Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 Hi All It's the Voice Of Desperation. As a recap, yes I did leave my husband who began using crack in excess and getting violent. He tried to od on muscle relaxers and smoked about 500 worth of crack in less than 24. I brought him to a Mental Hospital and they put him on luvox and depacote and sent him home saying he needs TREATMENT AND A 12 STEP RECOVERY PROGRAM I told them my views and said look this man needs some help other then that catch all answer and hes asking you for it. And his " TEAM " said he is and addict and thats the way it is when his disease is talking. My husband is going to die, as he got out on Tuesday and has been smoking and drinking and taking these meds since then. If anything I believe the depacote may keep him out there longer since its a seizure inhibating drug. What to do What to do..... Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 > I ask... so... how did they clean you up? Well, he went into a halfway > house, and spent a year in.... (drum roll) The Pacifica Group. He's a > Clancy graduate! Apple, That is unreal. The Pacific Group is clear across the country from where you are, unless he joined the East Coast chapter, the Atlantic Group. I wouldn't worry about your spark. He probably had to call his sponsor to ask permission to date you. Bottom line is that Pacific Group people are only supposed to date Pacific Group people. How do you think they keep Clancy supplied with fresh young chicks. Not only do the guys have to wear a jacket and tie when they speak at an AA meeting, the ladies must wear a dress. They're worse than the Promise Keepers. Pairing you up with this guy would be the worst ideological match up since the Steinham/Limbaugh blind date. Unless of course, your interest is merely derived from suffering from a severe case of that age old Hawaiian disease, Laka Nuki. In that case, tell him that he has shown you the error of your ways and that you are ready to work the steps with him as long as he's ready to skip the first twelve. Badda Bing, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 case of that age old Hawaiian disease, Laka Nuki. > > Laka Nuki...hmmmm....yeh, I am familiar with that disease. And the only step I ever really understood was the 13th step. *sigh* ~Trixxi Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 HA HA HA HA , you're too funny! Yes, he's from Los Angeles. He's only studying here on the east coast. Actually, I was surprised to hear that he's a former Clancy-ite. He attended the Pacifica group for a couple of years, was amazed at the ability of that group to transform people, allowed himself to be transformed to a degree which was comfortable for him, and left. He now smokes pot occasionally, but doesn't drink. Never liked drinking too much anyway. Yes, the ideological differences (with respect to AA) were extremely polarized. Too bad it was the second topic we started talking about because we may have found something less core-passion polar-opposite in nature. I've resolved the evening in my mind. In fact just about 5 minutes ago while toasting a bagel. It all relates back to my mother. I still don a " mask " when in my mother's presence. I know, I'm 31 years old, it's time to cut the shit out. I was donning a similar mask with this guy. For whatever reason he became my mother. I started acting with him the way I do around mom. This of course means that I have to somehow destroy the mask when I go visit mom over the holidays. Not easy, but it must be done. This will help me recover from that HAWAIIAN DISEASE too. (ROLF) They say that in romance (or potential romance) people tend to recreate the relationship which they have with the parent with whom there remain unresolved issues. I think there's truth to this. Apple Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 apple, i know how you feel. i just moved back to balitmore (my old haunt where i did msot of my drinking before i got sober) and am trying to get back to swing of things in this city, meet new people etc..i havent dated i awhile myself, but i feel better about myself and have more self confidence than i did when i was up here last and drinking. you'll do ok, esepcially if your attarctive when you where that facial cream mask in your photo, you must be lovely when your all dolled up. cant see you with someone from clancy's group, that man is scary. i used to have some of his tapes, and his message on how to treat newcommers is a lesson in mental abuse and mind control. " apple " wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10303 > HP is messing with me. Of course that's a joke, but this is what went > down last night. > > Well you all know that I haven't dated in a long time. So I get all > dolled up, and I decide to head out to go dancing. They give swing > dancing lessons at a dance studio in a nearby town. Before the dance, I > go to the hip and cool coffee shop around the corner for a cup of tea. > A nice looking young man ogles me as I walk in. He smiles, I smile > back. As I'm waiting for my tea, he comes up to the counter. I tell > him he looks like my cousin . (I don't have a cousin ). I say > " mind if I sit with you? " OK he says eagerly. (he'd gone there to meet > girls). > > So we get to talking, and I'm feeling really happy because I really > really really need to get out and meet people, cause my social life has > started to rust over. He seems intelligent, attractive, a brooding > intellectual with a penchant for adventure & excitement. > > Well, we get to talking, and somehow we land on the topic of The Past. > Turns out he was a juveinille delinquent when he was young, got > involved in drugs and crime, was arrested and " cleaned up " . Now he's a > student at one of the top ivy league universities which happens to be > in that town. > > I ask... so... how did they clean you up? Well, he went into a halfway > house, and spent a year in.... (drum roll) The Pacifica Group. He's a > Clancy graduate! I told him about my activities and it became evident > that we have definite ideological differences in this area. > > So I went for my dance lesson, was supposed to meet him at 10:00 pm, > stayed too long at dance class and only showed up at 10:40. He wasn't > there. > > You know, I don't think that it was so much the difference of ideology, > I think perhaps we could have had interesting conversation because of > it... somehow, I feel like I've lost my spark somewhere. This really > pisses me off. > > I won't give up! I will find my spark. > > Apple > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 javajen, i wish i knew what to say. does your hsuband want to stop drinking and drugging? becasue there is no treatment anywhere that works unless the person really wants to. unfortunatly, i believe its usually only after the hits a bottom or nearly kills themselevs that they wake up and see what they have to do. dave javajen-@... wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10315 > Hi All > It's the Voice Of Desperation. As a recap, yes I did leave my > husband who began using crack in excess and getting violent. He tried to od > on muscle relaxers and smoked about 500 worth of crack in less than 24. I > brought him to a Mental Hospital and they put him on luvox and depacote and > sent him home saying he needs TREATMENT AND A 12 STEP RECOVERY PROGRAM I told > them my views and said look this man needs some help other then that catch > all answer and hes asking you for it. And his " TEAM " said he is and addict > and thats the way it is when his disease is talking. My husband is going to > die, as he got out on Tuesday and has been smoking and drinking and taking > these meds since then. If anything I believe the depacote may keep him out > there longer since its a seizure inhibating drug. What to do What to do..... > Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 Hi Dave: I was wearing the face cream the night I met the Clancy graduate. That's how I get all dolled up. I belive it when you say that Clancy's way of treating newcomers must be all about mental abuse & mind control. Very scary stuff. Apple original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10314 > apple, i know how you feel. i just moved back to balitmore (my old > haunt where i did msot of my drinking before i got sober) and am > trying to get back to swing of things in this city, meet new people > etc..i havent dated i awhile myself, but i feel better about myself > and have more self confidence than i did when i was up here last and > drinking. you'll do ok, esepcially if your attarctive when you where > that facial cream mask in your photo, you must be lovely when your all > dolled up. cant see you with someone from clancy's group, that man is > scary. i used to have some of his tapes, and his message on how to > treat newcommers is a lesson in mental abuse and mind control. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 1999 Report Share Posted December 12, 1999 Sheesh! So sorry to hear about your husband's problems. I hope that he gets through this. I'm glad that you're at least physically safe, Jen, and your daughter too. Does your husband have any sort of plan to avoid self destructing? Apple javajen-@... wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10315 > Hi All > It's the Voice Of Desperation. As a recap, yes I did leave my > husband who began using crack in excess and getting violent. He tried to od > on muscle relaxers and smoked about 500 worth of crack in less than 24. I > brought him to a Mental Hospital and they put him on luvox and depacote and > sent him home saying he needs TREATMENT AND A 12 STEP RECOVERY PROGRAM I told > them my views and said look this man needs some help other then that catch > all answer and hes asking you for it. And his " TEAM " said he is and addict > and thats the way it is when his disease is talking. My husband is going to > die, as he got out on Tuesday and has been smoking and drinking and taking > these meds since then. If anything I believe the depacote may keep him out > there longer since its a seizure inhibating drug. What to do What to do..... > Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 Jen, I saw you email and just had to reply.You said your husband started taking depakote and luvox since hes been out of the hospital, and that you think that the depakote will help your husband stop drinking/drugging etc because its an anti seizure med. Ok while its true that Depakote, is also a mood stablizer that is given to people with bipolar disorder, cyclothymia, and sometimes borderline personality disorder. The Luvox is an antidepressant that has shown to be effective in people with obsessive compulsive disorder. I have yet to read anything that states that either of those medications are to be used for addiction. Also keep in mind that if he goes to AA and tells anyone there that he is taking those medications they will coerse him off of them faster than he can blink. So what to do? I would suggest you have him follow up with a qualified psychiatrist to see if he has a bonafide " mental illness " and if so follow that treatment route. But thats just my opinion. Louree Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 Hi when My husband went to the hospital he told them his plan was to smoke enough crack until his heart blew up, that he could not think of any other way out. The hospital does not see this as a suicide threat. The kept him on the locked ward for 48 hours then prescribed the aforementioned meds and sent him home. These were Doctors. Thanks Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 well its now 48 hours since I have heard from him,he is not at home and I am scared shit that something has gone terribly wrong. I know the lengths that he goes to to get this shit, and im sure things are very ugly by now. This hurts really bad and I can get no help from anyone in the medical profession because drugs are involved, the thing is is that he always calls, I am not sure what to do. Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 Ohmygod, this is awful. He's still smoking the crack? Apple javajen-@... wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10322 > Hi > when My husband went to the hospital he told them his plan was to smoke > enough crack until his heart blew up, that he could not think of any other > way out. The hospital does not see this as a suicide threat. The kept him on > the locked ward for 48 hours then prescribed the aforementioned meds and sent > him home. These were Doctors. > Thanks > Jen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 > I belive it when you say that Clancy's way of treating newcomers must > be all about mental abuse & mind control. Very scary stuff. > Apple Apple, Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your best thinking got you here " He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. These new recruits upon reaching a year of sobriety after continuous exposure to the PG, will be capable of eating up newcomers and spitting out sober drones by the hundreds. These are AA's elite. The darlings of the treatment industry, the destroyers of free thought, the defenders of the traditions. The Few, the Proud, the PG. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 A favorite of mine was that if enough people tell you your a horse you'd better get a saddle. In a message dated 12/13/99 10:27:59 PM Central Standard Time, kayleighs@... writes: > A counselor where I was treated said something very similar. " If I think > that wall is white, and five people tell me it's black, I'd better start > believing it's black. " Chills ran down my spine. > --- > Kayleigh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 Geeze! I guess I have just always had too much of my own mind to fall for shit like that! About 3 months after I joined the U.S. Navy, I booked (a.k.a. went AWOL) and didn't return for FOUR YEARS! Honest to gawd. I could scan my 'DD214' and prove it to everyone! ~Trixxi Re: Grrrrrr.... HP is messing with me > > I belive it when you say that Clancy's way of treating newcomers must > > be all about mental abuse & mind control. Very scary stuff. > > Apple > > Apple, > > Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot > camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of > your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions > are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your > best thinking got you here " > > He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken > down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a > grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual > predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic > training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join > their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. > > These new recruits upon reaching a year of sobriety after continuous > exposure to the PG, will be capable of eating up newcomers and spitting > out sober drones by the hundreds. These are AA's elite. The darlings of > the treatment industry, the destroyers of free thought, the defenders of > the traditions. > > The Few, the Proud, the PG. > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > A Proud Member of the One & Only Associate Network > http://clickhere./click/1709 > > -- Easily schedule meetings and events using the group calendar! > -- /cal?listname=12-step-free & m=1 > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 i had one of clancys tapes, in it he says that newcomers need to be told that everything they " think " they know is wrong. the example he states is that if they see a green wall and he tells them its red, then it is red. very twisted, and most certainly preaching mind control indoctrination. dave john hollister wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10338 > > I belive it when you say that Clancy's way of treating newcomers must > > be all about mental abuse & mind control. Very scary stuff. > > Apple > > Apple, > > Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot > camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of > your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions > are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your > best thinking got you here " > > He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken > down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a > grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual > predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic > training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join > their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. > > These new recruits upon reaching a year of sobriety after continuous > exposure to the PG, will be capable of eating up newcomers and spitting > out sober drones by the hundreds. These are AA's elite. The darlings of > the treatment industry, the destroyers of free thought, the defenders of > the traditions. > > The Few, the Proud, the PG. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 1999 Report Share Posted December 13, 1999 A counselor where I was treated said something very similar. " If I think that wall is white, and five people tell me it's black, I'd better start believing it's black. " Chills ran down my spine. --- Kayleigh Zz zZ |\ z _,,,---,,_ /,`.-'`' _ ;-;;,_ |,4- ) )-,_..;\ ( `'-' '---''(_/--' `-'\_) >i had one of clancys tapes, in it he says that newcomers need to be >told that everything they " think " they know is wrong. the example he >states is that if they see a green wall and he tells them its red, then >it is red. very twisted, and most certainly preaching mind control >indoctrination. > >dave > >john hollister wrote: >original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10338 >> > I belive it when you say that Clancy's way of treating newcomers >must >> > be all about mental abuse & mind control. Very scary stuff. >> > Apple >> >> Apple, >> >> Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot >> camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of >> your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " > " Opinions >> are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite > " Your >> best thinking got you here " >> >> He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not >broken >> down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through >a >> grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, >sexual >> predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic >> training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to >join >> their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. >> >> These new recruits upon reaching a year of sobriety after continuous >> exposure to the PG, will be capable of eating up newcomers and >spitting >> out sober drones by the hundreds. These are AA's elite. The darlings >of >> the treatment industry, the destroyers of free thought, the defenders >of >> the traditions. >> >> The Few, the Proud, the PG. >> >> >> > > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Get 75% Off Our Best Selling Health and Wellness Books! >SelfCare.com has everything you need to take care of you and your family, >plus spend $40 or more and your shipping is free! >http://clickhere./click/1824 > > > >-- Create a poll/survey for your group! >-- /vote?listname=12-step-free & m=1 > > > --== Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ ==-- Share what you know. Learn what you don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 1999 Report Share Posted December 17, 1999 " kayleigh s " wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10354 > A counselor where I was treated said something very similar. " If I think that wall is white, and five people tell me it's black, I'd better start believing it's black. " Chills ran down my spine. Good grief. where's Asch when you need him??? We need the courage to speak the evidence of our own eyes! As Orwell's Winston said: " Freedom is the right to say 2 + 2 = 4 " . [in Stalinist Russia, they had posters saying 2 + 2 = 5.] P. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 1999 Report Share Posted December 18, 1999 I was in a PG offshoot, I used to hear that " your best thinking " bit of newspeak. What's funny is that from either side, proAA or antiAA, " your worst thinking got you here " would be technically accurate. But try telling them that (I did) In a message dated 12/13/99 5:05:47 PM Central Standard Time, johnhollister@... writes: << Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your best thinking got you here " He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 1999 Report Share Posted December 18, 1999 That phrase used to confuse me a lot. They'd say, " Your worst thinking got you here, " and I'd think, " Well, they all say this is where I'm supposed to be, so why is it my worst thinking? " Nowadays I see it differently. --- Kayleigh Zz zZ |\ z _,,,---,,_ /,`.-'`' _ ;-;;,_ |,4- ) )-,_..;\ ( `'-' '---''(_/--' `-'\_) >I was in a PG offshoot, I used to hear that " your best thinking " bit of >newspeak. What's funny is that from either side, proAA or antiAA, " your worst >thinking got you here " would be technically accurate. But try telling them >that (I did) > > >In a message dated 12/13/99 5:05:47 PM Central Standard Time, >johnhollister@... writes: > ><< > Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot > camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of > your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions > are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your > best thinking got you here " > > He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken > down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a > grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual > predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic > training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join > their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. >> > >------------------------------------------------------------------------ >Want to send money instantly to anyone, anywhere, anytime? >You can today at X.com - and we'll give you $20 to try it! Sign >up today at X.com. It's quick, free, & there's no obligation! >http://click./1/332/1/_/4324/_/945532808 > >-- Check out your group's private Chat room >-- /ChatPage?listName=12-step-free & m=1 > > > --== Sent via Deja.com http://www.deja.com/ ==-- Share what you know. Learn what you don't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 18, 1999 Report Share Posted December 18, 1999 I asked a dude at the Alano Club about this group and he told me some good gossip. The guy I heard it from is a rather crazy character, though, so I don't want to post it for all the world to see. Suffice to say it reminded me of the Branch ians. eudaimon8413311-@... wrote: original article:/group/12-step-free/?start=10535 > I was in a PG offshoot, I used to hear that " your best thinking " bit of > newspeak. What's funny is that from either side, proAA or antiAA, " your worst > thinking got you here " would be technically accurate. But try telling them > that (I did) > > > In a message dated 12/13/99 5:05:47 PM Central Standard Time, > johnhollister@... writes: > > << > Clancy probably picked up the techniques he uses when he was in boot > camp. Shouting stuff like, " Hey newcomer maggot, take the cotton out of > your ears and stuff it in your mouth! " " You don't know shit " " Opinions > are like assholes, everybody's got one " and the time worn favorite " Your > best thinking got you here " > > He and the PG(pacific group) breaks them down. As if they're not broken > down enough due to their own life circumstances. They are put through a > grueling obstacle course of half truths, irrational absurdities, sexual > predators, and ex-cons. If they make it through the harrowing basic > training consisting of 90 meetings in 90 days. They are invited to join > their beloved corps. The Sobriety SS. >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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