Re: is this gaslighting or something else...

[Guest guest]

I prefer a much simpler term... starts with a " B " and end with " running for your

life! "

Lynnette - btdt, btw.

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> Nada's new " thing " is to tell people that I ruined her financially. She told

me that back in 2000 I agreed to buy her house from her and let her life there

rent free, but I renigend (sp?) on the deal. She says I bought her house for 70K

(it was actually just under 80K) and sold it back to her for 149K (it was

actually 134K- and 40K of the increased price was for the loan she took out to

build the addition that she lived in. She took the rest out in equity and spent

all of it in a couple of months). I pointed out that her " memory " didn't make

any sense, since when I bought the house I was 25 and unemployed, with 3

children under 3, and my husband made only $13/hr. My teenaged brothers were

still living there, and Nada says that not only were we supposed to buy the

house and let her and my bros. live there " rent free " but we were supposed to

pay EVERYTHING-even the utilities. I pointed out that it wouldn't make any sense

for me to pay ALL the utilities for 8 people since she was making considerably

more than my husband at the time. She DID pause, like it might have rung a bell

for a SECOND, then she said " Well, I don't know but that was our ORIGINAL

AGREEMENT and you screwed me over. " So, is that gaslighting, or just her being

dillusional?

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[Guest guest]

yes, I would consider this gaslighting ( as I understand it)... your nada is

twisting what you said to make her appear the victim...she's changing the

facts to make you appear bad and her good...

Jackie

Nada's new " thing " is to tell people that I ruined her financially. She told

me that back in 2000 I agreed to buy her house from her and let her life

there rent free, but I renigend (sp?) on the deal. She says I bought her

house for 70K (it was actually just under 80K) and sold it back to her for

149K (it was actually 134K- and 40K of the increased price was for the loan

she took out to build the addition that she lived in. She took the rest out

in equity and spent all of it in a couple of months). I pointed out that her

" memory " didn't make any sense, since when I bought the house I was 25 and

unemployed, with 3 children under 3, and my husband made only $13/hr. My

teenaged brothers were still living there, and Nada says that not only were

we supposed to buy the house and let her and my bros. live there " rent free "

but we were supposed to pay EVERYTHING-even the utilities. I pointed out

that it wouldn't make any sense for me to pay ALL the utilities for 8 people

since she was making considerably more than my husband at the time. She DID

pause, like it might have rung a bell for a SECOND, then she said " Well, I

don't know but that was our ORIGINAL AGREEMENT and you screwed me over. " So,

is that gaslighting, or just her being dillusional?

[Guest guest]

I love the sophistication with which Lynette sums it up. But yea, thats

( oooo you guys who lived in the 60 s are gonna love this)

Classical Gas lighting.

LMAO.

Doug

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> Nada's new " thing " is to tell people that I ruined her financially.

She told me that back in 2000 I agreed to buy her house from her and let

her life there rent free, but I renigend (sp?) on the deal. She says I

bought her house for 70K (it was actually just under 80K) and sold it

back to her for 149K (it was actually 134K- and 40K of the increased

price was for the loan she took out to build the addition that she lived

in. She took the rest out in equity and spent all of it in a couple of

months). I pointed out that her " memory " didn't make any sense, since

when I bought the house I was 25 and unemployed, with 3 children under

3, and my husband made only $13/hr. My teenaged brothers were still

living there, and Nada says that not only were we supposed to buy the

house and let her and my bros. live there " rent free " but we were

supposed to pay EVERYTHING-even the utilities. I pointed out that it

wouldn't make any sense for me to pay ALL the utilities for 8 people

since she was making considerably more than my husband at the time. She

DID pause, like it might have rung a bell for a SECOND, then she said

" Well, I don't know but that was our ORIGINAL AGREEMENT and you screwed

me over. " So, is that gaslighting, or just her being dillusional?

>

[Guest guest]

Oh, Doug, you crack me up (and give me flashbacks... which at my age are better

than hot flashes, so I'm not complaining).

My4 - I think when Nada tells YOU that you screwed her over, and tries to make

you believe a warped version of the truth you know, that's gaslighting. When

she tells other people you screwed her over, and it's a lie, and done with

malice aforethought, I think that's more like - slander. Or character

defamation at the very least.

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> > Nada's new " thing " is to tell people that I ruined her financially.

> She told me that back in 2000 I agreed to buy her house from her and let

> her life there rent free, but I renigend (sp?) on the deal. She says I

> bought her house for 70K (it was actually just under 80K) and sold it

> back to her for 149K (it was actually 134K- and 40K of the increased

> price was for the loan she took out to build the addition that she lived

> in. She took the rest out in equity and spent all of it in a couple of

> months). I pointed out that her " memory " didn't make any sense, since

> when I bought the house I was 25 and unemployed, with 3 children under

> 3, and my husband made only $13/hr. My teenaged brothers were still

> living there, and Nada says that not only were we supposed to buy the

> house and let her and my bros. live there " rent free " but we were

> supposed to pay EVERYTHING-even the utilities. I pointed out that it

> wouldn't make any sense for me to pay ALL the utilities for 8 people

> since she was making considerably more than my husband at the time. She

> DID pause, like it might have rung a bell for a SECOND, then she said

> " Well, I don't know but that was our ORIGINAL AGREEMENT and you screwed

> me over. " So, is that gaslighting, or just her being dillusional?

> >

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