Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 You can always get milk back. The real questions is will your baby remember how to nurse. Cherie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 You can always get milk back. The real questions is will your baby remember how to nurse. Cherie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 You can always get milk back. The real questions is will your baby remember how to nurse. Cherie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 In a message dated 3/14/99 3:55:58 PM Alaskan Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie >> Cherie~ OMGosh, okay, I was sitting here, minding my own business, reading my email...I got to yours and was sitting here bawling! Hubby made me read the poem to him, he was in tears!! LOL Brittney is only the second of my four children that I breastfed, my 3rd child was my first. When I read things like this poem, it makes me realize how very special my time breastfeeding my baby is, and it makes me even more regretful that I didn't stick with it and breastfeed my first two children. My 3rd child, Jordan, which is the first one I breastfed, stopped nursing at 11.5months. I had planned to breastfeed until he was at least 15mo, but at 11.5mo, he was no longer interested, and would not sit still to nurse, and was only happy when I gave him a cup! I am praying that Brittney will allow me to have more time with her than that! Thanks for sharing the poem, I loved it! Elmendorf AFB, Alaska SAHM to: Zachary, 5;, 4;Jordan, 2;Brittney, 6mo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 In a message dated 3/14/99 3:55:58 PM Alaskan Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie >> Cherie~ OMGosh, okay, I was sitting here, minding my own business, reading my email...I got to yours and was sitting here bawling! Hubby made me read the poem to him, he was in tears!! LOL Brittney is only the second of my four children that I breastfed, my 3rd child was my first. When I read things like this poem, it makes me realize how very special my time breastfeeding my baby is, and it makes me even more regretful that I didn't stick with it and breastfeed my first two children. My 3rd child, Jordan, which is the first one I breastfed, stopped nursing at 11.5months. I had planned to breastfeed until he was at least 15mo, but at 11.5mo, he was no longer interested, and would not sit still to nurse, and was only happy when I gave him a cup! I am praying that Brittney will allow me to have more time with her than that! Thanks for sharing the poem, I loved it! Elmendorf AFB, Alaska SAHM to: Zachary, 5;, 4;Jordan, 2;Brittney, 6mo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 In a message dated 3/14/99 3:55:58 PM Alaskan Standard Time, chenille@... writes: << That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie >> Cherie~ OMGosh, okay, I was sitting here, minding my own business, reading my email...I got to yours and was sitting here bawling! Hubby made me read the poem to him, he was in tears!! LOL Brittney is only the second of my four children that I breastfed, my 3rd child was my first. When I read things like this poem, it makes me realize how very special my time breastfeeding my baby is, and it makes me even more regretful that I didn't stick with it and breastfeed my first two children. My 3rd child, Jordan, which is the first one I breastfed, stopped nursing at 11.5months. I had planned to breastfeed until he was at least 15mo, but at 11.5mo, he was no longer interested, and would not sit still to nurse, and was only happy when I gave him a cup! I am praying that Brittney will allow me to have more time with her than that! Thanks for sharing the poem, I loved it! Elmendorf AFB, Alaska SAHM to: Zachary, 5;, 4;Jordan, 2;Brittney, 6mo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 The poem brought tears to my eyes. I am so glad that my Angel is little and weaning is far away. Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Thank you for your reply. Now I am more confused than ever. My DH has realized how emotional I am about this whole situation and is now saying he doesn't care if I nurse. Well, I feel like I have been through the worst part of the weaning process - my son doesn't ask very often and doesn't throw a fit when I saw no and the fullness is lessening and I don't feel like I am capable of making a rational decision at this point - do I nurse him now? It would be most convenient for me if I did not have to pump while I am gone so should I just continue with this process? Can I nurse him when I get home if I don't pump and haven't nursed for a whole week? Thanks for your input! Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Thank you for your reply. Now I am more confused than ever. My DH has realized how emotional I am about this whole situation and is now saying he doesn't care if I nurse. Well, I feel like I have been through the worst part of the weaning process - my son doesn't ask very often and doesn't throw a fit when I saw no and the fullness is lessening and I don't feel like I am capable of making a rational decision at this point - do I nurse him now? It would be most convenient for me if I did not have to pump while I am gone so should I just continue with this process? Can I nurse him when I get home if I don't pump and haven't nursed for a whole week? Thanks for your input! Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Thank you for your reply. Now I am more confused than ever. My DH has realized how emotional I am about this whole situation and is now saying he doesn't care if I nurse. Well, I feel like I have been through the worst part of the weaning process - my son doesn't ask very often and doesn't throw a fit when I saw no and the fullness is lessening and I don't feel like I am capable of making a rational decision at this point - do I nurse him now? It would be most convenient for me if I did not have to pump while I am gone so should I just continue with this process? Can I nurse him when I get home if I don't pump and haven't nursed for a whole week? Thanks for your input! Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 WAVING HAND!!!! I got pregnant while nursing!!! It is very possible. Just try!! I nurse for 4 months til he self weaned. Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 WAVING HAND!!!! I got pregnant while nursing!!! It is very possible. Just try!! I nurse for 4 months til he self weaned. Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 WAVING HAND!!!! I got pregnant while nursing!!! It is very possible. Just try!! I nurse for 4 months til he self weaned. Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 , Me too. That was so sad. Wendi Re: Forced Weaning The poem brought tears to my eyes. I am so glad that my Angel is little and weaning is far away. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, I am sorry. I didn't mean to confuse you. The way I heard it was that you both were suffering at someone else's decision. If you feel that you are so far into that you don't want to stop it then don't. You might try just nursing if he asks. That will make it infrequent yet keep a little milk flowing. I can understand about pumping, I hate it. You could do just a little manual expression in the shower on your trip to keep your milk. Maybe if you can sit down and take some quiet time to write out your feelings about the whole situation a solution may appear to you. You can just nurse him every once in a while. After my daughter weaned I had milk for a long time. I think if she would have started nursing again my milk would have been right back. Good luck to you. Keep communication open with your husband. Trust yourself. My main concern in my original post was that you would always look back on the end of nursing with pain and possibly regret. I know of many people who nursed for a while with no milk so nursing him when you get back is definitely an option. Again I am sorry if I caused you more confusion that was not my intention. Blessings! Wendi Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Is ONElist important to you? Has it changed your life? http://www.onelist.com Come visit our new web site and share with us your stories ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, I am sorry. I didn't mean to confuse you. The way I heard it was that you both were suffering at someone else's decision. If you feel that you are so far into that you don't want to stop it then don't. You might try just nursing if he asks. That will make it infrequent yet keep a little milk flowing. I can understand about pumping, I hate it. You could do just a little manual expression in the shower on your trip to keep your milk. Maybe if you can sit down and take some quiet time to write out your feelings about the whole situation a solution may appear to you. You can just nurse him every once in a while. After my daughter weaned I had milk for a long time. I think if she would have started nursing again my milk would have been right back. Good luck to you. Keep communication open with your husband. Trust yourself. My main concern in my original post was that you would always look back on the end of nursing with pain and possibly regret. I know of many people who nursed for a while with no milk so nursing him when you get back is definitely an option. Again I am sorry if I caused you more confusion that was not my intention. Blessings! Wendi Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Is ONElist important to you? Has it changed your life? http://www.onelist.com Come visit our new web site and share with us your stories ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, I am sorry. I didn't mean to confuse you. The way I heard it was that you both were suffering at someone else's decision. If you feel that you are so far into that you don't want to stop it then don't. You might try just nursing if he asks. That will make it infrequent yet keep a little milk flowing. I can understand about pumping, I hate it. You could do just a little manual expression in the shower on your trip to keep your milk. Maybe if you can sit down and take some quiet time to write out your feelings about the whole situation a solution may appear to you. You can just nurse him every once in a while. After my daughter weaned I had milk for a long time. I think if she would have started nursing again my milk would have been right back. Good luck to you. Keep communication open with your husband. Trust yourself. My main concern in my original post was that you would always look back on the end of nursing with pain and possibly regret. I know of many people who nursed for a while with no milk so nursing him when you get back is definitely an option. Again I am sorry if I caused you more confusion that was not my intention. Blessings! Wendi Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Is ONElist important to you? Has it changed your life? http://www.onelist.com Come visit our new web site and share with us your stories ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, You can get pregnant while nursing. Wendi Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, You can get pregnant while nursing. Wendi Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Lori, You can get pregnant while nursing. Wendi Re: Forced Weaning Oh, and I have another question. I would like to have another baby and we had some difficulty conceiving my son, so I have to wonder if I can get pregnant while I am nursing. I believe by the way I feel in the middle of my cycle that I am ovulating again. Thanks again, Lori Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Wendi, You did not cause me confusion. No apologies needed. I am confused on my own. Originally it was someone else's decision - I just am unsure if I have gone so far now that I don't want to turn back. Thank you for your concern and information. Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Is ONElist important to you? Has it changed your life? http://www.onelist.com Come visit our new web site and share with us your stories ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 14, 1999 Report Share Posted March 14, 1999 Wendi, You did not cause me confusion. No apologies needed. I am confused on my own. Originally it was someone else's decision - I just am unsure if I have gone so far now that I don't want to turn back. Thank you for your concern and information. Lori Forced Weaning I am sorry but I don't know what to tell you. I am firm in it being NOBODY'S business as to when a baby is weaned except the baby and the mom UNLESS the mom knows that nursing wilol destroy her marriage. Barring that possibility...the nursing relationship was established by God to be tetween Mom and Baby. I am posting one of the most heartbreaking poems by my favorite poet. If you don't know the history of this wonderful man and his family...he and his wife experienced the deaths of chldren, natural and adopted. He wrote in a day when the doctors were never questioned. Here is a man who knew his beloved's anquish and in a day like today would never subject her to this torture. Weaning the Baby by Edgar A. Guest Her tears are very near to-day, There's sorrow in her eyes, For they have ordered her away Whene'er the baby cries. There's little beauty in the sun However fair the day be, For now the mother has begun The weaning of the baby. No more upon her gentle breast That little face may lie, No more that little nose be pressed Against her food supply; No more by night, no more by day, That wondrous pleasure may be - This shadow falls across the way, The weaning of the baby. Oh, you may smile, but mother sighs, And now the hours are sad. She sees the look of pained surprise In eyes that once were glad, And in her throat a lump comes up That's big enough to throttle, Because her lovely babe must nup Her dinner from a bottle. Now bottles can't sing lullabies When tender babies dine, Or read the love in little eyes When eagerly they shine And so she sadly says to me: " I'll miss her fond caresses, The cuddling ways which used to be, Her tugging at my dresses. " Ill miss her cry for me at night And all her squeals of glee, Her smile of welcome and delight When she discovered me; I'll miss the tie that holds me near And long will every day be, I'm sorry that the time is here For me to wean the baby. " I am sorry to be of no comfort, perhaps this letter can be a sword to stand against the odds. The time is short. With your little one being so old, your nursing moments are limited anyway..and once gone..are gone with him forever except in your memory. That memory should be a sweet, even at the ending, as possible. Cherie ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Start a new hobby. Meet a new friend. http://www.onelist.com Onelist: The leading provider of free email list services ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Is ONElist important to you? Has it changed your life? http://www.onelist.com Come visit our new web site and share with us your stories ------------------------------------------------------------------------ Breastfeeding is Best!! http://www.mariaann.com/breastfeeding.htm If you like this list also check out http://www.onelist.com/subscribe.cgi/weanedbuddies Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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