Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 Went with my 26yo BP son this morning for an assessment for a DBT program at the local hospital. Didn't go well - after 45 minutes he had an argument with the assessor after the assessor demanded that he stop taking Xanax to go into the program. When he told the assessor that he wouldn't the doctor told him that he couldn't allow him into the program and ended the session. He has met this Doctor before and they clashed last time. When we left the building my son threw Coca Cola all over the walls. He was so angry on the way home and then after we gotr home he got very emotional and upset at the " rejection " . I am not sure how these things work but the Xanax is one of only 2 medications he is on and his dosage is very controlled and it helps keep him on an even him. . He was also concerned that the program took teh form of group sessions - he didn't know this - but I believe he can get used to this idea. I am sure that this type of program will help him but getting him in the front door is going to be a challenge. He was keen this morning and committed. I am not sure what the next step will be? Chris. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 29, 2004 Report Share Posted June 29, 2004 Oh how deflating for you and your son Did they explain why no Xanax allowed? I'd be unhappy that the assessor argued with your son - hardly professional Will they talk to you alone ( I know this is hard when he is an adult) Leslee Re: DBT Programs Went with my 26yo BP son this morning for an assessment for a DBT program at the local hospital. Didn't go well - after 45 minutes he had an argument with the assessor after the assessor demanded that he stop taking Xanax to go into the program. When he told the assessor that he wouldn't the doctor told him that he couldn't allow him into the program and ended the session. He has met this Doctor before and they clashed last time. When we left the building my son threw Coca Cola all over the walls. He was so angry on the way home and then after we gotr home he got very emotional and upset at the " rejection " . I am not sure how these things work but the Xanax is one of only 2 medications he is on and his dosage is very controlled and it helps keep him on an even him. . He was also concerned that the program took teh form of group sessions - he didn't know this - but I believe he can get used to this idea. I am sure that this type of program will help him but getting him in the front door is going to be a challenge. He was keen this morning and committed. I am not sure what the next step will be? Chris. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2004 Report Share Posted July 4, 2004 I am not sure about these programs, but I have often thought that If I could get my daughter into a facility where they could (under a controlled environment get her off her meds and reasses her with new ones I would be all for it) Do you think this might be what they had in mind but approached it incorrectly? SHe has been on all different meds for so long I don't even think she could be truly assessed while on so much medication. Just and idea Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 4, 2004 Report Share Posted July 4, 2004 , No, the assessor stuffed up - he thought my son was abusing the Xanax, but didn't realise that this med is strictly controlled (I control it). My son's 2 other doctors have chastised the assessor and he has tried to ring my son twice and apologise, but my son doesn't want to deal with him anymore. I am hoping that the situation can be recovered and my son can go into teh program. Chris. Re: DBT Programs I am not sure about these programs, but I have often thought that If I could get my daughter into a facility where they could (under a controlled environment get her off her meds and reasses her with new ones I would be all for it) Do you think this might be what they had in mind but approached it incorrectly? SHe has been on all different meds for so long I don't even think she could be truly assessed while on so much medication. Just and idea Send questions & concerns to WTOParentsOfBPs-owner . " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2004 Report Share Posted July 5, 2004 Hi, I've been following your's and 's posts lately and agree with what you've been saying about trying to make your BP daughter/son happy by shelling out for material things! I think for my part, I felt some guilt that I did something wrong as a parent for her to turn out this way! So I just tried to make her happy like you did, by buying " things " for her which were only a temporary fix and the next day she was back the same way again. But I think Rivka is right about the genetics part, as on my husband's side of the family is alot of depression and agoraphobia, claustrophobia, paranoia, etc. and I do believe that if you're born with tendencies to be paranoid, or ultra sensitive, anything can be taken as being traumatic, or can shape you into becoming BP. In my daughter's case, she too is very beautiful and intelligent, but has always been since a baby unable to be apart from me, hated school, had school phobia and lost friends because her behavior was so bizarre all the way through grade school and up. I think she too, likes to be the center of attention all the time. She had a boyfriend up until a week ago, and she had been going with him for about 5 months. He lived a couple of hours away, so it was hard, but he really loved her and she let him go because his dad is dying of cancer, and suddenly she isn't the most important thing in his world right now, he needs to be with his family and she doens't have any compassion for him or understand that! I wonder how other people look at me sometimes, because they don't understand that she has this " disease " and it looks like I've just been a bad parent, because I didn't raise her better! Anyway, I hope your son can forgive the assessor, but in my experience, with their black and white thinking, the assessor is the evil one now, and when you're in the evil slot, you don't stand a chance. They can be very stubborn about it too. Hope he gives it another chance. Jan Re: DBT Programs > > > I am not sure about these programs, but I have often thought that If I > could get my daughter into a facility where they could (under a > controlled environment get her off her meds and reasses her with new > ones I would be all for it) Do you think this might be what they had in > mind but approached it incorrectly? SHe has been on all different meds > for so long I don't even think she could be truly assessed while on so > much medication. > > Just and idea > > > > > > Send questions & concerns to WTOParentsOfBPs-owner . " Stop Walking on Eggshells, " a primer for non-BPs can be ordered via 1-888-35-SHELL (). For the table of contents, see http://www.BPDCentral.com > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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