Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Yes deep down she does. She is just fighting against everything about you at the moment. The best title of a BPD book I ever read was " I Hate You, Don't Leave Me " Avery good description! Hugd Kelley Re: venting and anger Does she even remember that I exist at this point? Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Oh Jean don't think of that will only worry you more. i am glad you are seeing the attorney again! Hugs Kelley Re: venting and anger Kelley Thank you. I just got off the phone with the attorney I spoke with last week. She said 's current behavior puts a new light on things. I am meetin with her tomorrow. Also, I know I am getting crazy, but that girl who drowned her 2 little boys in S Carolina a few years back because her boyfriend didn't want them around; that keeps going thru my mind or what's left of it. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Jean— I live in S Carolina, and know you are speaking of . The coverage here was astronomical because she lived abut a few counties away. Just remember this: your daughter is NOT . Your grandchildren are NOT in the care of !!! Sure, you can spend time beating yourself over the head with the thought something like that may happen to your grandkids if you want to. But, you DO have a CHOICE as to what you think of. Me, I would prefer to believe that my detective and/or attorney was going to help me wrest control of those precious grandkids from her grasp!! Kelley’s right—you’ve got to be mentally prepared for that! That means being strong and ready to embrace them in your loving arms. You can’t afford to fall apart now!!! Also, most communities have a crisis help line of some sort. Find out what is available in your community, and exploit it ruthlessly. Luck to you, katie Re: venting and anger Kelley Thank you. I just got off the phone with the attorney I spoke with last week. She said 's current behavior puts a new light on things. I am meetin with her tomorrow. Also, I know I am getting crazy, but that girl who drowned her 2 little boys in S Carolina a few years back because her boyfriend didn't want them around; that keeps going thru my mind or what's left of it. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Jean BOTH! When you finish go to helens world resources think i sent the link earlier and it has some more explanations..... here is her top 40 list for BPD reference.....a lot of good stuff there! custody stuff too! http://www.bpdresources.com/top40.html Take that book to your attorney as well or mention it at least! Hgus Kelley Re: venting and anger I just got back from the bookstore. I bought " I Hate You Don't Leave Me " and I went to lunch and read some of it. I read something in the middle of the book that said, that the current relationship they're in when it gets too close, they will sabotage because they're uncomfortable with intimacy. That would make me think she might dump dirtbag, but then another section talked about how they will go back and forth with those guys who abuse them. So, which is it? Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Let me try again try this http://www.bpdresources.com/top40.html or the main page link is: http://www.bpdresources.com/index.html and this I thought you might be interested in about BPD and memory: http://www.bpdresources.com/memory.html Re: venting and anger Kelley That link comes up as " Page you're looking for isn't here " . Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Good! Re: venting and anger Kelley I found it. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2005 Report Share Posted March 24, 2005 Jean That is a good question, but I dont think they do. I think it is more a stuggle to be in control, and the need to be in control. So even if they cannot control themselves if they can control thier surroundings and those in thier surroundings there is some comfort, I could be wrong though. Kelley Is having power over someone something they strive for? Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2005 Report Share Posted March 25, 2005 With my bp dtr, once she FINALLY decides the guy isn't what she wants or needs, she dumps them without EVER going back to them. BUT, in the meantime, she goes back and forth while she's deciding. So, with my kid, it's been BOTH!! Re: venting and anger I just got back from the bookstore. I bought " I Hate You Don't Leave Me " and I went to lunch and read some of it. I read something in the middle of the book that said, that the current relationship they're in when it gets too close, they will sabotage because they're uncomfortable with intimacy. That would make me think she might dump dirtbag, but then another section talked about how they will go back and forth with those guys who abuse them. So, which is it? Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 25, 2005 Report Share Posted March 25, 2005 Absolutely, they get a rush! The whole pushing people away, and not letting you see your grandkids, etc. has to do with the bp not feeling in control, and a desperate effort to feel some personal power. Re: venting and anger I was just reading an article on power and power plays. It wasn't in relation to bps specifically. My question is do bps get a rush from power over others? Is having power over someone something they strive for? Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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