Re: Combatting Lies with Truth

[Guest guest]

I'm reading a book called " The Zen of Eating "

that you might find useful. One of it's big

points - which I have found incredibly useful

when the kind of negative voices you are talking

about start shouting at me - is the concept of

Inevitable Suffering versus Optional Suffering.

Inevitable suffering is the kinds of things

that just happen in life, nothing you can do

about them - death, job loss, etc. Optional

suffering is suffering we take on ourselves

for no real good reason. " I'm fat and ugly

and no one will ever love me " is optional

suffering - we take it on because we DECIDE

to, for whatever individual reason we might

decide to. The trick is recognizing it as

OPTIONAL and deciding not to exercise the

otpion.

I'm a world-class worrier - I should have an

Olympic medal in Pointless Worry by now! I've

found this concept of optional suffering very

helpful when I find myself starting to obsess

about something in the future, or in the past

or even right now. STOP - this is suffering

I'm imposing ON MYSELF, for no real good

reason. It's optional, and thank you but,

no, I don't think I'll take that on right

now, have a nice day, go away. It's very

freeing to be able to recognize this about

our own bothersome thought processes.

[Guest guest]

Hi Tripp.

Perhaps you'd like to try poking around on http://www.bodypositive.com/

Hopefully there might be some suggestions of interest and assistance to

you there.

Don't put up with those lies - counteract them strongly and immediately

with positive and self-loving affirmations. The more you remind

yourself of the good stuff, the more it will come to hold front and

centre in your mind. That's just the way our brains work!

Hugs

S

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> I am needing some encouragement. I am hearing lies in my head such

as " You are ugly " , " You

> are fat. " , " You are unlovable " , " You will never be married nor

dateable until you are smaller. "

>

> Can you help me counter-act these lies with truth?

> Also, I am willing for any good books to deal with this problem.

>

[Guest guest]

The first question I would 'ask' that voice is WHO SAYS?!? Its like

the old children sing song - Sticks and stones may break my bones, but

names will never hurt me! If YOU believe those things are true, then

they will be for YOU. But I doubt you are such a pile of unlovable!!

Sooooo, arm yourself with all the POSITIVE things you know to be true

about yourself and counter attack that voice with 'I don't think

so-es' until YOU win :) And remember in the immortal words of

Rodney Dangerfield when he was told he was 'fat' - he told that

person, " Well you are ugly, and I can loose weight. " Life is about

change, make yours as positive as you can and I bet the weight takes

care of itself. Trust your wonderful body and let the EXternal voices

chatter away - they AIN'T you.

ehugs, Katcha

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> I am needing some encouragement. I am hearing lies in my head such

as " You are ugly " , " You

> are fat. " , " You are unlovable " , " You will never be married nor

dateable until you are smaller. "

>

> Can you help me counter-act these lies with truth?

> Also, I am willing for any good books to deal with this problem.

>