Guest guest Posted April 29, 2004 Report Share Posted April 29, 2004 Sharon, This is very common or at least this is what I have gone thru for the last four years with . He acts like there is not a thing wrong with him at the Oncologist office and when I do have to call them they act surprised. I finally had to tell them that he puts on the funny, joking act and once we are in the car a whole new personality arrives. I think it is their way of not wanting to give in. Just take a deep breath and take one day at a time. I know it's not easy, but can you imagine how they are feeling. Best Wishes, Joyce > Hi, everyone! > > Mom went to UVA yesterday for the tests. She tolerated them well and > seemed a bit perky while at the hospital. She seems to perk up in > the presence of healthcare professionals, but then crashes back into > gloom when she gets home. Is this common? > > I feel so inadequate as I can't get her to feel more positive. > > I went by to take her to get her hair done this morning, and she > seemed fairly well. By the time she got home, she said she felt bad > all over. > > I'm not criticizing, because she has every right to feel gloomy. I'm > just venting my frustration. > > Thinking positive thoughts for all of you, > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2004 Report Share Posted April 29, 2004 Sometimes depression causes this or extreme fatigue. She may be trying to please you and it might be that puts a little strain on her. Let her know she doesn't always have to put on a happy face,it's ok to moan and groan then put it aside. Easier said then done. You are always so positive and upbeat,which is a great way to be,some others will always see a glass half empty to your s which is half full. Just hang tough and sometimes it's just a matter of time and acceptance. Hugs and prayers Nick & Jane Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2004 Report Share Posted April 29, 2004 Sharon, Bert tells me everything that is going on and when I remind him to bring it up with the doctor when he sees him he always says yes. When we get there, all is well!!!! Basically, for us Thank God, all is well but it wasn't always that way. Hence the reason why he landed in the hospital last year for over a week with a severe colon infection brought on by the 5fu and non-stop diarrhea. More GRRRRRRRR Monika > Hi, everyone! > > Mom went to UVA yesterday for the tests. She tolerated them well and > seemed a bit perky while at the hospital. She seems to perk up in > the presence of healthcare professionals, but then crashes back into > gloom when she gets home. Is this common? > > I feel so inadequate as I can't get her to feel more positive. > > I went by to take her to get her hair done this morning, and she > seemed fairly well. By the time she got home, she said she felt bad > all over. > > I'm not criticizing, because she has every right to feel gloomy. I'm > just venting my frustration. > > Thinking positive thoughts for all of you, > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2004 Report Share Posted April 29, 2004 Hi Sharon, It's good to hear that she is taking the tests. Now you will know what is involved and she can make an educated decision about treatment. About feeling perky around doctors, I thought it was just a man thing. My husband always puts on a good show, just as the others have mentioned. I think that is why when he decided to quit chemo, his doctor was very upset. Jeff had put on such a good acting job when he saw his onc. that the onc. couldn't understand why Jeff was saying that he couldn't tolerate it anymore. When he was around me and family, he didn't bother putting energy into making us believe that all was well. Maybe it is there way of trying to avoid more tests or more questions?? Oh well, Just hang in there. It does take alot out of them, when I put myself in my husbands place I don't think I would take things anywhere as good as he does. My thoughts and prayers are with your mom and your family. Becky Beach caregiver to Jeff, diag 8/01 recur 5/03 with liver and abd mets oct 03 - 5 treatments of cpt11/5fu/leu nov 03 - stopped all chemo treatments to just enjoy what time God gives him without all the horrible side effects of chemo > Hi, everyone! > > Mom went to UVA yesterday for the tests. She tolerated them well and > seemed a bit perky while at the hospital. She seems to perk up in > the presence of healthcare professionals, but then crashes back into > gloom when she gets home. Is this common? > > I feel so inadequate as I can't get her to feel more positive. > > I went by to take her to get her hair done this morning, and she > seemed fairly well. By the time she got home, she said she felt bad > all over. > > I'm not criticizing, because she has every right to feel gloomy. I'm > just venting my frustration. > > Thinking positive thoughts for all of you, > > Sharon Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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