Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 8:25:13 PM Eastern Daylight Time, shirlf3542@... writes: << I am so disappointed with myself. >> I'm so sorry you have that feeling Shirley, I would not be so disappointed. I would suggest a reevaluation either with your current Dr. or consider getting another Dr. You might feel better with a cooperative situation between your Dr. and yourself whoever the Dr. is treating your condition. Treatment would most likely go better too. Best of luck in whatever arrangement you come to with your decisions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 9:39:52 PM Eastern Daylight Time, poncho9191@... writes: << Best of luck in whatever arrangement you come to with your decisions. >> Thanks Poncho, I needed that encouragement. I have lost my spunk over the years of having this disease. Thanks again, Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Thanks Lacey, I feel like a truck ran over me. My body took a shock and I got so upset that now I am hurting all over. Maybe one day I will be able to speak my mind to a doctor. I hope so. I sure wouldn't want my daughter to accept that kind of treatment. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 10:00:29 PM Eastern Daylight Time, cracker@... writes: << I am really sorry that you had to go through that. >> Thanks Lacey, and lots of hugs back to you. It's nice to have a friend. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 In a message dated 7/27/00 10:05:28 PM Eastern Daylight Time, thrasher@... writes: << I don't think people with bad tempers like that need to have scalpels in their hands! >> Thanks , I sure do appreciate the support that I am getting from my friends in this support group. I am still shaken. I feel as though a truck ran over me. I must get stronger though. I am so tired of being a jellyfish with doctors. I thinks I take abuse from them because I am so needy for their help. When will I learn that they don't help me? I realize that most of them don't know how to help me but they put on a good act like they can. I know this he would never gotten by talking to my husband like that. Maybe some doctor's know they can abuse women. I hope only some women. Thanks again, , Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 My god! What a jerk! Is there anyone you can report him to? I know how you feel, though. These doctors are supposed to be the " authority " and we are conditioned to respect them. I think that's why we have a hard time standing up to them. Next time just grit your teeth and tell him to go to hell. I don't think I'd want that doctor touching me, much less operating. What would happen if he was in a bad mood? I don't think people with bad tempers like that need to have scalpels in their hands! shirlf3542@... wrote: > > Hi all, I have had a very disturbing day. I called the doctor's > office and > left a message with the nurse that I needed to go on tpn. She had the > doctor > call me back. He called me and was very curt and rude to me. He > wanted to > know what I wanted. I told him that the stint that the doctor in > Indianapolis put in my small duct was not letting me eat. I told him > that I > have lost 8 pounds in all twenty-eight pounds since this whole > pancreas > disease started. I tried to explain to him that I could only be on > tpn for > 12 hours straight. If I go longer I become very sick. He said that > is not > true. He said who takes care of your health. I said the doctor in > Indianapolis puts the stints in. He was getting angrier and said > again in a > ruff voice who takes care of your health? I caught on then and said > that I > have been to no one in Cincinnati and consider him my doctor. Then he > starts > yelling at me that I didn't show for an appointment that I had with > him. I > told him that I didn't believe I had an appointment with him and If I > did I > certainly apologize for missing it. He said I'll take care of it, > meaning > the tpn. See him in Sept. then he hung up. I was so upset and was > shaking > all over. I cried and cried. I don't feel well then to have to put > up with > that is terrible. My husband came home and I told him what had > happened so > he called this doctor's secretary and asked if Shirley had an > appointment > that she missed. The sec. said no. As my husband and I remembered > back to > the last appointment I had with this doctor he got angry and walked > out of > the room on us and didn't tell us to come back at any time. So we > left the > office thinking our appointment was over. He was angry because we > decided to > go with the doctor in Indiana over him for surgery. He was also angry > > because I told him that I had previously been in his hospital and the > surgeon > tending to me at that time refused to operate on me because he said > that my > pancreas did not have enough scar tissue in it yet to hold the > stitches and > there could be a law suit. He replied to us Well, he works for me. I > hired > him. Then stomped out of the office leaving us thinking well that's > that. > Our time is up. I was told previous to meeting this doctor by the > surgeon > who put in my port in that the other doctors didn't like him and > wouldn't > talk to him. A few weeks ago when I told him that I was going to > Indiana and > having stints placed in my small duct he said that he would work with > my > doctor there. He made six calls to the doctor in Indiana and the > Indiana > doctor would not take any of his calls. After I calmed down I thought > about > how he talked to me over the phone and realized that his inflated ego > was > bruised by my going to the doctor in Indiana. He wanted to operate on > me. > By the way the surgery he wanted to do was completely different from > the one > in Indiana. I don't know who's surgery is right for me maybe none. I > do > know that he had no right to talk to me like that. I just wish I had > been > able to control my emotions and let him know that I didn't appreciate > him > talking to me like that. My husband called him and talked with him > about the > tpn and told him that we did not have an appointment that we missed. > He said > well you probably left the office before you picked up your > appointment card. > He told us nothing about another appointment while we were there. He > just > stomped out, angry because his surgeon refused to operate on me. My > husband > went easy on him because he thought we might need him warts and all. > I wish > I had had the courage to tell him to stop abusing me. But I was > shocked and > telling someone off is not my style. It is very hard to do. Over the > years > many, many doctors have talked so ruddily to me when I was trying to > get a > diagnosis for the pain I was in. I am so broken in sprit from all > these > years of abuse from them. I have come to fear them and put them on a > pedestal. I am so disappointed with myself. Jelly fish that I am. > Shirley > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > > ---------------------------------------------------------------------- > PANCREATITIS SUPPORT NETWORK > Online e-mail group > > To reply to this message hit " reply " or send an e-mail to: > Pancreatitisegroups > > To subscribe to this e-mail group, simply send an e-mail to: > Pancreatitis-subscribeegroups > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 Your doctors behavior is TOTALLY unacceptable. At 08:11 PM 07/27/2000 EDT, you wrote: >Hi all, I have had a very disturbing day. I called the doctor's office and >left a message with the nurse that I needed to go on tpn. She had the doctor >call me back. He called me and was very curt and rude to me. He wanted to >know what I wanted. I told him that the stint that the doctor in >Indianapolis put in my small duct was not letting me eat. I told him that I >have lost 8 pounds in all twenty-eight pounds since this whole pancreas >disease started. I tried to explain to him that I could only be on tpn for >12 hours straight. If I go longer I become very sick. He said that is not >true. He said who takes care of your health. I said the doctor in >Indianapolis puts the stints in. He was getting angrier and said again in a >ruff voice who takes care of your health? I caught on then and said that I >have been to no one in Cincinnati and consider him my doctor. Then he starts >yelling at me that I didn't show for an appointment that I had with him. I >told him that I didn't believe I had an appointment with him and If I did I >certainly apologize for missing it. He said I'll take care of it, meaning >the tpn. See him in Sept. then he hung up. I was so upset and was shaking >all over. I cried and cried. I don't feel well then to have to put up with >that is terrible. My husband came home and I told him what had happened so >he called this doctor's secretary and asked if Shirley had an appointment >that she missed. The sec. said no. As my husband and I remembered back to >the last appointment I had with this doctor he got angry and walked out of >the room on us and didn't tell us to come back at any time. So we left the >office thinking our appointment was over. He was angry because we decided to >go with the doctor in Indiana over him for surgery. He was also angry >because I told him that I had previously been in his hospital and the surgeon >tending to me at that time refused to operate on me because he said that my >pancreas did not have enough scar tissue in it yet to hold the stitches and >there could be a law suit. He replied to us Well, he works for me. I hired >him. Then stomped out of the office leaving us thinking well that's that. >Our time is up. I was told previous to meeting this doctor by the surgeon >who put in my port in that the other doctors didn't like him and wouldn't >talk to him. A few weeks ago when I told him that I was going to Indiana and >having stints placed in my small duct he said that he would work with my >doctor there. He made six calls to the doctor in Indiana and the Indiana >doctor would not take any of his calls. After I calmed down I thought about >how he talked to me over the phone and realized that his inflated ego was >bruised by my going to the doctor in Indiana. He wanted to operate on me. >By the way the surgery he wanted to do was completely different from the one >in Indiana. I don't know who's surgery is right for me maybe none. I do >know that he had no right to talk to me like that. I just wish I had been >able to control my emotions and let him know that I didn't appreciate him >talking to me like that. My husband called him and talked with him about the >tpn and told him that we did not have an appointment that we missed. He said >well you probably left the office before you picked up your appointment card. > He told us nothing about another appointment while we were there. He just >stomped out, angry because his surgeon refused to operate on me. My husband >went easy on him because he thought we might need him warts and all. I wish >I had had the courage to tell him to stop abusing me. But I was shocked and >telling someone off is not my style. It is very hard to do. Over the years >many, many doctors have talked so ruddily to me when I was trying to get a >diagnosis for the pain I was in. I am so broken in sprit from all these >years of abuse from them. I have come to fear them and put them on a >pedestal. I am so disappointed with myself. Jelly fish that I am. Shirley > > > >PANCREATITIS SUPPORT NETWORK >Online e-mail group > >To reply to this message hit " reply " or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitisegroups > >To subscribe to this e-mail group, simply send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis-subscribeegroups > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 2000 Report Share Posted July 27, 2000 oops now i am having problems with that send button.... Your doctor should NEVER let his feelings get in the way of treating you..not just medically but as a human being. I had a problem communication with my GI (and i really like him now) so I wrote out ALL of how i felt and handed it to him and told him that he had to read it before we could go on. i wrote everything I was feeling about not being heard, how I had been treated and what i feared. It worked. I dont know if this guy can act better so you might want to find another doctor...i dont want anyone working on me that gets upset if his ego feathers get a bit ruffled. I am going to really pray you get someone that treats you better cause you deserve better. I am really sorry that you had to go through that. hugs, Lacey At 08:11 PM 07/27/2000 EDT, you wrote: >Hi all, I have had a very disturbing day. I called the doctor's office and >left a message with the nurse that I needed to go on tpn. She had the doctor >call me back. He called me and was very curt and rude to me. He wanted to >know what I wanted. I told him that the stint that the doctor in >Indianapolis put in my small duct was not letting me eat. I told him that I >have lost 8 pounds in all twenty-eight pounds since this whole pancreas >disease started. I tried to explain to him that I could only be on tpn for >12 hours straight. If I go longer I become very sick. He said that is not >true. He said who takes care of your health. I said the doctor in >Indianapolis puts the stints in. He was getting angrier and said again in a >ruff voice who takes care of your health? I caught on then and said that I >have been to no one in Cincinnati and consider him my doctor. Then he starts >yelling at me that I didn't show for an appointment that I had with him. I >told him that I didn't believe I had an appointment with him and If I did I >certainly apologize for missing it. He said I'll take care of it, meaning >the tpn. See him in Sept. then he hung up. I was so upset and was shaking >all over. I cried and cried. I don't feel well then to have to put up with >that is terrible. My husband came home and I told him what had happened so >he called this doctor's secretary and asked if Shirley had an appointment >that she missed. The sec. said no. As my husband and I remembered back to >the last appointment I had with this doctor he got angry and walked out of >the room on us and didn't tell us to come back at any time. So we left the >office thinking our appointment was over. He was angry because we decided to >go with the doctor in Indiana over him for surgery. He was also angry >because I told him that I had previously been in his hospital and the surgeon >tending to me at that time refused to operate on me because he said that my >pancreas did not have enough scar tissue in it yet to hold the stitches and >there could be a law suit. He replied to us Well, he works for me. I hired >him. Then stomped out of the office leaving us thinking well that's that. >Our time is up. I was told previous to meeting this doctor by the surgeon >who put in my port in that the other doctors didn't like him and wouldn't >talk to him. A few weeks ago when I told him that I was going to Indiana and >having stints placed in my small duct he said that he would work with my >doctor there. He made six calls to the doctor in Indiana and the Indiana >doctor would not take any of his calls. After I calmed down I thought about >how he talked to me over the phone and realized that his inflated ego was >bruised by my going to the doctor in Indiana. He wanted to operate on me. >By the way the surgery he wanted to do was completely different from the one >in Indiana. I don't know who's surgery is right for me maybe none. I do >know that he had no right to talk to me like that. I just wish I had been >able to control my emotions and let him know that I didn't appreciate him >talking to me like that. My husband called him and talked with him about the >tpn and told him that we did not have an appointment that we missed. He said >well you probably left the office before you picked up your appointment card. > He told us nothing about another appointment while we were there. He just >stomped out, angry because his surgeon refused to operate on me. My husband >went easy on him because he thought we might need him warts and all. I wish >I had had the courage to tell him to stop abusing me. But I was shocked and >telling someone off is not my style. It is very hard to do. Over the years >many, many doctors have talked so ruddily to me when I was trying to get a >diagnosis for the pain I was in. I am so broken in sprit from all these >years of abuse from them. I have come to fear them and put them on a >pedestal. I am so disappointed with myself. Jelly fish that I am. Shirley > > > >PANCREATITIS SUPPORT NETWORK >Online e-mail group > >To reply to this message hit " reply " or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitisegroups > >To subscribe to this e-mail group, simply send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis-subscribeegroups > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 In a message dated 7/28/00 1:40:15 AM Eastern Daylight Time, VLGreenhill@... writes: << I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. Vickie P. S. Shirley, please, please think about finding a new doctor. A doctor who has that kind of demeanor would be hard to trust. >> Thanks Vickie, that's a good idea. I will try to find another doctor. Have a good time with your husband. I hope you are not in a lot of pain and can enjoy yourself some. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 Shirley, I agree..find a new doctor..but only after you have let this one know exactly HOW you feel..not just for you but for all the suffering patients that come after you. hope you feel better soon Lacey At 05:39 AM 07/28/2000 -0000, you wrote: > >> Hi all, I have had a very disturbing day. I called the doctor's >office and left a message with the nurse that I needed to go on tpn. >She had the doctor call me back. He called me and was very curt and >rude to me. > >Shirley > > >Hello Shirley, > >I am so angry that I am shaking. No one has the right to talk to you >the way that doctor did, especially your physician. I would have >been so shocked that I probably would not have said anything either. >I wish that I could give you a great big hug...sounds like you need >one. I am just so sorry this happened to you. If there is anything >I can do, please let me know. > >I will write you later about my daughter that has pancreatitis. I am >preparing for a trip to the coast at the moment. The company my >husband works for gives us a trip every so often. There will be >several more couples there, so we really need to go (we really do not >want to go). My husband asked me today, if I felt like going. I >told him no, but I can stay in bed in a hotel as well as I can at >home. Oh well, the decor will be different. Anyway, I probably will >not be back on the board until Monday. > >I hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. > >Vickie > >P. S. Shirley, please, please think about finding a new doctor. A >doctor who has that kind of demeanor would be hard to trust. > > > > > > > >PANCREATITIS SUPPORT NETWORK >Online e-mail group > >To reply to this message hit " reply " or send an e-mail to: Pancreatitisegroups > >To subscribe to this e-mail group, simply send an e-mail to: Pancreatitis-subscribeegroups > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 As my husband and I remembered back to the last appointment I had with this doctor he got angry and walked out of the room on us and didn't tell us to come back at any time. So we left the office thinking our appointment was over. He was angry because we decided to go with the doctor in Indiana over him for surgery. He was also angry because I told him that I had previously been in his hospital and the surgeon tending to me at that time refused to operate on me because he said that my pancreas did not have enough scar tissue in it yet to hold the stitches and there could be a law suit. He replied to us Well, he works for me. I hired him. Then stomped out of the office leaving us thinking well that's that. Our time is up. I was told previous to meeting this doctor by the surgeon who put in my port in that the other doctors didn't like him and wouldn't talk to him. A few weeks ago when I told him that I was going to Indiana and having stints placed in my small duct he said that he would work with my doctor there. He made six calls to the doctor in Indiana and the Indiana doctor would not take any of his calls. After I calmed down I thought about how he talked to me over the phone and realized that his inflated ego was bruised by my going to the doctor in Indiana. He wanted to operate on me. By the way the surgery he wanted to do was completely different from the one in Indiana. I don't know who's surgery is right for me maybe none. I do know that he had no right to talk to me like that. I just wish I had been able to control my emotions and let him know that I didn't appreciate him talking to me like that. My husband called him and talked with him about the tpn and told him that we did not have an appointment that we missed. He said well you probably left the office before you picked up your appointment card. He told us nothing about another appointment while we were there. He just stomped out, angry because his surgeon refused to operate on me. My husband went easy on him because he thought we might need him warts and all. I wish I had had the courage to tell him to stop abusing me. But I was shocked and telling someone off is not my style. It is very hard to do. Over the years many, many doctors have talked so ruddily to me when I was trying to get a diagnosis for the pain I was in. I am so broken in sprit from all these years of abuse from them. I have come to fear them and put them on a pedestal. I am so disappointed with myself. Jelly fish that I am. Shirley Shirley, I read this with great surprise. I want to pass on something to you that my very own GP told me. If a Dr., ANY Dr. gives you a hard time or takes offense to another Dr seeing you or attending you, then you should RUN, not walk to the nearest exit. He told me that any Dr who would be offended by you getting the help you feel you need is not worth your time or money! I have always remembered this! By no means should you fear your Dr. nor should you put them on a pedastool. They are human just like you and put their pants on one leg at a time. They are there to help you, not to be admired.(although I know a few who think they should be) Just like your automechnic. If they don't fix it, they don't get your buisness. Becky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 -- >Hi all, I have had a very disturbing day. I called the doctor's office and left a message with the nurse that I needed to go on tpn. She had the doctor call me back. He called me and was very curt and rude to me. He said who takes care of your health. I said the doctor in Indianapolis puts the stints in. He was getting angrier and said again in a ruff voice who takes care of your health? I caught on then and said that I have been to no one in Cincinnati and consider him my doctor. Then he starts yelling at me that I didn't show for an appointment that I had with him. I told him that I didn't believe I had an appointment with him and If I did I certainly apologize for missing it. He said I'll take care of it, meaning the tpn. See him in Sept. then he hung up. I was so upset and was shaking all over. >I was told previous to meeting this doctor by the surgeon who put in my port in that the other doctors didn't like him and wouldn't talk to him. Oh, Shirley. I feel so bad for you. These doctors can be sooo intimidating. Please don't beat yourself up for not being able to argue back with this doctor. We've had years of conditioning to treat medical people with respect & almost reverence; it's hard to learn to have enough self-confidence to stand up to their arrogance & demand for them to also treat you with respect. It sounds like you need a different doctor; it eems that no one gets along with him as either a patient or a collegue. It sounds like he has a major " God complex " . As for him seeing you in September, what are you supposed to do for nutrition until then? I wonder why he asked " who takes care of your health " . I hope you can find a doctor who will realize that the answer to " who takes care of your health " includes you, the patient, as well as any medical professionals. Hope you are feeling better today. Please take care of yourself. jang --== Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ ==-- Before you buy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 2000 Report Share Posted July 28, 2000 In a message dated 7/28/00 7:49:57 AM Eastern Daylight Time, briffle@... writes: << By no means should you fear your Dr. nor should you put them on a pedastool. They are human just like you and put their pants on one leg at a time. They are there to help you, not to be admired.(although I know a few who think they should be) Just like your automechnic. If they don't fix it, they don't get your buisness. Becky >> Thanks Becky, I know you are right in what you are telling me. I have searched my brain so many times over the years trying to figure out why I am so subservient to doctors. The only thing I could come up with is for most of my life I have been sick and have always had an illness that I had to go from doctor to doctor trying to get a diagnosis. They always treated me terribly. Saying cruel things or rolling their eyes at me. Now my health is so bad that they can't deny it. I know that if I would only once stand up and tell them what I think of them I would gain confidence in myself and get stronger. I just have always needed them desperately to help me. I can speak up for someone else but not for myself. Thanks again Becky, Shirley PS I will give you an example Becky. This doctor that was so rude to me is known to be the best doctor to administer tpn and I get really sick on tpn. I usually have to stop taking it when I need it because I get so sick. The first GI doctor who put me on tpn put me on lipids everyday and I was so sick. I had to stop taking it. I told him that it made me sick and he shrugged his shoulders and didn't care. The next GI put me on lipids everyday also and the same thing happened again. So this rude jerk that I am now going to knows all about tpn and he is supposed to be an expert with it. So there I go taking abuse from him because I am desperate. I am afraid to speak up when I need a doctor. Goofy, I know. I need to work on this. It has been going on too long. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 Hi Shirley, I am so sorry that you had such a rough time with the doc.You need to file a complaint.My husband and I are on HMO so we have't to have a primary doc who then is supposed to give us the referrals.My husband and I have health problems so we are in cotact with the doc's office real often.We had to change our primary doc about 4 months ago because the doc we were using would not call in referrals,he said that it was not his place to do this.Well first of all when a doc signs up with the hmo program they have some rules that they go by.My husband had called his office about getting a referral and was told by his staff that they did not have't to do that,wellI was listening and my husband did not even raise hi voice when he talked to his staff.A few min. later the doc himself called my husband and he said he was hollaring,cussing and said that my husband had talked rude to his office staff and he wasn't going to tolerate this,and for us to find another doc as he was not putting up with it and my husband told him that we would not be back.I was so shocked that a doc had talked that way to my husband I couldn't call him back because I know that I would lose my temper.When my husband called the insurance to tell them we had changed docters and they wanted to know why so my husband told them about his behaviour and she said that she would file a complaint.It was really a blessing in disguise because 2 weks prior to this my son had went to a immediate care for treatment and he found a wonderful doc.So we go to her now,we are luccky because she is everything that you would want in a docter and she was just setting up her practice so it all was a blessing in disguise. Take care Your Friend B. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/28/00 9:37:23 AM Eastern Daylight Time, robinmk02@... writes: << I guess what I am saying is, you have every right to speak up. Don't let anyone treat you like this Dr. has. You deserve better than him. He sounds somewhat like my Dr. And if that is the case, I can see why the other Drs. don't like him. I would listen to that too, and find someone else. I hope this has helped. Hugs, Robin >> Thanks Robin, Hugs back to you. I am going to have to work really hard to get up the courage. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/28/00 12:27:18 PM Eastern Daylight Time, jang2@... writes: << Hope you are feeling better today. Please take care of yourself. jang >> Thanks Jang, I feel better physically from the shock of his treatment to me. But I am anxious about seeing him again. I say again because he is an expert on tpn and I always get very sick when on tpn. I feel I need him for that. I plan to go to him for a couple of weeks while on tpn, keep the bags that the tpn comes in and if I still feel afraid of him or if he treats me rudely I will be able to go to someone else with the formula in my hand. I hope this plan works. I wonder if he treats his colleagues the same way and that is the reason they will not speak with him. He talks as though he is the god of medicine and knows more than any doctor. He is so full of himself. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/29/00 6:41:50 PM US Eastern Standard Time, jang2@... writes: << As a rule, the better the doctor, the more of a gentleman or lady. A good doctor has self- confidence & is usually respectful of other doctors & patients. Try not to anticipate a confrontation with this jerk. Prepare what you need to communicate, but don't get stampeded into an arguement. Sometimes taking 3 deep breaths before you make any reply will help keep you calm. The slowness may agravate & unsettle the twit, but that's not YOUR problem. Just remember, the doctor is YOUR employee; you don't have to be concerned with pleasing him. >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/29/00 6:41:50 PM US Eastern Standard Time, jang2@... writes: << As a rule, the better the doctor, the more of a gentleman or lady. A good doctor has self- confidence & is usually respectful of other doctors & patients. Try not to anticipate a confrontation with this jerk. Prepare what you need to communicate, but don't get stampeded into an arguement. Sometimes taking 3 deep breaths before you make any reply will help keep you calm. The slowness may agravate & unsettle the twit, but that's not YOUR problem. Just remember, the doctor is YOUR employee; you don't have to be concerned with pleasing him. >> What good thoughts! I need to print this and keep it in my purse to read to reinforce my attitude for my next doctor's appointment. Helen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/29/00 7:41:51 PM Eastern Daylight Time, jang2@... writes: << As a rule, the better the doctor, the more of a gentleman or lady. A good doctor has self- confidence & is usually respectful of other doctors & patients. Try not to anticipate a confrontation with this jerk. Prepare what you need to communicate, but don't get stampeded into an arguement. Sometimes taking 3 deep breaths before you make any reply will help keep you calm. The slowness may agravate & unsettle the twit, but that's not YOUR problem. Just remember, the doctor is YOUR employee; you don't have to be concerned with pleasing him. Hope you're having a comfortable day. jang >> So wise Jang. Thank you. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 In a message dated 7/29/00 8:25:04 PM Eastern Daylight Time, Helen4@... writes: << What good thoughts! I need to print this and keep it in my purse to read to reinforce my attitude for my next doctor's appointment. Helen >> Me too, Thanks Jang! I am printing this as we speak to keep with me at all times. Shirley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 2000 Report Share Posted July 29, 2000 -- > I wonder if he treats his colleagues the same way and that is the reason they will not speak with him. He talks as though he is the god of medicine and knows more than any doctor. He is so full of himself. >Shirley As a rule, the better the doctor, the more of a gentleman or lady. A good doctor has self- confidence & is usually respectful of other doctors & patients. Try not to anticipate a confrontation with this jerk. Prepare what you need to communicate, but don't get stampeded into an arguement. Sometimes taking 3 deep breaths before you make any reply will help keep you calm. The slowness may agravate & unsettle the twit, but that's not YOUR problem. Just remember, the doctor is YOUR employee; you don't have to be concerned with pleasing him. Hope you're having a comfortable day. jang --== Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ ==-- Before you buy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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