again : )

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,

Whenever you need a positive word, it seems like all you have to do

is ask with this group and you'll get tons of responses. THis is

such a terribly stressful and in lots of ways demoralizing experience

for you right now. Sounds like there were some really complex issues

at work in your relationship. It's so easy to carry over the guilt

and baggage...I hope that everyday, everytime you are on this site

and reading these positive comforting messages, you take just a

second to literally remind yourself that HE was the weak link (to put

it nicely) (going with the saying that the chain is only as strong as

the weakest link). Like, in your brain and heart to put all his

stuff back on him and not absorb it all yourself, which is so easy

for us to do. It sounds like you " covered " for him a lot. Is there

any kind of support group around for you? How are your kids doing?

Thinking of you this evening,

Suzanne