Re: Programs for BPD Research and Treatment

[Guest guest]

I have a question. Are Borderlines in bad moods most of the time? Is that a

characteristic? I don't remember reading that anywhere? So, I am wondering

if any other parents have experienced this. My daughter is in a rotten mood

95% of the time. Usually bites off my head about everything. At the present

time, her finances are not that great, so she is being a bit more pleasant,

probably so if she needs assistance, she thinks I will come to her rescue. And

I

know if I don't assist her, there will be _ell to pay.

[Guest guest]

Edith

" Thank you " seems like too little to say for all this wonderful information

you sent along to me.

Jean

[Guest guest]

cascorsam@... wrote:

> Edith

>

> What can be done so that their " self " can improve, so that they do not feel

> so non existent? I love my daughter, however the last few years have made me

> so angry with her, and angry because she seemed so intent on destroying

herself

> through her lousy and often dangerous choices. What can I do to help her

> stop this behavior?

Hi

There are no easy answers but therapy can help. Your daughter needs to

learn to be responsible for her behavior. This whole area of personality

disorders is relatively new. Historically:

1980 - BPD first appeared in the DSM (the psychiatrist's bible).

1989 - Kreisman's book " I Hate You - Don't Leave Me " was the first

book published for the lay public. It appeared in 1989.

1998 - " Stop Walking On Eggshells " (SWOE), the 'bible' for these

WelcomeToOz lists, was published in 1998. SWOE was co-authored by the

Randi Kreger, the owner of the WelcomeToOz Family of NonBP Email Support

Groups. There is also an accompanying Workbook (SWOEW, 2002) that we

highly recommend. For info on SWOE and SWOEW go to:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/books/swoe.shtml

http://www.bpdcentral.com/books/swoe_workbook.shtml

Also, there's a booklet on the BPDCentral.com website titled " Hope for

Parents: Helping Your Borderline Son or Daughter Without Sacrificing

Your Family Or Yourself. " The URL for more info is at:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/bks/hope.shtml

Besides SWOE and SWOEW, other books you may want to read include (some

may be available through your local library):

- " I'M NOT SUPPOSED TO BE HERE: My Recovery From BPD " by

Reiland, a recovered BP. For more info and how to order, go to:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/books/supposed.shtml

- " LOST IN THE MIRROR: An Inside Look at Borderline Personality

Disorder " by A. Moskowitz, MD. This is a self-help book for BPs.

It is available in bookstores or it may be ordered through BPDCentral at:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/books/more_books.shtml

- " ECLIPSES: Behind the borderline personality disorder: DBT

therapy from the patient's viewpoint. " And I believe there is a link on

BPD Central to the www site of the publisher.

- " THE ANGRY HEART: Overcoming Borderline and Addictive Disorders " , by

ph Santoro, Cohen, ph Santoro PhD. ISBN: 1572240806.

Websites of interest:

For an overview of BPD go to:

http://www.borderlinedisorders.com/public.htm

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) website on BPD is at:

http://www.nimh.nih.gov/publicat/bpd.cfm

To read " The Borderline Dance & The Non-Borderlines' Dilemma " by AJ

Mahari, a recovered BP and owner of the BorderPD list, go to:

http://www.mental-health-matters.com/articles/article.php?artID=511

Therapy:

Not all therapists are trained to work with BPs and/or their family

members but there are different therapies that do work. For info on " How

To Choose A BPD Therapist " , go to:

http://www.bpdcentral.com/resources/therapist/main.shtml

DBT is not the only therapy that can help but you can perhaps learn from

some of the URLs that follow.

- DIALECTIC BEHAVIORAL THERAPY (DBT) is a type of cognitive-behavioral

therapy developed by Marsha Linehan, Ph.D. at the University of

Washington that has been successfully used to treat people who have BPD.

The BP, however, must WANT to change in order for this therapy to work.

Like SWOE, DBT is geared to high-functioning BPs who are young (teens to

mid-40s). For an overview of DBT go to:

http://www.priory.co.uk/dbt1.htm

- DBT SKILLS TRAINING is usually carried out in a group context by

someone other that the individual therapist. In the skills training

groups, patients are taught skills considered relevant to the particular

problems experienced by people with borderline personality disorder.

There are four modules focusing in turn on four groups of skills:

Core mindfulness skills

Interpersonal effectiveness skills

Emotion modulation skills

Distress tolerance skills

Questions that can be asked in seeking a BPD-knowledgable/trained DBT

therapist are listed on pages 238-239 of SWOE. To locate a DBT-trained

therapist in your area, see the phone number listed on the following

website:

http://www.brtc.psych.washington.edu

Also, Behavioral Technology Transfer Group (BTTG) in Seattle WA has a

list of clinicians who have completed Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

training with their company. You can send an email request for referral

to a DBT-trained therapist in your area to:

DBTinfo@...

The National Alliance for the Mentally Ill (NAMI) maintains a list of

therapists who treat BPD; their hotline number is 800-950-NAMI. Also

NAMI has local groups that one can attend.

And, finally, The National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality

Disorder (NEABPD) runs 15-week programs specifically for NonBPs. The

course teaches the NonBP how to use DBT. For more info go to:

http://borderlinepersonalitydisorder.com/family_programs_.htm

- Edith

List Manager / WelcomeToOz Family of NonBP Email Support Groups