Re: How to deal with rude people

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Thanks

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Sending healthy thoughts Hayley's way. Hang in there...

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> Hugs -

> Michele W

> Aubrie's mom 7 yrs

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>> Hayley not 100% well.. just spent 3 days in hospital as she was

>> struggling

>> to breath over the weekend.

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>> She is home but for how long I dont know... she has 72 hours to improve

>> otherwise she goes back in :-(

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My $ 0.02 )

I have been all over the map in my responses to the question of people

staring, commenting aloud or directly questioning.

My big paradigm shift came the day (my Charger) was unabashedly

staring at an adult in a wheelchair who had one arm and one leg - the other

arm and leg having been clearly amputated.

All my resentment toward the myriad of strangers in our lives dissipated.

I accepted that it is simply human nature to take a second look at that

which is unusual - almost to check if what we thought we saw is really what

we saw. I cannot expect our lives to be exempt from the peering eyes of

human nature.

Then after that initial stare - some people are lost in the reverie of

their own thought - they don't consider that they can be seen - like a

moviegoer sitting in a dark theater. I have seen countless people order

food in a restaurant or address a cashier as though they were not human.

They just don't realize what they bring to the situation - or maybe more

accurately what they don't bring.

Then after the stare and the reverie - sometimes there is fear and anxiety.

And they need to be reassured because they saw something unexpected and it

made them afraid. it made them vulnerable, and it reminded them how nothing

is guaranteed in life. And they want reassurance, a sense of control. Maybe

they want familiarity.

Once I truly realized that their responses were all about them and nothing

about us, I could greet each of them with love - for they had fear, and I

know fear. Fear is where I walk when I grip too tightly on my blessings and

they slip like sand through my fingers. Fear is when I can't feel love,

faith or trust. And I want them to feel love, faith and trust. And if I

greet them with that intention - it always goes well. Even if they are

belligerent - I do not contribute to that energy, and I do not become

engaged in it. I feel nothing can be gained by them or me to meet them

where they are.

.... then there's the day I am tired, spread thin and caught off guard... but

that's another story )

Smiles-

Yuka

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Yuka-

Write a book. Your eloquence amazes me.

Michele W

Yuka Persico wrote:

> My $ 0.02 )