Guest guest Posted August 8, 2005 Report Share Posted August 8, 2005 Dear friends, I ahve been reading the psots for the past couple of days and I am realizing as I read how much control these kids have even when thye don't answer, etc. The control is in our reactions, frustrations, etc and so I am sitting ehre thinking so what can I control. I ahve attached a handout I received at my group last week that I am finding very helpful. I must remember that if she doesn't answer I can't control that but I can control; my reactions. I can decide that I am going to elt go of my frustration in some way and not let her control my next few hours as I sit consumed with anger and rage and on and on. Mine seems to be in a good space these days. she is clean and sober and that really makes a differnece. I don't know what is happening with boyfriend, last I ehard they ahd a fight becasue he won't change. I wonder what he is supposed toi chnage and if she ever things that maybe she needs to change. I babysat today and that was nice, then she asked me if I would go camping with them in few weeks, I can't think of anything I would like less to do so I will begin by praying that it rains and then develop a I'm busy plan " anything to not go and be confined in a tent with her potentail rage for three days. I am really trying to work through where my deep fear is coming from, I am terrified of her anger and of course live in fear that it will erupt. court is 22nd so the next 2 weeks will be very challenging. Happy Sunday Elaine --------------------------------- Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 8, 2005 Report Share Posted August 8, 2005 Elaine Your court date and you shall be inmy thoughts and prayers. Dot _____ From: WTOParentsOfBPs [mailto:WTOParentsOfBPs ] On Behalf Of Elaine Sent: Sunday, August 07, 2005 10:26 PM To: WTOParentsOfBPs Subject: control Dear friends, I ahve been reading the psots for the past couple of days and I am realizing as I read how much control these kids have even when thye don't answer, etc. The control is in our reactions, frustrations, etc and so I am sitting ehre thinking so what can I control. I ahve attached a handout I received at my group last week that I am finding very helpful. I must remember that if she doesn't answer I can't control that but I can control; my reactions. I can decide that I am going to elt go of my frustration in some way and not let her control my next few hours as I sit consumed with anger and rage and on and on. Mine seems to be in a good space these days. she is clean and sober and that really makes a differnece. I don't know what is happening with boyfriend, last I ehard they ahd a fight becasue he won't change. I wonder what he is supposed toi chnage and if she ever things that maybe she needs to change. I babysat today and that was nice, then she asked me if I would go camping with them in few weeks, I can't think of anything I would like less to do so I will begin by praying that it rains and then develop a I'm busy plan " anything to not go and be confined in a tent with her potentail rage for three days. I am really trying to work through where my deep fear is coming from, I am terrified of her anger and of course live in fear that it will erupt. court is 22nd so the next 2 weeks will be very challenging. Happy Sunday Elaine --------------------------------- Start your day with Yahoo! - make it your home page Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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