more to Michele :o)

[Guest guest]

.........You nailed it one the head about learning to allow oneself to be upset.

That was a hard one for me to learn - since just being upset was so upsetting

for me! lol!!! Resistance only cements and magnifies for me - for better or

worse, for me acceptance is the only path to yielding and moving through.......

also has that devotion to his school and indomitable spirit that you

describe in Aubrie ) ... it would take tremendous pain or illness to keep him

away from school - yet I was blindsided by the turn of events when he was about

eleven - he developed that perfectly developmentally appropriate ability to

gauge himself against his peers (this is good right? developmentally appropriate

is all we strive for!) and he chose the highest functioning non-medically

non-diagnosable children at school as his peer group (another good thing right?

sets his standard high - doesn't see himself as something other than mainstream)

and thus opened a whole world of heartache, loneliness, self-dissatisfaction and

self-growth borne (which continues intensely and incessantly) of pain and

yearning. It is a painful vulnerable privilege and joy to see him bear this

journey.

with love,

Yuka

Surely, my image of her is not warped. Another fear...

Hugs-

Michele W

[Guest guest]

Yuka and MIchele,

" ... It is a painful vulnerable privilege and joy to see him bear this

journey. "

As I read the most recent exchanges, I must say that the above statement is

exactly how I have been feeling about being " let in " to this most amazing

conversation. What the two of you have been sharing (and of course this happens

alot here with all of the parents) is a journey to the center of the hearts of

not only the CHARGE parents and children, but perhaps all parents of children

with special needs. I am feeling like I have been let into an extremely

intimate conversation and I am ever so grateful. Thank you.

pam

[Guest guest]

Yuka and MIchele,

" ... It is a painful vulnerable privilege and joy to see him bear this

journey. "

As I read the most recent exchanges, I must say that the above statement is

exactly how I have been feeling about being " let in " to this most amazing

conversation. What the two of you have been sharing (and of course this happens

alot here with all of the parents) is a journey to the center of the hearts of

not only the CHARGE parents and children, but perhaps all parents of children

with special needs. I am feeling like I have been let into an extremely

intimate conversation and I am ever so grateful. Thank you.

pam

[Guest guest]

Pam-

I wish there were more people who wanted to understand others. I, too,

really appreciate getting in to another person's being. I do this

through the list and through reading, but I listen carefully for other

glimpses that I might get through my every day exchanges with friends.

It's not a nosy kind of thing, but a desire to really understand all of

the human condition. Does that make sense? Understanding others gives

me a better understanding of myself and a better grasp of what this

world, life, etc is all about.

Michele W