I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass)

[Guest guest]

Today while waiting for at school, I was chatting with some of the moms in

his class. I see them every school day, and everyone just chats. But during

THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY all know each other's phone numbers

and personal lives!

So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering why I'm on the outside.

Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He prodded me, and I told him. He

said, " I don't know what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I said,

" It's not even that they don't like me -- they don't even get to KNOW me. "

I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering about it, and saying, " what is

it about me that makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc answered

with what is probably the truth of the matter: " Because of your kid. Because

you're The Special Needs Mom. "

And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the asperger's has a lot to do

with it, but all through my life before now there have been special people who

have been willing to keep calling me, and dropping by, and calling me more,

until I become their friend. All of the friends I still have in my life (or

ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their mission to be my friend, however

apathetic to the idea I may have seemed. People who just kept calling, even

when I didn't call back. And I love those people because they never gave up

-- they WANTED me to be their friend.

I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be that attractive to potential

friends, which leaves only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those who

might have befriended me otherwise.

WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening about being friendly and

personal with the mother of an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious?

Or do they think I might be a horrible person who DIS THIS to my kid? Or do

they think they'd need to treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want

their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking their kid can learn enough

acceptance and tolerance just by sitting in circle time with him at school?

I could go on for hours...

Jacquie

mom to , 5

Parenting Autism moderator

" Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. "

--Greta Ehrlich

[Guest guest]

> Today while waiting for at school, I was chatting with some of

the moms in his class. I see them every school day, and everyone

just chats. But during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY

all know each other's phone numbers and personal lives!

>

YOu know Jacquie - I see this too. I've always been very friendly

with the parents (even with 's school) and yet they all seem to

*know* each other a lot better. I never understood it either. But I " m

also not the type to necessarily reach out to someone I don't know

well and say Hi I'm Kerri, what's your number let's get together. I

dunno..

Kerri

But WE LOVE YOU!

[Guest guest]

Oh, I have felt the exact same way! Long before Kep got his dx even.

That's why I love this neighborhood. There are other special needs moms and

we cling to each other!

I think the reason they keep their distance is because they are scared. Not

of your son, not of autism catching and certainly not of you. They are

simply ignorant so they don't know what to say or do, so they choose to do

nothing. I really, really think that is the reason. The best thing about

the new mom in the neighborhood? When she heard Kep was autistic, she

immediately started asking questions. She was comfortable right away. Most

people aren't that way though. Disabilities scare them because they don't

know how to handle it. Should they act different? Offer pity? People just

don't get it. Honestly Jacquie, if they are too afraid to approach you and

ask simple questions, then they are not worth knowing all that well.

Amy H--in Michigan

Kepler 4 1/2 ASD and Bethany 6 NT

" Harmony breeds ignorance. It is the dissonant chords of life that lead us

to wisdom. " ~me

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[Guest guest]

Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have

very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances,

but only one friend that I do things with besides my

husband or my family. I don't think it's necessarily

a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your

life as it is. I don't really want the obligation

that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to go

places much. I like to stay home with my family and

not have to call people all the time and feel

obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya know?

I guess it's not too surprising that I have a special

needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this I

think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I

think....YUP! I sure am.

Tamara

--- The Hunny Family wrote:

> Today while waiting for at school, I was

> chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see

> them every school day, and everyone just chats. But

> during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY

> all know each other's phone numbers and personal

> lives!

>

> So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering

> why I'm on the outside.

>

> Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He

> prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't know

> what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I

> said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- they

> don't even get to KNOW me. "

>

> I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering

> about it, and saying, " what is it about me that

> makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc

> answered with what is probably the truth of the

> matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The

> Special Needs Mom. "

>

> And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the

> asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all through

> my life before now there have been special people

> who have been willing to keep calling me, and

> dropping by, and calling me more, until I become

> their friend. All of the friends I still have in my

> life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their

> mission to be my friend, however apathetic to the

> idea I may have seemed. People who just kept

> calling, even when I didn't call back. And I love

> those people because they never gave up -- they

> WANTED me to be their friend.

>

> I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be

> that attractive to potential friends, which leaves

> only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those

> who might have befriended me otherwise.

>

> WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening

> about being friendly and personal with the mother of

> an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious?

> Or do they think I might be a horrible person who

> DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd need to

> treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want

> their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking

> their kid can learn enough acceptance and tolerance

> just by sitting in circle time with him at school?

>

> I could go on for hours...

>

> Jacquie

> mom to , 5

> Parenting Autism moderator

> " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be

> what we are. "

> --Greta Ehrlich

>

>

>

>

__________________________________________________

[Guest guest]

You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base.

I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I was

never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think it's

just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I do

not communicate on the same level as the

soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So,

naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these

people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really)

It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one would

sit and talk with you forever on the playground.

:-D

Penny

>>>>>>>

I could go on for hours...

Jacquie

mom to , 5

Parenting Autism moderator

" Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. "

--Greta Ehrlich

<<<<<<<

[Guest guest]

> Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have

> very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances,

> but only one friend that I do things with besides my

> husband or my family.

You have a friend to do things with???

You're ahead of me. I have one friend whose house I visit so the kids can play,

but we don't socialize on our own. My best friends are both hours away.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

Now I am a wee bit concerned.

Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while at the conference? LOL

I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes? No? Yes???

;o)

Grace

Re: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass)

> Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have

> very few friends myself. I have many aquaintances,

> but only one friend that I do things with besides my

> husband or my family. I don't think it's necessarily

> a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your

> life as it is. I don't really want the obligation

> that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to go

> places much. I like to stay home with my family and

> not have to call people all the time and feel

> obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya know?

> I guess it's not too surprising that I have a special

> needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this I

> think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I

> think....YUP! I sure am.

> Tamara

>

> --- The Hunny Family wrote:

> > Today while waiting for at school, I was

> > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I see

> > them every school day, and everyone just chats. But

> > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that THEY

> > all know each other's phone numbers and personal

> > lives!

> >

> > So once again, there I was on the outside, wondering

> > why I'm on the outside.

> >

> > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He

> > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't know

> > what people's problems are. *I* like you a lot. " I

> > said, " It's not even that they don't like me -- they

> > don't even get to KNOW me. "

> >

> > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering

> > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that

> > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and Marc

> > answered with what is probably the truth of the

> > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're The

> > Special Needs Mom. "

> >

> > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure the

> > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all through

> > my life before now there have been special people

> > who have been willing to keep calling me, and

> > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become

> > their friend. All of the friends I still have in my

> > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it their

> > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to the

> > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept

> > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I love

> > those people because they never gave up -- they

> > WANTED me to be their friend.

> >

> > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to be

> > that attractive to potential friends, which leaves

> > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off those

> > who might have befriended me otherwise.

> >

> > WHY? I don't understand. What is so frightening

> > about being friendly and personal with the mother of

> > an autistic child? Do they think he's contagious?

> > Or do they think I might be a horrible person who

> > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd need to

> > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not want

> > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid, thinking

> > their kid can learn enough acceptance and tolerance

> > just by sitting in circle time with him at school?

> >

> > I could go on for hours...

> >

> > Jacquie

> > mom to , 5

> > Parenting Autism moderator

> > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be

> > what we are. "

> > --Greta Ehrlich

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

> __________________________________________________

>

[Guest guest]

> You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base.

>

> I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I was

> never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think it's

> just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers.

More and more as things come up in my life, I realize that the informal

Asperger's dx is probably right on.

People like you and I do

> not communicate on the same level as the

> soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So,

> naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these

> people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really)

I do know you're right about the communication impasse. I also know that I tend

to speak too plainly for most people. I don't mean simply, I mean in-your-face

blatantcy (if such a word exists). And I offer too much personal information.

I feel like the rest of the world has a secret code way of talking, like they're

foloowing some rules of social interaction that I just don't know. I've said

this for years; it's not just the knowledge of ASD that's making me say it now.

I used to cry and say, " why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as

ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it to MY kid! LOL

> It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one would

> sit and talk with you forever on the playground.

You have no idea how happy that makes me. And it goes both ways!

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while at the conference? LOL

> I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes? No? Yes???

>

YES! But (I've been waiting for an opportunity to bring this up) DON'T hug me

first! LOL. If *I* hug you, that's great, and I hope you'll hug me back. If

you ASK to hug me, or TELL me you're about to hug me, that's great. But if just

hug me without any warning whatsoever, I will be incredibly uncomfortable.

Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

I feel faint.

Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this conference. All

of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate on and

leave me out in lalaland or something.

Grace

RE: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass)

> You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base.

>

> I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I

was

> never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think

it's

> just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I

do

> not communicate on the same level as the

> soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So,

> naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these

> people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really)

>

> It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one

would

> sit and talk with you forever on the playground.

>

> :-D

> Penny

>

>

> >>>>>>>

> I could go on for hours...

>

> Jacquie

> mom to , 5

> Parenting Autism moderator

> " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. "

> --Greta Ehrlich

>

> <<<<<<<

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well, it is never nice to feel left out, and I know I have felt that way at

baseball and soccer games although I don't really care deeply. They would

sometimes ask why I couldn't watch the games properly instead of roaming all

over with Putter. There is no real way to explain that " watching the games

properly " would mean holding a strong struggling Putter and perhaps Robbie

too during the game. I suspect I can see more of the game while roaming

than I would under those circumstances! And imagine the stares!

Most people have little idea of what we live through; people of little

imagination have even less.

And Amy is right that they don't know what to say. We are the embodiment of

all their bad dreams. No one wants to talk to a nightmare.

Salli

[Guest guest]

Grace...you are too too funny!!!! LOLOL

Of course I will talk to you. I already know you.

It's new friends that I have a problem with. And

maintainance of everyday face to face friendships.

It's usually too much work. My entire time there will

be dedicated to socializing. So fear not....we will

be having a good time!!!!

This post seriously cracked me up!!! You are

hilarious.

Tamara

--- Grace Keh wrote:

> Now I am a wee bit concerned.

>

> Are you people actually going to SPEAK to me while

> at the conference? LOL

> I mean... it's okay if I TALK with you guys, yes?

> No? Yes???

>

> ;o)

>

> Grace

> Re: I'm pretty upset.

> (but it will pass)

>

>

> > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have

> > very few friends myself. I have many

> aquaintances,

> > but only one friend that I do things with besides

> my

> > husband or my family. I don't think it's

> necessarily

> > a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your

> > life as it is. I don't really want the obligation

> > that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to

> go

> > places much. I like to stay home with my family

> and

> > not have to call people all the time and feel

> > obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya

> know?

> > I guess it's not too surprising that I have a

> special

> > needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this

> I

> > think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I

> > think....YUP! I sure am.

> > Tamara

> >

> > --- The Hunny Family wrote:

> > > Today while waiting for at school, I was

> > > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I

> see

> > > them every school day, and everyone just chats.

> But

> > > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that

> THEY

> > > all know each other's phone numbers and personal

> > > lives!

> > >

> > > So once again, there I was on the outside,

> wondering

> > > why I'm on the outside.

> > >

> > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He

> > > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't

> know

> > > what people's problems are. *I* like you a

> lot. " I

> > > said, " It's not even that they don't like me --

> they

> > > don't even get to KNOW me. "

> > >

> > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering

> > > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that

> > > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and

> Marc

> > > answered with what is probably the truth of the

> > > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're

> The

> > > Special Needs Mom. "

> > >

> > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure

> the

> > > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all

> through

> > > my life before now there have been special

> people

> > > who have been willing to keep calling me, and

> > > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become

> > > their friend. All of the friends I still have

> in my

> > > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it

> their

> > > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to

> the

> > > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept

> > > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I

> love

> > > those people because they never gave up -- they

> > > WANTED me to be their friend.

> > >

> > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to

> be

> > > that attractive to potential friends, which

> leaves

> > > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off

> those

> > > who might have befriended me otherwise.

> > >

> > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so

> frightening

> > > about being friendly and personal with the

> mother of

> > > an autistic child? Do they think he's

> contagious?

> > > Or do they think I might be a horrible person

> who

> > > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd

> need to

> > > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not

> want

> > > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid,

> thinking

> > > their kid can learn enough acceptance and

> tolerance

> > > just by sitting in circle time with him at

> school?

> > >

> > > I could go on for hours...

> > >

> > > Jacquie

> > > mom to , 5

> > > Parenting Autism moderator

> > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to

> be

> > > what we are. "

> > > --Greta Ehrlich

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

[Guest guest]

>

> Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P

>

I sympathize, Jacquie. I am not a hugger by nature (I don't even give

cyber-hugs).

Of course, I won't be there but now you know I wouldn't make you

uncomfortable if I were!

Salli

[Guest guest]

> I feel faint.

> Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this conference. All

> of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate on and

> leave me out in lalaland or something.

>

Trust me, grace -- I will TALK. I will talk so long and so much that you will

be wishing I'd just shut the hell up. Trust me. I babble with the best of 'em.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

--- The Hunny Family wrote:

But during THIS particular chat, I discovered that

THEY all know each other's phone numbers and personal

lives! So once again, there I was on the outside,

wondering why I'm on the outside.

I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering about

it, and saying, " what is it about me that makes people

not bother to get to know me, " and Marc answered with

what is probably the truth of the matter: " Because of

your kid. Because you're The Special Needs Mom.<<<<<

That's me! That's so totally ME! I can't tell you how

many times I've felt like everyone's part of a secret

club. Except me. And I don't know why either. Sigh.

Tuna

=====

When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his

own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union.

-Bhagavad Gita 6:32

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[Guest guest]

But Tamara, I am dead serious - and not trying to be funny.

I am not familiar with " your kind " <Referring to you, Jacquie, and whoever

else is in your club>....

I'm probably going to screw up from minute one or something and be the odd

man out for the whole trip. Y'all will go out for breakfast for Wilkes

Barre bagels and leave me in my room, waiting for you to call me out or

something.

I'm afraid!

Grace

Re: I'm pretty upset.

> > (but it will pass)

> >

> >

> > > Jacquie, I don't know what to say to this. I have

> > > very few friends myself. I have many

> > aquaintances,

> > > but only one friend that I do things with besides

> > my

> > > husband or my family. I don't think it's

> > necessarily

> > > a bad thing unless you are not satisfied with your

> > > life as it is. I don't really want the obligation

> > > that a lot of friends involves. I don't like to

> > go

> > > places much. I like to stay home with my family

> > and

> > > not have to call people all the time and feel

> > > obligated to " get together " with so and so. Ya

> > know?

> > > I guess it's not too surprising that I have a

> > special

> > > needs daughter huh? When I write stuff like this

> > I

> > > think...jeesh, am I really like that? Then I

> > > think....YUP! I sure am.

> > > Tamara

> > >

> > > --- The Hunny Family wrote:

> > > > Today while waiting for at school, I was

> > > > chatting with some of the moms in his class. I

> > see

> > > > them every school day, and everyone just chats.

> > But

> > > > during THIS particular chat, I discovered that

> > THEY

> > > > all know each other's phone numbers and personal

> > > > lives!

> > > >

> > > > So once again, there I was on the outside,

> > wondering

> > > > why I'm on the outside.

> > > >

> > > > Marc came home later; I was monosyllabic. He

> > > > prodded me, and I told him. He said, " I don't

> > know

> > > > what people's problems are. *I* like you a

> > lot. " I

> > > > said, " It's not even that they don't like me --

> > they

> > > > don't even get to KNOW me. "

> > > >

> > > > I was puttering around the kitchen and muttering

> > > > about it, and saying, " what is it about me that

> > > > makes people not bother to get to know me, " and

> > Marc

> > > > answered with what is probably the truth of the

> > > > matter: " Because of your kid. Because you're

> > The

> > > > Special Needs Mom. "

> > > >

> > > > And I'm sure he's right. I mean, I'm also sure

> > the

> > > > asperger's has a lot to do with it, but all

> > through

> > > > my life before now there have been special

> > people

> > > > who have been willing to keep calling me, and

> > > > dropping by, and calling me more, until I become

> > > > their friend. All of the friends I still have

> > in my

> > > > life (or ever HAVE HAD) are people who made it

> > their

> > > > mission to be my friend, however apathetic to

> > the

> > > > idea I may have seemed. People who just kept

> > > > calling, even when I didn't call back. And I

> > love

> > > > those people because they never gave up -- they

> > > > WANTED me to be their friend.

> > > >

> > > > I don't want to believe that I've just ceased to

> > be

> > > > that attractive to potential friends, which

> > leaves

> > > > only Marc's explanation -- my child scares off

> > those

> > > > who might have befriended me otherwise.

> > > >

> > > > WHY? I don't understand. What is so

> > frightening

> > > > about being friendly and personal with the

> > mother of

> > > > an autistic child? Do they think he's

> > contagious?

> > > > Or do they think I might be a horrible person

> > who

> > > > DIS THIS to my kid? Or do they think they'd

> > need to

> > > > treat me with kid gloves? Or do they just not

> > want

> > > > their kids to be overly exposed to my kid,

> > thinking

> > > > their kid can learn enough acceptance and

> > tolerance

> > > > just by sitting in circle time with him at

> > school?

> > > >

> > > > I could go on for hours...

> > > >

> > > > Jacquie

> > > > mom to , 5

> > > > Parenting Autism moderator

> > > > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to

> > be

> > > > what we are. "

> > > > --Greta Ehrlich

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > > __________________________________________________

> > >

[Guest guest]

>>>I feel like the rest of the world has a secret code

way of talking, like they're foloowing some rules of

social interaction that I just don't know. I've said

this for years; it's not just the knowledge of ASD

that's making me say it now. I used to cry and say,

" why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as

ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it

to MY kid! LOL<<<<

Jacquie, you just described me. Again. This is

getting spooky.

Tuna

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When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his

own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union.

-Bhagavad Gita 6:32

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[Guest guest]

>>>Most people have little idea of what we live

through; people of little imagination have even less.<

Salli,

Well said.

Tuna

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When a person responds to the joys and sorrows of others as if they were his

own, he has attained the highest state of spiritual union.

-Bhagavad Gita 6:32

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[Guest guest]

> YES! But (I've been waiting for an opportunity to bring this up) DON'T

hug me first! LOL. If *I* hug you, that's great, and I hope you'll hug me

back. If you ASK to hug me, or TELL me you're about to hug me, that's

great. But if just hug me without any warning whatsoever, I will be

incredibly uncomfortable.

>

> Don't ask why, I don't know why. It's just how I am! :-P

OH GEEZ.

You are sounding more and more like Madison.

There is hope for her yet. YOU are another story LOL.

I will steer clear. I will take two steps back, holler my hellos and either

wait for you to hug me, or just spit at you and walk by, telling you, " See

you at dinner, girlfriend! " , OK?

Oh heavens LOLOL.... <shaking head....>

Grace

[Guest guest]

> That's me! That's so totally ME! I can't tell you how

> many times I've felt like everyone's part of a secret

> club. Except me. And I don't know why either. Sigh.

>

> Tuna

Oh. My. Gawwwd.

Tuna, you would not believe how many times I have used THOSE EXACT

WORDS.

<mouth hanging open>

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I feel faint.

> Now I am convinced. Nobody is going to talk to me at this

conference. All

> of you are going to communicate on whatever level y'all communicate

on and

> leave me out in lalaland or something.

>

> Grace

See, I should have went, cause I'd just run over and bowl you over

with a big ol hug!

Kerri

[Guest guest]

See? Now Yahoo is really pissing me off.

This message was written in the morning.

And it just came in.

Being down is one thing. Messing with the order of my message - - now that

means war.

Grace

RE: I'm pretty upset. (but it will pass)

>

>

> > You could, but don't! I think you are WAY off base.

> >

> > I always felt so sad, bad and alone because no one ever approached me, I

> was

> > never involved in the little cliques, etc. But you know what? I think

> it's

> > just your personality and, dare I say, Aspergers. People like you and I

> do

> > not communicate on the same level as the

> > soccer-mom-wheres-my-cell-phone-does-my-hair-look-ok type of Mom. So,

> > naturally, if we were to actually " get " into conversations with these

> > people, we'd tune them out immediately (no offense, folks, really)

> >

> > It's not . You are not flawed. You are who you are and I for one

> would

> > sit and talk with you forever on the playground.

> >

> > :-D

> > Penny

> >

> >

> > >>>>>>>

> > I could go on for hours...

> >

> > Jacquie

> > mom to , 5

> > Parenting Autism moderator

> > " Everything in nature invites us constantly to be what we are. "

> > --Greta Ehrlich

> >

> > <<<<<<<

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

> I'm probably going to screw up from minute one or something and be the odd

> man out for the whole trip. Y'all will go out for breakfast for Wilkes

> Barre bagels and leave me in my room, waiting for you to call me out or

> something.

BWA HA HA HA HA HA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Ummm....the scenario is more like WE'LL be in OUR rooms, deathly afraid to come

out and hoping like hell that you come and get us and pull us into the action,

because we can't do it ourselves!

I can't speak for anyone else, but as long as someone is friendly to me FIRST, I

can function quite well. If *I* have to make the first move, well, cold day in

hell and all that.

Jacquie

[Guest guest]

> I used to cry and say, " why didn't anybody teach ME??? " Which stikes me as

ironic, because now *I'm* supposed to be teaching it

to MY kid! LOL <

i say that to my therapist ALL the time...

Autism is not the end of the World. . . . just the beginning of a new one. -

Sally Meyer

[Guest guest]

> See, I should have went, cause I'd just run over and bowl you over with a big

ol hug! <

kerri!!! you could still go!!!

Autism is not the end of the World. . . . just the beginning of a new one. -

Sally Meyer