Re: New Member here

[Guest guest]

Dear Sharon,

Welcome to our group. I'm speaking for us all when I say we're sorry it's

under these circumstances. Loosing a pregnancy due to ectopic is such a hard

thing, but just know that you can look to all of us for support and

understanding ANYTIME!

As for the chat, we don't have anything like that started yet, but I think

that is something we are trying to get going soon. Take care and I'll be

thinking about you!

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

Welcome to the group. I'm sorry for you loss, we all know your pain,

unfortunately. You have found a wonderful group of women here. I don't

know if I would have made it through the last few months without them.

They are here for the good and especially the bad times.

I also lost my right tube last August, it was a long road back, but the

good news is I made it (almost anyway). As the saying goes, time heals

all wounds, but I would like to add to that saying, but it also leaves a

scar, that's so we never forget. I hope we can help you heal with love

and support.

You asked about if the group had a live chat session. I am just in the

process of setting that up. I have been waiting for all the ladies to

reply to my e-mail asking what day and time was best for them. It looks

like I'm going set it up for Tuesday or Thursday at 9:00 p.m. I will to

be forwarding the group an e-mail about this by the beginning of next

week. I will also give you all instructions on how to get to the

chatroom. At least I could answer one of your questions.

Despite how dark everything feels right now there is a light at the end

of the tunnel. My thoughts and prayers are with you!

Big hugs,

Jo-Ann

Sharon Ezell wrote:

>

> Hello everyone. I am new to the site.

> and I lost our baby at 7 wks gestation on March 1, 2000 and it has

> been very hard on us. I wanted to know if anyone had any advice for us.

> I lost my right tube with the ectopic and I've been very depressed

> lately. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

> I look forward to making some new friends with all of you. I read some

> of the messages you have posted and you all seem like great people.

> I have a question though. Is there ever any times when everyone chats

> in a chat room so we can have open discussions? If so, please let me

> know and tell me how to get there. It's hard to manuever yourself

> around in a new site when you've never been there before.

>

> Thank you very much,

> Sharon

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[Guest guest]

Sharon,

Hi and welcome to our group. I am sorry that this the way that we all have

met. I am very sorry for your loss and I know what you mean about being

depressed. I think we have all been thru this but it does get better. You

will never forget it but it will get better.

I don't have any advice for you. I am kinda new at all this too. Never

heard of ectopic pregnancy until New Year's Eve then I wished I had never

heard of it. It is hard but you need to take it one day at a time.

I still have both of my tubes and everything else. Don't give up. I have

heard of lots of women conceiving with just one tube. I think there is some

here that have too. It is hard to keep up with everyone but I try my best.

Take care.

Nora

New Member here

>Hello everyone. I am new to the site.

> and I lost our baby at 7 wks gestation on March 1, 2000 and it has

>been very hard on us. I wanted to know if anyone had any advice for us.

>I lost my right tube with the ectopic and I've been very depressed

>lately. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

>I look forward to making some new friends with all of you. I read some

>of the messages you have posted and you all seem like great people.

>I have a question though. Is there ever any times when everyone chats

>in a chat room so we can have open discussions? If so, please let me

>know and tell me how to get there. It's hard to manuever yourself

>around in a new site when you've never been there before.

>

>Thank you very much,

>Sharon

>

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[Guest guest]

Sharon,

I just wanted to welcome you to the group. This is such a hard time, and I

hope that the ladies here will be of some comfort to you.

Amy

[Guest guest]

I am alone and greatly appreciate all the mail. I feel now more at ease.

It is so hard but with the letters and seeing that a lot of others are

feeling the same way it helps extremely. Now I can no longer have children

but I will survive.

My surgery last Wed. was only to remove the fetus from my tube but when

they went in they realized my tube had exploded and that some infection had

started in so I am lucky to be sitting here right now. I keep crying but

maybe soon that will pass also.

[Guest guest]

Tara, thank you so much. I am dealing with it more and more everyday and

the one thing that hurts the most is being alone. I think that this group

will help out a lot. I keep myself busy cleaning, cooking, crocheting and

getting some seeds started for my garden but when I have nothing to do I sit

and cry. All my family says is I understand how you feel. No, they don't.

I hope they never do. It is like in a way I feel dirty like as if I was

maybe doing something wrong to my body for this to happen to me. I am a

smoker and I drink a lot of caffeine and I know those are not reasons but I

can't help but to think I did something wrong somewhere somehow. I miss Ben

(my ex fiance) and I can't believe that he is gone. We split up about two

weeks prior to knowing about the problems I was having. I called him and he

acts like it is a good thing, since we are over. I just keep thinking he

will show up and help me deal with this but I know he isn't. I am crying now

wondering how he can be so cold. We was together along time and he left me

for some younger girl with fake breasts and fake hair and fake nails. I

guess I was too normal for him. Oh well, I need to realize that he isn't

worth it and I am lucky I found out about him now instead of later. But

right now was just a bad time for him to leave me. See I didn't even know I

was pregnant. I had been bleeding for some time now and called my obgyn and

scheduled an appt. after surgery he told me if I waited any longer I could

have died. That is so hard to believe. I hate going to a doctor and that

day of the appt. I wasn't going to go then either but my sister came over and

made me and I am so glad she did. Thanks again.

[Guest guest]

Sharon,

Welcome to our group. I am truly sorry that you have had to join us, but

hope you will find comfort from all of us here. I am also minus a tube, my

left one, and lost my baby at about the same gestation as you. It has been

over 2 years and the one thing I can tell you is that it does get easier.

But it takes time. I had to have major surgery as I was at the life

threatening point. Six months later I had the hsg test you will hear about

and things look good. I have been ttc for over 8 mos now, and am currently

heading into attempt #9. There are a lot of ladies here who have suffered

their ep more recently than me, who can probably offer a lot of good advice

at this stage. One thing that is an absolute give is we all care very

much.

Tara

New Member here

Hello everyone. I am new to the site.

and I lost our baby at 7 wks gestation on March 1, 2000 and it has

been very hard on us. I wanted to know if anyone had any advice for us.

I lost my right tube with the ectopic and I've been very depressed

lately. Any information you can give me would be greatly appreciated.

I look forward to making some new friends with all of you. I read some

of the messages you have posted and you all seem like great people.

I have a question though. Is there ever any times when everyone chats

in a chat room so we can have open discussions? If so, please let me

know and tell me how to get there. It's hard to manuever yourself

around in a new site when you've never been there before.

Thank you very much,

Sharon

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[Guest guest]

,

I am so sorry that you are dealing with this by yourself. I was fortunate

to have the support of my dh. But you are not truly alone bc you have all

of us. We are a fairly large group with ladies at all stages of recovery,

both physical and emotional.

You are right that it is far better to see the true colors of a man before

you marry him. Of course this does not help you to get over a broken

heart, only time will help that. You sound like a lovely person and you

will find someone new eventually.

When are you set to go back to see your dr? It's time you had some

encouraging news, and there are options out there for you. Be prepared

with some questions for when you see your dr., and let us help if you need

it.

Tara

Re: New Member here

Tara, thank you so much. I am dealing with it more and more everyday and

the one thing that hurts the most is being alone. I think that this group

will help out a lot. I keep myself busy cleaning, cooking, crocheting and

getting some seeds started for my garden but when I have nothing to do I

sit

and cry. All my family says is I understand how you feel. No, they don't.

I hope they never do. It is like in a way I feel dirty like as if I was

maybe doing something wrong to my body for this to happen to me. I am a

smoker and I drink a lot of caffeine and I know those are not reasons but I

can't help but to think I did something wrong somewhere somehow. I miss

Ben

(my ex fiance) and I can't believe that he is gone. We split up about two

weeks prior to knowing about the problems I was having. I called him and

he

acts like it is a good thing, since we are over. I just keep thinking he

will show up and help me deal with this but I know he isn't. I am crying

now

wondering how he can be so cold. We was together along time and he left me

for some younger girl with fake breasts and fake hair and fake nails. I

guess I was too normal for him. Oh well, I need to realize that he isn't

worth it and I am lucky I found out about him now instead of later. But

right now was just a bad time for him to leave me. See I didn't even know

I

was pregnant. I had been bleeding for some time now and called my obgyn

and

scheduled an appt. after surgery he told me if I waited any longer I could

have died. That is so hard to believe. I hate going to a doctor and that

day of the appt. I wasn't going to go then either but my sister came over

and

made me and I am so glad she did. Thanks again.

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[Guest guest]

In a message dated 3/11/00 9:56:36 PM Central Standard Time,

lovebug22498@... writes:

<< It looks

like I'm going set it up for Tuesday or Thursday at 9:00 p.m. >>

You know that NYPD Blue is on Tuesday at that time and ER is on Thursday at

that time. It is a good thing that the season is almost over. Let me know

when we do this I would love to join in. I know I am not too talkative at

times but think this is a great idea.

Sharon, I agree with Jo-Ann. Time heals all wounds but the scars are

tremendous weight to bear and the heart muscles are not as good (as before

the loss) to bear it all. Anyway, glad you joined us, these women have helped

me bear the weight of my loss for the last 7 months. Has it been that long?

Let me know if I can help.

Unfound Mommie,

Angel

++already mommie to heaven sent angel JULIETTE LYN

[Guest guest]

I don't know about NYPD Blue, but ER is Thursdays at 10 pm eastern, not 9.

[Guest guest]

Hi Sharon,

Sorry it's taken so long for me to welcome you. I'm sorry for your loss,

too. It's going to take a while to sort through all of the emotions you and

your dh are going through right now. We have all been there so we will do

whatever we can to help you both. I have made friends here and have learned

a wealth of information. There are days that I don't know what I'd do

without this place.

Again, welcome!

L

[Guest guest]

Thank you Amy. So far everyone has been really helpful and it's great to have

people to talk to. It's a lot easier to talk to people who know what you're

feeling.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

Thank you Tara. Can you tell me what some of the abbreviations stand for?

I am looking forward to the great friendships I think I will have in our

group. It would be nice if we all didn't have to meet this way but sometimes

the hardest things in life bring great friendships.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

I know how you are feeling and my prayers are with you. I still cry sometimes

but is a way to heal. We are here to help anytime. I have only been in the

group for about a week but everyone here is so great and supportive. They

really care even when you think no one does. Everyone is such a great comfort.

Stay strong and always remember we are here for you.

Sharon

[Guest guest]

, Welcome, I am also . I have 4 children ages

3,10,18,21. I am 36 myself. I had a double mastectomy last month, and

now am doing the chemo every 3 weeks. My first one was a cinch

compared to all that I had heard. Today is a bit rough because my

hair has decided to fly the coop. I don't know why that surprised me

but it did. Personally I am glad you are doing chemo, it can only

help in case they missed something. I don't think of it as " the

bullet " though, that is negative. I consider it " weed-n-feed " for my

body. Like being pregnant, all the junk you go through, at the end

its worth it because of a new baby. Well for us, we go through some

junk, and at the end we get a new us. With new outlooks and better

perceptions of who we are . I hope you don't mind my philosophizing (

is that a word?) Keep your chin up !! Remember WE HAVE CANCER, CANCER

DOES NOT HAVE US !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

> Hi and welcome to the group. Glad everything came back

clear. I had

> CMF back in 1990 and didn't get sick with that. Just a little

nausea. I will

> keep you in my prayers.

> Hugs

> nne

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> New member here

>

>

> > Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your

group about a

> > week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured

it was

> > time to write one of my own.

> >

> > I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The

next day, I

> > was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated,

intermediate grade

> > ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor

positive.

> > The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan,

> abdominal

> > sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I

also had a

> > sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.

> >

> > However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and

oncologist both

> > recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week.

I'll do 6

> > courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same

> regimen?

> > I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects.

I've

> done

> > a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's

been

> through

> > this regimen.

> >

> > I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep

the kids'

> > lives as " normal " as possible through all this. Just trying to

> prepare....

> >

> > -

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Anne,

Thanks! You're right ... having faith and staying positive are very important.

I've already discovered that in spades. My weak moments are few and far

between. I'm blessed to have great family, friend and church support. Now,

because I joined this group, I feel even better. Support from people who have

" been there " means a lot.

Great to meet you!

- (in Texas)

> > -

> Hi ....I had the 5FU chemo,,,,,it was every 21 days,,,I am in

> Canada so treatment names may differ....I am a 6 1/2 yr

> survivor,,,,my tumor was 4 1/2 cm and 1 lympth node was positive,,and

> it broke away from node,,,,your scans etc being good,,,,are

> wonderful,,,,remember to have faith,,,,stay positive are as important

> as any treatment,,,,,take one day at a time and listen to your

> body,,,,if you are tired,,,rest,,,,YOU have to put YOU first right

> now,,,,,,,You have come to the best place on the web for

> support,,,,,hugs,prayers and angels,,,,Anne in Canada

[Guest guest]

Hi Sue-Anne,

Sounds like we're not too far apart on our treatment schedule. I don't know

anything about injections yet. I'm sure I'll learn. I'm taking my " chemo

class "

tomorrow. The onc nurse will teach me all about my regimen, what to expect,

what to look for, etc...

Do you do the neupogen injections yourself or do you go to the clinic for

them?

-

> Hi

>

> My name is Sue-Anne. I am on FEC just a little different then your treatment.

I had my first chemo on Sept. 10. I am also on the 21 day interval. The

treatment wasn't as bad as I thought. I had a little N & V on the first evening

and the next couple of days I felt kind of draggy (flu like symptoms) It is now

11 days post chemo and I don't feel bad at all. I also take injections of

neupogen for 14 days post chemo. This is to keep my blood counts up. I think

that it is working so far. Just remember to take your meds even if you are

feeling good. If you have any questons feel free to ask.

>

> Talk to you Soon

> Sue-Anne

> New member here

>

>

> Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your group about a

> week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured it was

> time to write one of my own.

>

> I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The next day, I

> was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated, intermediate grade

> ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor positive.

> The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan,

abdominal

> sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I also had a

> sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.

>

> However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and oncologist

both

> recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week. I'll do 6

> courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same

regimen?

> I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects. I've done

> a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's been through

> this regimen.

>

> I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep the kids'

> lives as " normal " as possible through all this. Just trying to prepare....

>

> -

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

My name is Lori and I was 39 when diagnosed with similar to your

pathology report. That was 3 years ago. Also my children were 7

and 9 then, just as are yours are. When I read your post, I

immediately felt a connection. I had Adriamycin and Cytoxin and did

pretty well through the 4 treatments. The kids lives remained

pretty much the same except for their getting use to the no hair

deal. That was really hard on them. Talk to the social workers at

your hospital because they have lots of good ideas about how to ease

the transition with the kids. Also, I let people help especially

with transporting the kids to their activities. I will keep you in

my prayers.

Hugs, Lori

> Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your group

about a

> week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured

it was

> time to write one of my own.

>

> I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The next

day, I

> was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated, intermediate

grade

> ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor

positive.

> The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan,

abdominal

> sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I also

had a

> sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.

>

> However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and

oncologist both

> recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week.

I'll do 6

> courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same

regimen?

> I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects.

I've done

> a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's been

through

> this regimen.

>

> I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep

the kids'

> lives as " normal " as possible through all this. Just trying to

prepare....

>

> -

[Guest guest]

Hi Lori,

Thanks for the advice. My husband and I have talked with the kids and we

mentioned the probability for hair loss. I have a couple of wigs ordered. We

told them about that too. At this point, they think it will be kind of funny.

I hope

they keep that attitude! I'll laugh right along with them.

I start chemo on Thursday. Round 1 of 6. It's great to know you did well. I'm

hoping and praying for the same!

-

> > Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your group

> about a

> > week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured

> it was

> > time to write one of my own.

> >

> > I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The next

> day, I

> > was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated, intermediate

> grade

> > ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor

> positive.

> > The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan,

> abdominal

> > sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I also

> had a

> > sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.

> >

> > However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and

> oncologist both

> > recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week.

> I'll do 6

> > courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same

> regimen?

> > I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects.

> I've done

> > a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's been

> through

> > this regimen.

> >

> > I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep

> the kids'

> > lives as " normal " as possible through all this. Just trying to

> prepare....

> >

> > -

[Guest guest]

Hi

Good luck on Thursday.You sound like you have a really good attitude and that is half the battle. My daughter has been great through this whole thing.

Talk to you Soon

Sue-Anne

Re: New member here

Hi Lori,Thanks for the advice. My husband and I have talked with the kids and we mentioned the probability for hair loss. I have a couple of wigs ordered. We told them about that too. At this point, they think it will be kind of funny. I hope they keep that attitude! I'll laugh right along with them.I start chemo on Thursday. Round 1 of 6. It's great to know you did well. I'm hoping and praying for the same!-> > Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your group > about a> > week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured > it was> > time to write one of my own.> > > > I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The next > day, I> > was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated, intermediate > grade> > ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor > positive.> > The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan, > abdominal> > sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I also > had a> > sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.> > > > However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and > oncologist both> > recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week. > I'll do 6> > courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same > regimen?> > I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects. > I've done> > a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's been > through> > this regimen.> > > > I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep > the kids'> > lives as "normal" as possible through all this. Just trying to > prepare....> > > > -

[Guest guest]

lots of prayers for you for your chemo treatment on Thursday.

Hugs

nne

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Re: New member here

> Hi Lori,

> Thanks for the advice. My husband and I have talked with the kids and we

> mentioned the probability for hair loss. I have a couple of wigs ordered.

We

> told them about that too. At this point, they think it will be kind of

funny. I hope

> they keep that attitude! I'll laugh right along with them.

>

> I start chemo on Thursday. Round 1 of 6. It's great to know you did

well. I'm

> hoping and praying for the same!

>

> -

>

>

> > > Hi everybody. My name's and I'm 42. I joined your group

> > about a

> > > week ago. So far, I've just been reading your emails. I figured

> > it was

> > > time to write one of my own.

> > >

> > > I had an excisional biopsy (lumpectomy) a few weeks ago. The next

> > day, I

> > > was told it was cancer ... moderately differentiated, intermediate

> > grade

> > > ductal carcinoma. It was about 2 cm large and estrogen receptor

> > positive.

> > > The surgeon got clean margins. Since then, I've had a bone scan,

> > abdominal

> > > sonogram, skeletal survey and MRI. All results look good. I also

> > had a

> > > sentinel node biopsy. All were clear. AMEN.

> > >

> > > However, I didn't escape the chemo bullet. My surgeon and

> > oncologist both

> > > recommend it in my case. I'll start the FAC regimen next week.

> > I'll do 6

> > > courses at 21-day intervals. Has anybody else had to do this same

> > regimen?

> > > I'm curious about different people's reactions and side effects.

> > I've done

> > > a lot of reading, but haven't talked to an actual person who's been

> > through

> > > this regimen.

> > >

> > > I'm married and have two children (7 and 9). I'm hoping to keep

> > the kids'

> > > lives as " normal " as possible through all this. Just trying to

> > prepare....

> > >

> > > -

>

>

>

>