Re: so disappointed with results :(

[Guest guest]

Hello

Please don't feel guilty for your son's headshape. You have done

nothing but seek treatment for him.

Is there anyway you can get him back into another band? CT still

bands babies your son's age, and even though correction might be

limited there are plenty of older children on our site that have

received really good correction, and the parents are glad that they

still went ahead at this age. I believe , 's son was

17mos if I'm not mistaken. If you go to the DOC before and after

there are a few older kids, and you can see how much success they

have had. I'm sure if your insurance approved band#2 back then,

that they might approve it again. Your ped could write up a letter

for you. The only thing is that your time is limited, and you would

have to get started now. As of the tolerating the band. I really

can't say much for the age group your son is in, b/c I don't know.

I would think though if you decorated it as one of " his " superheros

that he might even be proud of it.

You will find tons of support here. If you aren't considering

another band then know that you always have a ton of open ears

around here. Vent as much as you need. That is what we are here

for.

Sandy WIllow's Mom

Torticollis resolved

Cranio Germany Grad

>

> Hi-

> I have not posted anything for ages. To bring everyone up to

speed>

> I have a son named Ian, he is now 16 months. He was banded in Jan.

> 2004 with the doc band. He was in it for 5 months. We didn't go

> through with another band because the PT for cranial tech felt

that

> insurance would think it was for cosmetic reasons, well low and

> behold insurance approved for a second band but I felt Ian was out

of

> the first band for too long ~1 month and felt he would never go

for

> another band. He doesn't even like to wear a baseball hat. I have

> gone to a craniosacral therapist sice January and have forked over

> well over $1500. out of pocket. Yes, she has helped him reach

> milestones such as rolling over and has improved his strength

equally

> thhroughout his left and right side. He used to only use his left

> side. Functionally Ian is doing awesome, walking or should I say

> running now. However, his head shape is horrible. It just breaks

my

> heart. I feel like a failure as a mother. He has recurrent ear

> infections in his left ear which is the flat side. I just don't

know

> what else to do. I'm so upset about the whole thing. I posted pics

in

> Ian Martz folder way back in Jan. Any suggestions of which

direction

> to go now?? Thanks. Martz

[Guest guest]

Hi

Before we even think about headshape, I think you deserve

congratulations- you've done a brilliant job lately as a mum, and

don't you forget it! You've got your little one up and about walking

and running, which is absolutely wonderful and really the top

priority in all of this.

It is really hard, though, when we do everything we can, and the

results just don't match our expectations. I guess most people here

are in that situation to one extent or another, as even if you get

good correction, most plagio mums with their experienced eye can

still spot those defects where the ears aren't quite lined up or

whatever. I know I can with Lucia, as her teeth are still a bit

misaligned after great headshape correction, and like all good mums,

I blame myself entirely! Others of us started late with the bands,

and have to come to terms with the fact that they won't get perfect

correction due to age.

I guess the question for you is 'is Ian's headshape good enough?'

(not perfect, as it is probably a bit unrealistic to hope for that)

and, if it isn't good enough, is it possible to do something about

it? There is the option of a second band as Ian is not too old and

if you really feel his headshape is horrible, I think it might be

worth thinking about this. However, only you know if you are just

having a bad day over this where you blame yourself for everything

(and everyone has those), or whether in fact this dissatisfaction is

so great you would like to do something about it.

Would it help to post some more recent pictures after the 5 months

of banding? I think everyone here is pretty honest, and if it was a

mild flat spot and you are just beating yourself up, we would say

so, equally,if it looks like something that could benefit from

further treatment,we would also be honest. What did CT think at the

end of treatment? If my calculations are correct, he was in a band

from seven/eight months old til a year, - and you would have

expected to get pretty good correction at that age.

Good luck with this- I hope you give yourself a nice treat today and

remember that you have done an awful lot for Ian, and he will know

this (children know when they are well-cared for and looked after!)

Hannah (mum to Lucia, London, UK)

Cranio grad

>

> Hi-

> I have not posted anything for ages. To bring everyone up to

speed>

> I have a son named Ian, he is now 16 months. He was banded in Jan.

> 2004 with the doc band. He was in it for 5 months. We didn't go

> through with another band because the PT for cranial tech felt

that

> insurance would think it was for cosmetic reasons, well low and

> behold insurance approved for a second band but I felt Ian was out

of

> the first band for too long ~1 month and felt he would never go

for

> another band. He doesn't even like to wear a baseball hat. I have

> gone to a craniosacral therapist sice January and have forked over

> well over $1500. out of pocket. Yes, she has helped him reach

> milestones such as rolling over and has improved his strength

equally

> thhroughout his left and right side. He used to only use his left

> side. Functionally Ian is doing awesome, walking or should I say

> running now. However, his head shape is horrible. It just breaks

my

> heart. I feel like a failure as a mother. He has recurrent ear

> infections in his left ear which is the flat side. I just don't

know

> what else to do. I'm so upset about the whole thing. I posted pics

in

> Ian Martz folder way back in Jan. Any suggestions of which

direction

> to go now?? Thanks. Martz

[Guest guest]

Gosh , I'm SO sorry to hear how disappointed you are. I

honestly think if you're still so upset about this months later you

need to get him in another band ASAP. I think you will regret it if

you don't. At 16 mos he's not too old to see results from a

DOCband. Hannah's third band was worn for 16wks starting at 15.5

mos and had very obvious correction that I'm very happy with.

Please check out her new website at:

http://hannahsnoggin.typepad.com/hannahs_noggin/ where you can read

her story of the third band and see her progress pictures from that

third band. I'm SOOO glad we did it! Please keep us posted.

, mom to Hannah, DOCgrad

Cape Cod, Ma

>

> Hi-

> I have not posted anything for ages. To bring everyone up to

speed>

> I have a son named Ian, he is now 16 months. He was banded in Jan.

> 2004 with the doc band. He was in it for 5 months. We didn't go

> through with another band because the PT for cranial tech felt

that

> insurance would think it was for cosmetic reasons, well low and

> behold insurance approved for a second band but I felt Ian was out

of

> the first band for too long ~1 month and felt he would never go

for

> another band. He doesn't even like to wear a baseball hat. I have

> gone to a craniosacral therapist sice January and have forked over

> well over $1500. out of pocket. Yes, she has helped him reach

> milestones such as rolling over and has improved his strength

equally

> thhroughout his left and right side. He used to only use his left

> side. Functionally Ian is doing awesome, walking or should I say

> running now. However, his head shape is horrible. It just breaks

my

> heart. I feel like a failure as a mother. He has recurrent ear

> infections in his left ear which is the flat side. I just don't

know

> what else to do. I'm so upset about the whole thing. I posted pics

in

> Ian Martz folder way back in Jan. Any suggestions of which

direction

> to go now?? Thanks. Martz

[Guest guest]

, it sounds like you may want to at least get another re-

evaluation by CT to see where he stands. Get another objective point

of view. I would also LOVE to see current pics of his head at the

different angles. Pictures really help me see improvements (of my

son) that are just too hard to detect on a day-to-day basis. I don't

mean to discount your feelings *at* *all*, but it is possible that

you are scrutinizing his headshape more than most people would.

Please let me know how you feel about everything you've heard from

us. I only mean to be supportive and not hurtful in any way.

Sue

Colin F., 13 mos.

STARband grad 9/04

brachy

>

> Hi-

> I have not posted anything for ages. To bring everyone up to

speed>

> I have a son named Ian, he is now 16 months. He was banded in Jan.

> 2004 with the doc band. He was in it for 5 months. We didn't go

> through with another band because the PT for cranial tech felt that

> insurance would think it was for cosmetic reasons, well low and

> behold insurance approved for a second band but I felt Ian was out

of

> the first band for too long ~1 month and felt he would never go for

> another band. He doesn't even like to wear a baseball hat. I have

> gone to a craniosacral therapist sice January and have forked over

> well over $1500. out of pocket. Yes, she has helped him reach

> milestones such as rolling over and has improved his strength

equally

> thhroughout his left and right side. He used to only use his left

> side. Functionally Ian is doing awesome, walking or should I say

> running now. However, his head shape is horrible. It just breaks my

> heart. I feel like a failure as a mother. He has recurrent ear

> infections in his left ear which is the flat side. I just don't

know

> what else to do. I'm so upset about the whole thing. I posted pics

in

> Ian Martz folder way back in Jan. Any suggestions of which

direction

> to go now?? Thanks. Martz