Re: May 11, 2006- Question of the day

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My obesity has limited my life dramatically. More mentally then physically.

Mentally I alway's feel like people are starring at me and that makes me not

want to go out. I have caught many people starring and the first thing that goes

through my mind is that they are thinking, " OMG look how big she is. " My

friends started to slowly drop off because I did not have much of a social life.

My last relationship suffered severly due to my obesity. My ex-boyfriend did

love me the way I was, however, I couldn't love myself or understand why he did.

I thought something was wrong with him. Yet, it was me all along. I told him I

wanted to get help at a group or something to start dealing with my issues. It

never came to pass.

My physical state suffered because I started to get to where I couldn't even

move around my house without focusing on how big I was and how I would run out

of breath so easily just doing the simple things of life. I couldn't go up and

down stairs which is all we had at our one home. So imagine how much I actually

got done upstairs.

After the surgery I barely run out of breath. NOTHING like I used to. My BMI

was 57 at time of surgery and is now 48. I still have a ways to go but I feel so

much better already. I walk 6-9 miles a week. I am so much more outgoing again.

I have found me again and am loving it. Even my kids are happier and that is the

2nd reason I did this next to for myself. I am more social and wanting to be

out of the house all the time. Amazing what losing weight can do for your

confidence.

Shauna

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I dont see today's question of the day so Ill answer this question.

My weight made me unhappy because people always stared and made rude

mean comments about my a$$ like it bothered them. How come its okay

to be mean to fat people and not ugly rude people?????

Little kids were the worse and there parents never corrected them.

Prejudice starts early. I would spank my kids if they made fun of

other people. It's just plain rude.

My weight kept me from having fun in high school and my teens. No

cute clothes fit me and guys thought I was good for easy sex because

no one else would date me. I was fat but still had self respect so I

stayed home instead and ate more and got fatter.

I wish all fat teenagers could have surgery and be happy about

themselves. My high school days were nothing but bad memories.

Bridget

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Shauna - Hey!It sounds like you were inside my head reading my mind!

LOL

I'm glad you are already feeling much better!WTG!

Kim

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> My obesity has limited my life dramatically. More mentally then

physically. Mentally I alway's feel like people are starring at me

and that makes me not want to go out. I have caught many people

starring and the first thing that goes through my mind is that they

are thinking, " OMG look how big she is. " My friends started to

slowly drop off because I did not have much of a social life.

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couldn't even move around my house without focusing on how big I was

and how I would run out of breath so easily just doing the simple

things of life. I couldn't go up and down stairs which is all we had

at our one home. So imagine how much I actually got done upstairs.

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> > How has your obesity limited your life and relationships?

Oh goodness, mine has effected my life a great deal.

Mentally I am drained and very depressed. I'm always on guard

expecting someone to either make a rude remark, stare, or if it's

someone I'm friends with or related to - I receive frequent lectures

or comments on how they don't " know how I can stand being that big. "

I feel that it has effected my ability to trust people, and I hate

it. I'm very bitter about romantic relationships. I either attract

guys who try to hound me in to losing weight for them, or the ones

who want me to remain fat/or get fatter. I avoid or have an intense

fear of meeting new people because I think they'll hate me because

I'm fat. Which has happened before.

I feel like my life revolves around my weight. It's all I think

about now. If I'm not trying to find a new diet to go on, I'm in so

much physical pain I become angry with myself for allowing my weight

to get out of control and dwell on it.

I'll stop whining now. lol =P

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I for one like reading about the childhood obesity articles that I

read on this board. My sisters kids are getting obese and when I

question her food choices she says they are kids and will grow out of

their baby fat. Grrr. Fat kids became fat adults.

My mom says she regrets pushing food as a reward. She cried when I

told her I wanted surgery because she felt guilty about making me fat.

I only wish she would face my sister about what she is doing to her

kids. My nieces are looking at juvenile diabetes and a shortened life

span at the rate they are gaining weight.

Bridget

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