Re: Looking for alternatives...

[Guest guest]

Hi Patty,

I tend to also have very mixed feelings about the system and the centers

she has been in thus far. I agree that she needs an enormous amount of

structure as well as enforcement that when she makes bad choices she

must pay the consequences...what I have a problem with is that when she

has one of her melt downs she should not have a penalty enforced for

each thing she does wrong during that melt down...for example she and I

spoke on the phone last night and she was very angry with me. She was

telling me about some things the staff had done that she did not agree

with, she was placing the blame for everything that happened on the

staff without acknowledging that to some extent her actions precipitated

alot of the actions the staff had to take. At any rate she got angry

with me and felt I was taking the staffs side and was against her. She

did not tell me that on the phone but I know her well enough that i was

pretty certain that was how she felt. Sure enough later that evening the

staff called to get permission to give her a PRN because she was

over-wrought and acting out (fighting staff, hurting herself, cussing

ect.)

During this one incident she accumulated 7 days of privilege

restriction, which basically means she will sit and not participate in

the majority of activities they have each day...this seems like a recipe

for disaster in my eyes as the majority of unstructured and occupied

time sends her into all sorts of chaos.

Another issue I have is that several of the staff come across as

overbearing, cold and bossy instead of trying to have a cheery

disposition to some extent. Since from what I understand BPD's react and

actually even out or adjust there moods to others that are interacting

w/ them it seems to me the people would make an effort to be empathetic

as opposed to dictatorial and cold.

Thank you for responding, and I hope to speak more with you.

Theresa

Mistress Theresa

Hoping to shine a new light into a beautifully dark life.

[Guest guest]

Where is this place your daughter is in? Couldn't seem to get my daughter

place anywhere. Thanx Debbie

[Guest guest]

I believe it is you that I am asking.

Debbie: who are you asking?

funnygirl1154@... wrote:Where is this place your daughter is in?

Couldn't seem to get my daughter

place anywhere. Thanx Debbie

akuehnel3@... wrote:

I would not agree w/ the treatment of your daugher either. No one should

have consequences that last 7 days!!! That's crazy! I have not had this type

of

experience by any means where my daughter is. She earns points to get

privileges, buy calls, buy special food . . etc. If she doesn't have the

points,

she can't get the privileges. There is no punishment at all . . they continue

to be in groups and go on the outings which are quite frequent and varied.

I've also been extremely impressed by the staff; they're very positive.