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My name is Sophie and I have been reading your posts for the past few weeks.

There are many similarities between your daughters' behavior and that of my

nineteen year old. She does not openly rage much, but she has a lot of rage

inside her. SHe has done cutting, smokes a lot of pot, has been hospitalized

twice, had to go to five high schools before she graduated, has done a " suicide

attempt " (??) and lots of histrionic behavior. She has been diagnosed BPD. The

main thing is huge lack of self esteem, dependency, clingy behavior and the idea

that she would die if so and so were to leave her, so instead she leaves THEM or

pushes them to leave her so she won't actually be dumped. (And the anti-female

thing is UNCANNY -- she seems jealous of any halfway attractive girl near her

age.) And projecting her own (irresponsible, impulsive, irrational) behavior

onto others. And habitual lying.

The posts from people whose kids are in their twenties or even thirties are kind

of scary, because of course I don't know if that is where she is headed.

Medications have helped a lot, years of therapy, and me getting her a cat...But

I really think she will be dependent on me and unable to earn her living

forever, which is so depressing.

I want to address the adoption issue.(My dtr was adopted at 3 months) I know a

lot of adopted kids have problem (and I know many of them personally). Besides

the one post ( Fla?) , does anyone else have an bp adoptee? (I have to add

that my also-adopted son is NOT BP, though he does have some " rage issues " ).

I'm glad I finally weighed in with my two cents.

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