Guest guest Posted January 30, 2008 Report Posted January 30, 2008 I think that for me I am afraid of being angry. As a child I saw my parents fight, shoving each other, angry words yelled loudly, furniture and dishes being thrown about, and I never wanted to allow myself to become that angry. I realize that there arehelthy ways of expressing angerand that keeping felins inside isn’t good, but I only saw destructive ways! I am a cryer, a go away somewhere and cry, and perhaps take a box of oreos with me too!!! Cookies don’t lessenmy hurt feelings, lessen my anger, I don’t want to break anything…..or even shout cruel words…..what I really want is to be listen to……to be valued……..to be loved!! I grew up with one of those “Because I said so” type parents……you could never question anything……she was always right. Never an apology, and mine were never good enough!!! That was then, and this is now, and I shall learn to love me for me…….cookies need not be my only comfort. I have a loving husband, friends, and other sources of comfort, if only I slow down enough to try them first before I reach for a cookie!! Do any of you know where I’m coming from? Rhonda No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.19.16/1251 - Release Date: 1/30/2008 9:29 AM Quote
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2008 Report Posted January 31, 2008 Oh, yes, I do know where you're coming from, very much! I, too, grew up in a physically and verbally violent family, and one thing I learned even before IE was that often I overate in response to anger that I was afraid to express. I never learned healthy ways of expressing anger, and it terrifies me, so I would feed the feeling. It's one of the behaviors I'm working hardest on modifying--and hard it is. But it's so good that you can cry. For almost 10 years I never shed a tear, not even at the funerals of loved ones. Crying--with or without Oreos!--is an immense release, and one I'm glad I finally recovered. Keep on crying! And I've found that journalling my anger is helping me cope, until I reach a place where I'm not too afraid to express it. Beckett afraidof being angry I think that for me I am afraid of being angry. As a child I saw my parents fight, shoving each other, angry words yelled loudly, furniture and dishes being thrown about, and I never wanted to allow myself to become that angry. I realize that there arehelthy ways of expressing angerand that keeping felins inside isn’t good, but I only saw destructive ways! I am a cryer, a go away somewhere and cry, and perhaps take a box of oreos with me too!!! Cookies don’t lessenmy hurt feelings, lessen my anger, I don’t want to break anything…..or even shout cruel words…..what I really want is to be listen to……to be valued……..to be loved!! I grew up with one of those “Because I said so†type parents……you could never question anything……she was always right. Never an apology, and mine were never good enough!!! That was then, and this is now, and I shall learn to love me for me…….cookies need not be my only comfort. I have a loving husband, friends, and other sources of comfort, if only I slow down enough to try them first before I reach for a cookie!! Do any of you know where I’m coming from? Rhonda No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.19.16/1251 - Release Date: 1/30/2008 9:29 AM More new features than ever. Check out the new AOL Mail! Quote
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