Guest guest Posted July 26, 1999 Report Share Posted July 26, 1999 I just read the email posted that was supose to clear about the " rumors " about Dr Shoffner's office in Atlanta and I have had a totally different experience then the one described. My son was referred to ish Rites and Dr Shoffner about 4 months ago. We live in Melbourne Florida and our local Neurologist Dr ph Cimino, who has referred over 20 patients to the clinic, sent off 's medical history and a request for an appt months ago. He was NOT notifeid by the Doctor or Clinic that they are not scheduling new appts and so he faxed a detailed report and medical information off expecting us to get a timely appt. He was extremely frustrated when I notifed him that we were unable to get an appt set up. The clinic asked his office to send the required medical info and the standard cover letter explaining why he wanted to be seen. That was done as requested by Atlanta. Then we were told to have the Insurance contact Atlanta for information about the biopsy and appt. Janice did NOT return any calls to my son's case manager nor did she return calls that my husband and I left on her vioce mail. We also were given the run around about calling " next week for an appt " for weeks at a time! In the mean time I was actively persuing the Insuracne Co to get the preapproval necessary to " schedule " an appt with Dr Shoffner. We had to have a medical review board go over all of 's medical info in order to get the authorization needed to be sent out of state to Atlanta. I can tell you that while all this was going on we were NEVER informed that Dr Shoffner is " no longer actually seeing patients----- " he is behind the seens and does not see patients himself any longer " --this I was FINALLY told by Janice when I pushed for a reason that we were unable to set up an appt after almost 4 months. She then told me that Dr Kreviacki ( spelling? ) will be now doing the patient care and set up for biopsy. Dr Cimino's office told me that even they weren't given the professional courtesty of being notified of the trouble there. I was extremely unhappy with the treatment we were given by the staff in Atlanta . As all of you can understand, having a kid with a Mito disorder. on a g-tube, with multiple handicapping conditons is hard enough but to be mislead by such " reputable clinic " is frustrating beyond belief. has undergone multiple tests, and seen a slew of specialists and we were hoping that Atlanta would be able to give us the final answers that we have been searching for after 10+ months for ous son. I can tell you that I was able to make one phone call to Dr Cohen's in Cleveland and Iwas given an appt over the phone for 3 weeks from now without any run around or misrepensation of the clinic's staff. I was treated with respect , phone calls were answered promptly and 's health was Paramount to all concerned. If this is the so called " rumors " that Janice feels have been posted then I will tell you myself this is NOT rumor it is FACT!!!! Golden, mom to Jermey 10 months Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 1999 Report Share Posted July 27, 1999 Chrissy, There was no experience described, so I'm unsure what you are referring to. However, the rumors were that a: testing would not be completed on samples that already been collected, and b: that ish Rite was no longer going to be scheduling mito patients at all - that's all I was referring to. Janice was just concerned that people who had already been seen were hearing that their samples weren't going to be tested, which is just simply not true. Personally I have heard at least 50 stories about how great ish Rite has been and only 1 negative story, so I'm inclined to go with the percentages. I would recommend ish Rite to everybody I know based on our experience and the other experiences I have heard. When my son was seen there it took many months to get the records reviewed, the insurance approval, the appointment scheduled, travel arrangements made, etc... and I don't think it was unreasonable. But my son became symptomatic at 18 months and we didn't get a diagnosis until he was 5.5, so maybe I was just a little more used to waiting considering the ordeals we had already been through trying to get a diagnosis. Is it possible that you were just expecting more than was reasonable or possible? Did anyone ever actually make any assurances to you or the doctors that the records would be reviewed immediately or that an appointment would be scheduled immediately? Were you ever actually told by anybody from their office that you would see Dr. Shoffner personally or just basing that assumption on things you had heard from others who had been before? I personally don't think it's unreasonable that they didn't personally call you or your doctor considering what a small office they have and what a demand there is for their services right now. I understand that it's frustrating, but it doesn't sound unreasonable to me. From the time I first contacted ish Rite and sent them medical records it was about 5 months until we were actually seen. It may seem like a long time, but when you consider that mitochondrial medicine is still in it's infancy and ish Rite is one of the very few places that does fresh muscle biopsies, it really is understandable. Additionally, we saw Dr.Shoffner at a time when his office was much less busy so I can easily see how that 5 months might be much more now. Unfortunately you were trying to schedule an appointment during a time when they were unable to schedule appointments which likely added to your frustration, but it was something that couldn't be helped and I don't think it should be considered a common occurrence or a personal slight. I'm not trying to minimize your frustration and I do understand how frustrating all of this can be. Knowing Janice as well as I do, I'm also sure it has also been frustrating for her to have to be so vague during this time that they have been unable to schedule appointments, but sometimes we just have to do our job, regardless of how difficult it may be. Terri > >From: ChrissyGE@... > > > >I just read the email posted that was supose to clear about the " rumors " > >about Dr Shoffner's office in Atlanta and I have had a totally different > >experience then the one described. > > >_______________________________________________________________ >Get Free Email and Do More On The Web. Visit http://www.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 1999 Report Share Posted July 27, 1999 , I don't know about Dr. Shoffner's office, but I do know that I called Dr. Cohen's office and I too had an appt. within 3 weeks and they are great about returning calls- even Dr. Cohen himself. They are really kind and considerate- compassionate would be a good word. What day is your appt? I have mine for August 9th at 1:00. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 1999 Report Share Posted July 27, 1999 Chrissy, I guess I'm a little confused as to why you think that message about the rumors was specifically directed at you. Until today I didn't even know you since you just subscribed to the list (evidently to respond to that specific message) and my message was only about two specific things - neither of which seem to have anything to do with your experience. Yes I do consider Janice a personal friend, but I don't see why that's relevant. All she asked me to do was clear up the rumors because she didn't want people who had already been seen, worrying about whether their tests would be completed. Unless you were the person who started that rumor (which I doubt since it's not relevant to your experience) the two subjects (your experience and my post about the rumors) seem completely unrelated. You are certainly free to express your opinion, but you seem to be taking my message about the rumors as being directed at you, and that is certainly not the case. Since you brought up your experience, I was just sharing mine as well and giving my perspective (not Janice's) on the situtation. If somebody had said something negative about UCSD that might deter others from seeking treatment there, I would also share the fact that I had heard about many good experiences there so they might be able to get a broader picture and wouldn't base there decision on the experience of only one person. Respectfully, Terri >You stated that you and Janice are personal friends. I imagine that my >disappointment in a clinic I had only heard good things about, afterall why >would I have been trying so hard to have my son seen if I felt >differeently, >may not be as clear to you as someone who is a little more impartial and >not >personally involved . I have never had any " gripe " with Janice although I >can >tell you that not returning phone calls and misleading potential clients is >not a favorable trait in my book. If she feels that anything I have told >you >is untrue then I will be more than happy to supply my phone number, my >husband's work number as he tried to get a date out of her also, as well as >our son's case manager who felt that the " unprofessional " manner in which >she >was treated was totally uncalled for as well as hurtful to my son's health. > Golden > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 27, 1999 Report Share Posted July 27, 1999 , I am so glad that you have had a similar experience with Dr Cohen's office. We live in Florida and will fly into Cleveland on August 10th. sees Dr Cohen on the 11th and has the fresh biopsy scheduled for the 12th. Maybe we will get to meet Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Terri, It seems to me that there is some kind of communication problem going on within the Mito Community. When I posted comments about my experience in Atlanta I was simply doing just-----posting MY experience not anyone elses. We were referred to the clinic by our Neurologist and when he saw my son for a follow-up appt and I reported that since 's last appt we were not able to even set an appt for Atlanta he suggested we go else where. This is just was what we did. I feel that had the clinic been more up front about scheduling there would have never been any problem, but they weren't and my son has suffered. Maybe we should all try to remember that he is what is important here and not who said what and who had what experience. As for responding to the post about rumors in Atlanta I did feel that was being directed towards those of us who have negative comments about the Atlanta clinic. I am totally aware of their reputation and the importance of Dr Shoffner's work. We desperately wanted to see him and get his advice on my son's medical care but unfortuntately we do not have all the time in the world to wait for the clinic to work out the kinks and then give us an appt. Who knows how many patients might have been ahead of if we were waiting 4 months just to MAKE an appt. I was under the assumption that this list was for us to help each other in the fight against Mito disease and this is why I subscribed , contrary to your comments. If a list subscriber can not freely express their feelings or experiences then the list is not serving it's subscribers as it should. Afterall, all this nonsense is a waste of cyberspace and my son's care is the most important thing to me not who said what or to whom. I hope that this can be put to rest once in for all. I have been reading all the posts with great interest and I hope to learn all I can from Your experiences- even if I may not agree with all I read I will remember that we all are different and are allowed our own opinions and comments. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , I personally don't see what the big deal is here. posted an opinion and some other people posted theirs as well. I didn't see any childish games (other than the suggestions that this type of discussion is inappropriate or everything is directed at them personally). I have not seen anybody jump all over you or at ANY time on this list. I have seen people, with different opinions, show respect for the original poster and their experience, and then tell about their experience. If all of those other experiences had been identical to the original would it still be " jumping all over " them??? If I was new to this list and saw 's post about Shoffner, or your previous post about Cohen, and then nobody else said anything - that would be the only information I would have on which to base my decision. It's just a discussion. Nobody has attacked anybody. Aren't we being just a little bit paranoid here???? And now because Carl and I spent last Thanksgiving with and her family we are a good ol girls club? That's just stupid. Yes , let's DO grow up. Nevermind, I'm going back to lurking. Terri > >Reply-To: Mitoonelist >To: <Mitoonelist> >Subject: Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >Date: Wed, 28 Jul 1999 08:07:12 -0700 > > > >Everyone on this list, >This is really ridiculous. We are supposed to be grown people here on this >list looking for help and support for very sick family members. Yet this is >about the 3rd time I have seen this same scenario played out. >Let's all be honest about it. There are some childish games being played >here by adults. This is the way the game is played: >1. someone posts something negative about some experience with a well known >and usually liked and respected medical person or place. >2. A number of people on the list jump in to tell how perfectly wonderful >that person or place is-PURPOSELY implying that the previous person doesn't >have a leg to stand on as suddenly a whole group of people can testify how >wrong they are to see it so negatively. And in other words, it must be >their >own fault if THEY had a negative experience as the REST of us did just >fine. >3. If the original stater of negative opinion feels strong enough to stick >up for themselves, they respond back with the question of why are you all >picking on me for stating my opinion? >4. Then you all throw back in that person's face that she must be just >being >paranoid as none of your comments were directed to them-my goodness, >whereever did you get THAT impression? (It's pretty obvious however-a >complete outside fool could see the chain of events) That is supposed to >make the person feel small enough to finish them off and they will crawl >away in silence making you the winner! > >What the heck is this all about? This was also done to me. A number of you >on this list have actually been able to meet each other personally, talk on >the phone, or email privately back and forth and you have formed a good ole >girls club. >Now what this has to do with the supposed real purposes of this group, who >knows. But I, for one, am sick of it. And I think it should be stopped. >No, I am not going to quit the group as it serves a purpose I need and so >do >many others. And only a handful of you play this game but it is enough to >make life miserable for others. I would sincerily appreciate it if this >particular game would be dropped. DON'T bother to write back how paranoid I >am or how innocent those of you are who have played this game. You know >what >I am talking about. >Yes, Chrissy had a legitimate point and it was good she had this group to >express her feelings of frustration and dissapointment. Yes, the " oh, you >are so wrong, Shoffner's office and he and Janice are wonderful " , comments >WERE directed specifically at her to negate her negative experience. She, >you, and I know that. So get off her back, welcome her to the group, and >let's grow up here. No matter how nicely you word that sort of garbage you >do to others it is still childish garbage. S. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Again, new people join this list every day and have not necessarily seen the past discussions. I very rarely post on the list, but if you choose to think I was playing some game when I gave you information about OHSU, CDRC, the -Lemli-Opitz expert at OHSU or peripheral neuropathy - either privately or on the list, then don't worry, I won't correspond with you any further. Problem solved. Terri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , <non-sarcastic part of message> I know that you were expressly forbidden to talk about the Atlanta subject on the MON list, but I don't think that means you should feel free to abuse the open policy of this list by being rude and insulting to those members who choose to give their time and knowledge in support of other list members. <sarcastic part of message> I am so glad that you are perfect and able to sit in judgement of the rest of us. Terri >From: ChrissyGE@... >Reply-To: Mitoonelist >To: Mitoonelist >Subject: Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >Date: Wed, 28 Jul 1999 13:47:35 EDT > >From: ChrissyGE@... > >Terri, > >I am new to the list and I can tell you that with all the lists I subscribe >to and the groups I help support you ladies must haev too much time on your >hands to care so much about my little opinion. I am involved in many >activities that are attempting to raise money to help fight the Mito >diseases >that this list represents, maybe you should get out from behind your >computer >and do something positive instead of hurling insults you try to cover with >sarcasm. Again this is just MY OPNION for what is is worth. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , <non-sarcastic part of message> I know that you were expressly forbidden to talk about the Atlanta subject on the MON list, but I don't think that means you should feel free to abuse the open policy of this list by being rude and insulting to those members who choose to give their time and knowledge in support of other list members. <sarcastic part of message> I am so glad that you are perfect and able to sit in judgement of the rest of us. Terri >From: ChrissyGE@... >Reply-To: Mitoonelist >To: Mitoonelist >Subject: Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >Date: Wed, 28 Jul 1999 13:47:35 EDT > >From: ChrissyGE@... > >Terri, > >I am new to the list and I can tell you that with all the lists I subscribe >to and the groups I help support you ladies must haev too much time on your >hands to care so much about my little opinion. I am involved in many >activities that are attempting to raise money to help fight the Mito >diseases >that this list represents, maybe you should get out from behind your >computer >and do something positive instead of hurling insults you try to cover with >sarcasm. Again this is just MY OPNION for what is is worth. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , Thank You. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Terri, I am new to the list and I can tell you that with all the lists I subscribe to and the groups I help support you ladies must haev too much time on your hands to care so much about my little opinion. I am involved in many activities that are attempting to raise money to help fight the Mito diseases that this list represents, maybe you should get out from behind your computer and do something positive instead of hurling insults you try to cover with sarcasm. Again this is just MY OPNION for what is is worth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Everyone on this list, This is really ridiculous. We are supposed to be grown people here on this list looking for help and support for very sick family members. Yet this is about the 3rd time I have seen this same scenario played out. Let's all be honest about it. There are some childish games being played here by adults. This is the way the game is played: 1. someone posts something negative about some experience with a well known and usually liked and respected medical person or place. 2. A number of people on the list jump in to tell how perfectly wonderful that person or place is-PURPOSELY implying that the previous person doesn't have a leg to stand on as suddenly a whole group of people can testify how wrong they are to see it so negatively. And in other words, it must be their own fault if THEY had a negative experience as the REST of us did just fine. 3. If the original stater of negative opinion feels strong enough to stick up for themselves, they respond back with the question of why are you all picking on me for stating my opinion? 4. Then you all throw back in that person's face that she must be just being paranoid as none of your comments were directed to them-my goodness, whereever did you get THAT impression? (It's pretty obvious however-a complete outside fool could see the chain of events) That is supposed to make the person feel small enough to finish them off and they will crawl away in silence making you the winner! What the heck is this all about? This was also done to me. A number of you on this list have actually been able to meet each other personally, talk on the phone, or email privately back and forth and you have formed a good ole girls club. Now what this has to do with the supposed real purposes of this group, who knows. But I, for one, am sick of it. And I think it should be stopped. No, I am not going to quit the group as it serves a purpose I need and so do many others. And only a handful of you play this game but it is enough to make life miserable for others. I would sincerily appreciate it if this particular game would be dropped. DON'T bother to write back how paranoid I am or how innocent those of you are who have played this game. You know what I am talking about. Yes, Chrissy had a legitimate point and it was good she had this group to express her feelings of frustration and dissapointment. Yes, the " oh, you are so wrong, Shoffner's office and he and Janice are wonderful " , comments WERE directed specifically at her to negate her negative experience. She, you, and I know that. So get off her back, welcome her to the group, and let's grow up here. No matter how nicely you word that sort of garbage you do to others it is still childish garbage. S. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? > > >Chrissy, > >I guess I'm a little confused as to why you think that message about the >rumors was specifically directed at you. Until today I didn't even know you >since you just subscribed to the list (evidently to respond to that specific >message) and my message was only about two specific things - neither of >which seem to have anything to do with your experience. > >Yes I do consider Janice a personal friend, but I don't see why that's >relevant. All she asked me to do was clear up the rumors because she didn't >want people who had already been seen, worrying about whether their tests >would be completed. Unless you were the person who started that rumor >(which I doubt since it's not relevant to your experience) the two subjects >(your experience and my post about the rumors) seem completely unrelated. > >You are certainly free to express your opinion, but you seem to be taking my >message about the rumors as being directed at you, and that is certainly not >the case. Since you brought up your experience, I was just sharing mine as >well and giving my perspective (not Janice's) on the situtation. If >somebody had said something negative about UCSD that might deter others from >seeking treatment there, I would also share the fact that I had heard about >many good experiences there so they might be able to get a broader picture >and wouldn't base there decision on the experience of only one person. > >Respectfully, > >Terri > > > >>You stated that you and Janice are personal friends. I imagine that my >>disappointment in a clinic I had only heard good things about, afterall why >>would I have been trying so hard to have my son seen if I felt >>differeently, >>may not be as clear to you as someone who is a little more impartial and >>not >>personally involved . I have never had any " gripe " with Janice although I >>can >>tell you that not returning phone calls and misleading potential clients is >>not a favorable trait in my book. If she feels that anything I have told >>you >>is untrue then I will be more than happy to supply my phone number, my >>husband's work number as he tried to get a date out of her also, as well as >>our son's case manager who felt that the " unprofessional " manner in which >>she >>was treated was totally uncalled for as well as hurtful to my son's health. > >> Golden >> > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Everyone on this list, This is really ridiculous. We are supposed to be grown people here on this list looking for help and support for very sick family members. Yet this is about the 3rd time I have seen this same scenario played out. Let's all be honest about it. There are some childish games being played here by adults. This is the way the game is played: 1. someone posts something negative about some experience with a well known and usually liked and respected medical person or place. 2. A number of people on the list jump in to tell how perfectly wonderful that person or place is-PURPOSELY implying that the previous person doesn't have a leg to stand on as suddenly a whole group of people can testify how wrong they are to see it so negatively. And in other words, it must be their own fault if THEY had a negative experience as the REST of us did just fine. 3. If the original stater of negative opinion feels strong enough to stick up for themselves, they respond back with the question of why are you all picking on me for stating my opinion? 4. Then you all throw back in that person's face that she must be just being paranoid as none of your comments were directed to them-my goodness, whereever did you get THAT impression? (It's pretty obvious however-a complete outside fool could see the chain of events) That is supposed to make the person feel small enough to finish them off and they will crawl away in silence making you the winner! What the heck is this all about? This was also done to me. A number of you on this list have actually been able to meet each other personally, talk on the phone, or email privately back and forth and you have formed a good ole girls club. Now what this has to do with the supposed real purposes of this group, who knows. But I, for one, am sick of it. And I think it should be stopped. No, I am not going to quit the group as it serves a purpose I need and so do many others. And only a handful of you play this game but it is enough to make life miserable for others. I would sincerily appreciate it if this particular game would be dropped. DON'T bother to write back how paranoid I am or how innocent those of you are who have played this game. You know what I am talking about. Yes, Chrissy had a legitimate point and it was good she had this group to express her feelings of frustration and dissapointment. Yes, the " oh, you are so wrong, Shoffner's office and he and Janice are wonderful " , comments WERE directed specifically at her to negate her negative experience. She, you, and I know that. So get off her back, welcome her to the group, and let's grow up here. No matter how nicely you word that sort of garbage you do to others it is still childish garbage. S. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? > > >Chrissy, > >I guess I'm a little confused as to why you think that message about the >rumors was specifically directed at you. Until today I didn't even know you >since you just subscribed to the list (evidently to respond to that specific >message) and my message was only about two specific things - neither of >which seem to have anything to do with your experience. > >Yes I do consider Janice a personal friend, but I don't see why that's >relevant. All she asked me to do was clear up the rumors because she didn't >want people who had already been seen, worrying about whether their tests >would be completed. Unless you were the person who started that rumor >(which I doubt since it's not relevant to your experience) the two subjects >(your experience and my post about the rumors) seem completely unrelated. > >You are certainly free to express your opinion, but you seem to be taking my >message about the rumors as being directed at you, and that is certainly not >the case. Since you brought up your experience, I was just sharing mine as >well and giving my perspective (not Janice's) on the situtation. If >somebody had said something negative about UCSD that might deter others from >seeking treatment there, I would also share the fact that I had heard about >many good experiences there so they might be able to get a broader picture >and wouldn't base there decision on the experience of only one person. > >Respectfully, > >Terri > > > >>You stated that you and Janice are personal friends. I imagine that my >>disappointment in a clinic I had only heard good things about, afterall why >>would I have been trying so hard to have my son seen if I felt >>differeently, >>may not be as clear to you as someone who is a little more impartial and >>not >>personally involved . I have never had any " gripe " with Janice although I >>can >>tell you that not returning phone calls and misleading potential clients is >>not a favorable trait in my book. If she feels that anything I have told >>you >>is untrue then I will be more than happy to supply my phone number, my >>husband's work number as he tried to get a date out of her also, as well as >>our son's case manager who felt that the " unprofessional " manner in which >>she >>was treated was totally uncalled for as well as hurtful to my son's health. > >> Golden >> > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , I am obviously the " newbie " here so I can not speak about what has gone in the past. I do agree with you 100% about the childlike reactions many of us have recieved when we posted our experiences or comments. I have also been sent personal emails ( from people whom I will not name because I will not play tattle tale) asking me to " take the comments to private email " . This I do not understand afterall they were the ones stating just yesterday " that this is an open forum and we are all allowed equal say " --somehow I am not sure that is absolutely true. I will do my best to use this list appropriately by sharing experiences, comments and information as I feel will benefit the entire list. If anyone feels offended by my frankness or differing opinion I am requesting they email me privately so it can be discussed between the appropriate parties and not up for comment by friends, associates or supporters of the " offended " person. I value your opinion and appreciate your willingness to speak your mind, I admire that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 , I am obviously the " newbie " here so I can not speak about what has gone in the past. I do agree with you 100% about the childlike reactions many of us have recieved when we posted our experiences or comments. I have also been sent personal emails ( from people whom I will not name because I will not play tattle tale) asking me to " take the comments to private email " . This I do not understand afterall they were the ones stating just yesterday " that this is an open forum and we are all allowed equal say " --somehow I am not sure that is absolutely true. I will do my best to use this list appropriately by sharing experiences, comments and information as I feel will benefit the entire list. If anyone feels offended by my frankness or differing opinion I am requesting they email me privately so it can be discussed between the appropriate parties and not up for comment by friends, associates or supporters of the " offended " person. I value your opinion and appreciate your willingness to speak your mind, I admire that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Terri, Do you see what I mean about being accussed of parnoia because one speaks up about the childish games some of you play? I would think I was paranoid like I initially did when this sort of thing happened to me some time back, but enough other people spoke up in my behalf both on and off list and said this same thing had happened to them and because of it, many of them do not even post anymore. Therefore they have been cut off from not only a good resource for help and support but we as a group have and are continually losing their support and contributions. This is so sad just so a few of you can play these childish games and I do repeat that there are a group of you doing this. I will not back off from this viewpoint no matter how visciously you or others attack me. The bottom line of this group is to support others and share contributions that may help us and our families. This sort of behavior HAS to stop. It is not simply a matter of everyone respecting the " dissenter " and offering their own experiences. That is not true and many on this list know that. Don't you think that anyone reading this list will have read or be reading other posts besides the negative one so that they can make their own decisions? Do you think a group of you have to come to the defense of these mito specialists everytime anyone has anything negative to say about them? We are not children and we are not stupid, we can look and read and listen to all points of view and come to a logical solution on our own.Obviously, we have already read all the positive things about them or we would not have tried to get to them as Chrissy said! So why would we need you to reiterate how Godlike they are and how wonderfully you were treated? Is it a part of your club, as in " we made it in and you didn't, but that is your own fault so don't talk bad about MY Dr. " ??? You say you don't see what the big deal is here. I will tell you then. The big deal is that people are getting their feelings hurt and being made to feel like jerks or idiots or outcasts just so you all can play your little club game and feel special. Stop it and stop trying to play it with me now. I don't fall for that sort of rubbish. Put yourself in someone elses shoes for a moment and think how you would feel if this happened to you. It is not childish for me to lay the subject of what's happening out in the open to be scrutinized and hopefully corrected so that this list can serve its' true intended purpose. It is childish of you to come back on and do the very behavior I just laid out as childish and inappropriate. Scoggins Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >>Date: Wed, 28 Jul 1999 08:07:12 -0700 >> >> >> >>Everyone on this list, >>This is really ridiculous. We are supposed to be grown people here on this >>list looking for help and support for very sick family members. Yet this is >>about the 3rd time I have seen this same scenario played out. >>Let's all be honest about it. There are some childish games being played >>here by adults. This is the way the game is played: >>1. someone posts something negative about some experience with a well known >>and usually liked and respected medical person or place. >>2. A number of people on the list jump in to tell how perfectly wonderful >>that person or place is-PURPOSELY implying that the previous person doesn't >>have a leg to stand on as suddenly a whole group of people can testify how >>wrong they are to see it so negatively. And in other words, it must be >>their >>own fault if THEY had a negative experience as the REST of us did just >>fine. >>3. If the original stater of negative opinion feels strong enough to stick >>up for themselves, they respond back with the question of why are you all >>picking on me for stating my opinion? >>4. Then you all throw back in that person's face that she must be just >>being >>paranoid as none of your comments were directed to them-my goodness, >>whereever did you get THAT impression? (It's pretty obvious however-a >>complete outside fool could see the chain of events) That is supposed to >>make the person feel small enough to finish them off and they will crawl >>away in silence making you the winner! >> >>What the heck is this all about? This was also done to me. A number of you >>on this list have actually been able to meet each other personally, talk on >>the phone, or email privately back and forth and you have formed a good ole >>girls club. >>Now what this has to do with the supposed real purposes of this group, who >>knows. But I, for one, am sick of it. And I think it should be stopped. >>No, I am not going to quit the group as it serves a purpose I need and so >>do >>many others. And only a handful of you play this game but it is enough to >>make life miserable for others. I would sincerily appreciate it if this >>particular game would be dropped. DON'T bother to write back how paranoid I >>am or how innocent those of you are who have played this game. You know >>what >>I am talking about. >>Yes, Chrissy had a legitimate point and it was good she had this group to >>express her feelings of frustration and dissapointment. Yes, the " oh, you >>are so wrong, Shoffner's office and he and Janice are wonderful " , comments >>WERE directed specifically at her to negate her negative experience. She, >>you, and I know that. So get off her back, welcome her to the group, and >>let's grow up here. No matter how nicely you word that sort of garbage you >>do to others it is still childish garbage. S. > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 - The people that you have aimed this post at are on the list to help others, by expressing their experiences. Those who know one another have many other options for keeping in touch, but feel an obligation to help those just starting down the long road called mito. Part of that experience includes the doctors they see as well as the experiences they have had. I think it would be a shame to have these knowledgeable people unsubscribe or keep their mouths shut. They are here to answer the questions of others out of the goodness of their hearts which takes a lot of time. If they wanted to visit, then they can do it privately or in any number of different ways. I know that you have been frustrated in your journey as have many of the rest of us. We all need to be careful to not take our frustrations out on others. Laurie What the heck is this all about? This was also done to me. A number of you > on this list have actually been able to meet each other personally, talk on > the phone, or email privately back and forth and you have formed a good ole > girls club. > Now what this has to do with the supposed real purposes of this group, who > knows. But I, for one, am sick of it. And I think it should be stopped. > No, I am not going to quit the group as it serves a purpose I need and so do > many others. And only a handful of you play this game but it is enough to > make life miserable for others. I would sincerily appreciate it if this > particular game would be dropped. DON'T bother to write back how paranoid I > am or how innocent those of you are who have played this game. You know what > I am talking about. > Yes, Chrissy had a legitimate point and it was good she had this group to > express her feelings of frustration and dissapointment. Yes, the " oh, you > are so wrong, Shoffner's office and he and Janice are wonderful " , comments > WERE directed specifically at her to negate her negative experience. She, > you, and I know that. So get off her back, welcome her to the group, and > let's grow up here. No matter how nicely you word that sort of garbage you > do to others it is still childish garbage. S. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 You are more than welcome . I don't know how this will end, but I am not done fighting this out. I've had it. Do you realize there are hundreds of people on this list, most of who never write and many for this reason alone? We are missing too much help and support here. Your posts have been very well written and make many good points. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >From: ChrissyGE@... > >, > >Thank You. > > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Well, my my, isn't this grown-up of you? This is exactly the type of support I was looking for on this list Terri.(Said with sarcasm) You have to know how much I appreciated every bit of support I got from you and from anyone else on this list. That, however, gives no one the right to belittle anyone else. Because you choose to try and blackmail me now with such a childish comment (now that you have hurt my feelings I will no longer supply you with much needed information. Remember all I have done for you and this is how you repay me? Well, see if I ever help YOU again) I will not back down on my original feelings about how some people in this group have behaved towards others. If you choose to hurt rather than help me now on this list then God knows what is what and who does what. I don't need to worry that He will let me down because a mere human makes a poor decision. Again, thank you for all your past help. And I'm sorry some people on the list can't deal with this in a more adult manner. S. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? > > > > >Again, new people join this list every day and have not necessarily seen the >past discussions. > >I very rarely post on the list, but if you choose to think I was playing >some game when I gave you information about OHSU, CDRC, the >-Lemli-Opitz expert at OHSU or peripheral neuropathy - either privately >or on the list, then don't worry, I won't correspond with you any further. >Problem solved. > >Terri > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 28, 1999 Report Share Posted July 28, 1999 Well, my my, isn't this grown-up of you? This is exactly the type of support I was looking for on this list Terri.(Said with sarcasm) You have to know how much I appreciated every bit of support I got from you and from anyone else on this list. That, however, gives no one the right to belittle anyone else. Because you choose to try and blackmail me now with such a childish comment (now that you have hurt my feelings I will no longer supply you with much needed information. Remember all I have done for you and this is how you repay me? Well, see if I ever help YOU again) I will not back down on my original feelings about how some people in this group have behaved towards others. If you choose to hurt rather than help me now on this list then God knows what is what and who does what. I don't need to worry that He will let me down because a mere human makes a poor decision. Again, thank you for all your past help. And I'm sorry some people on the list can't deal with this in a more adult manner. S. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? > > > > >Again, new people join this list every day and have not necessarily seen the >past discussions. > >I very rarely post on the list, but if you choose to think I was playing >some game when I gave you information about OHSU, CDRC, the >-Lemli-Opitz expert at OHSU or peripheral neuropathy - either privately >or on the list, then don't worry, I won't correspond with you any further. >Problem solved. > >Terri > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 1999 Report Share Posted July 29, 1999 I need to speak up here.....why do you need to continue to fight this out? This is ridiculous and getting very annoying. Kris " " on 07/28/99 03:41:12 PM Please respond to Mitoonelist To: Mitoonelist cc: (bcc: e Biagiotti/Teloquent) Subject: Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? You are more than welcome . I don't know how this will end, but I am not done fighting this out. I've had it. Do you realize there are hundreds of people on this list, most of who never write and many for this reason alone? We are missing too much help and support here. Your posts have been very well written and make many good points. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >From: ChrissyGE@... > >, > >Thank You. > > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 29, 1999 Report Share Posted July 29, 1999 I need to speak up here.....why do you need to continue to fight this out? This is ridiculous and getting very annoying. Kris " " on 07/28/99 03:41:12 PM Please respond to Mitoonelist To: Mitoonelist cc: (bcc: e Biagiotti/Teloquent) Subject: Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? You are more than welcome . I don't know how this will end, but I am not done fighting this out. I've had it. Do you realize there are hundreds of people on this list, most of who never write and many for this reason alone? We are missing too much help and support here. Your posts have been very well written and make many good points. Re: FW: atlanta's troubles fact or fiction? >From: ChrissyGE@... > >, > >Thank You. > > > >--------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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