e,

Geez Sweetie... I'm so sorry to hear abut DH's reaction to treatment. I agree with the others though, you just really need to sit down and have a heart to heart with him. I think he'll come around. A lot of men get spooked by the whole insemination thing, but you taking Clomid isn't that invasive at all.

I'm terribly sorry your Dad isn't responding to the Chemo right now. It sounds as though he's in good care and I hope the DR's can get the treatment just right for him really soon.

{{{HUGS}}}

PS: I'm praying for you dear!

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e

I hope your dh comes around and changes his mind. Why did he let you

go through w/the surgery if he wasn't going to go on to the next

level. I would try and sit down and talk to him. Sometimes it takes

guys a little longer to come around.

Pam

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e

I hope your dh comes around and changes his mind. Why did he let you

go through w/the surgery if he wasn't going to go on to the next

level. I would try and sit down and talk to him. Sometimes it takes

guys a little longer to come around.

Pam

[Guest guest]

e

I hope your dh comes around and changes his mind. Why did he let you

go through w/the surgery if he wasn't going to go on to the next

level. I would try and sit down and talk to him. Sometimes it takes

guys a little longer to come around.

Pam

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e, Oh I wish I could make it better for you, you are going through so much and I know how much you want another little one. I think Amy could be on to something...maybe your dh doesn't want to become obsessed with ttc. I hope you two can talk and you can explain to him how important this is to you. You are happy to be blessed with the children you have but you feel your family isn't complete yet. Maybe you could come up with some kind of compromise, you know, have your dh try the Clomid and all for a certain about of time, maybe 6 months or so. I don't know, just an idea. I wish I could make it better for you. Please try to take care of yourself. I am praying for you and your family. Re: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e, Oh I wish I could make it better for you, you are going through so much and I know how much you want another little one. I think Amy could be on to something...maybe your dh doesn't want to become obsessed with ttc. I hope you two can talk and you can explain to him how important this is to you. You are happy to be blessed with the children you have but you feel your family isn't complete yet. Maybe you could come up with some kind of compromise, you know, have your dh try the Clomid and all for a certain about of time, maybe 6 months or so. I don't know, just an idea. I wish I could make it better for you. Please try to take care of yourself. I am praying for you and your family. Re: Post~Op update!! I am an emotional wreck~~~~~ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e, I really think you and dh will be able to work things out but will keep you both in my prayers. You are so right....Good things come to those who went!! You remember that! Just look at all of us, we could of given up after our losses! You are not alone, we are here for you anytime. Take care. Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e, I really think you and dh will be able to work things out but will keep you both in my prayers. You are so right....Good things come to those who went!! You remember that! Just look at all of us, we could of given up after our losses! You are not alone, we are here for you anytime. Take care. Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com

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e, I really think you and dh will be able to work things out but will keep you both in my prayers. You are so right....Good things come to those who went!! You remember that! Just look at all of us, we could of given up after our losses! You are not alone, we are here for you anytime. Take care. Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com