Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 theresa, replied to your post before i read this. seek professional help is my only other suggestion. so sorry i took a harder stance than may be deserved. but all of it is just my thoughts and none of it is from experience anyway. just thinking what i might do in the situation. --- Theresa wrote: > i didnt mention my son was molested at 3 yars of > age. and he also has some > mental slowness and doesnt make good decisions. im > so worried about him. > > > > tlvc@... > ilovedavid22000@... > > 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 Theresa- Have you heard of the group "Tough Love"? My parents went to those meetings because of my younger brother and it seemed to help them a lot. A Google search will help you find the info. Sorry I can't say anything else. I don't have kids so I'm in no position to give advice. ~*Kerrie*~ Re: cont theresa, replied to your post before i read this. seek professional help is my only other suggestion. so sorry i took a harder stance than may be deserved. but all of it is just my thoughts and none of it isfrom experience anyway. just thinking what i might doin the situation.--- Theresa wrote:> i didnt mention my son was molested at 3 yars of> age. and he also has some> mental slowness and doesnt make good decisions. im> so worried about him. > > > > tlvc@...> ilovedavid22000@...> > No virus found in this outgoing message. Checked by AVG Anti-Virus. Version: 7.0.308 / Virus Database: 266.10.3 - Release Date: 4-25-2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 another group is parents anonymous...they deal a lot with abuse and neglect but the group i worked with had parents who were just having a rough time parenting and not at all in danger of abusing their kids. i know it sounds odd i'd say they can help but you'd be surprised at what they can do. we also had parents whose kids were in the juvenile justice system already and the leader had been known to say that some of the issues could have been prevented if parents had support during rough times. just another idea. the national website is www.parentsanonymous.org 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 another group is parents anonymous...they deal a lot with abuse and neglect but the group i worked with had parents who were just having a rough time parenting and not at all in danger of abusing their kids. i know it sounds odd i'd say they can help but you'd be surprised at what they can do. we also had parents whose kids were in the juvenile justice system already and the leader had been known to say that some of the issues could have been prevented if parents had support during rough times. just another idea. the national website is www.parentsanonymous.org 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 another group is parents anonymous...they deal a lot with abuse and neglect but the group i worked with had parents who were just having a rough time parenting and not at all in danger of abusing their kids. i know it sounds odd i'd say they can help but you'd be surprised at what they can do. we also had parents whose kids were in the juvenile justice system already and the leader had been known to say that some of the issues could have been prevented if parents had support during rough times. just another idea. the national website is www.parentsanonymous.org 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 glad you are speaking again. 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 i ended up leaving the group because one person had asked me to help lead and another was saying no to everything the first person wanted me to do. each group is different but here they had multiple meetings each week. one group was parents who were there for DSS/probation reasons. another was a faith based parenting group that met at the same time the anger management/drug/alcohol addicitions group met. then there was the group for kids in the DJJ system and their parents. then one night they had a group for parents who were incarecerated at the county jail. i think i was blessed to have a really awesome leader who knew her stuff. but then again, we were the odd family in our group becasue we were married, not abusive, not arguing, and we communicated. i honestly dread the teen years right now because i know how bastian is now and while i do all i can to teach him certain things, i remember being a teen. he thinks he's the boss now...which we allow at times. mostly he minds very well. and when he is playing the boss, he knows we're letting him do it. sad part is when we do, he chooses things we'd prefer anyway. he also knows that he's only allowed to be the boss if we are home and that in public he must act the way he has been taught. not that i know what the consequences would be if he misbehaved in public other than removing him from the situation. 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old son JRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984) FMS dx'ed in 2001 OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness! Contact me: Yahoo Messenger: wport77 AIM: Wayneypooh286 MSN Messenger: troubleinmb ICQ: 22579907 My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com __________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 thanks for your reply. he will be 18 in february. i just feel so guilty. i was trying to talk to him and he was not listening and just bitching and i got mad and yelled. i said he is 17 and if he wants to live in my house he would have to go by the rules. or else he had to leave. i wish i never said that. i was so frustrated. after we calmed down we had a talk and i told him i was sorry. and i loved him more than anything and i wanted him to make good choices. so we are speaking again. tlvc@... ilovedavid22000@... -- Re: cont theresa, replied to your post before i read this. seek professional help is my only other suggestion. so sorry i took a harder stance than may be deserved. but all of it is just my thoughts and none of it isfrom experience anyway. just thinking what i might doin the situation.--- Theresa wrote:> i didnt mention my son was molested at 3 yars of> age. and he also has some> mental slowness and doesnt make good decisions. im> so worried about him. > > > > tlvc@...> ilovedavid22000@...> > 28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old sonJRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984)FMS dx'ed in 2001OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness!Contact me:Yahoo Messenger: wport77AIM: Wayneypooh286MSN Messenger: troubleinmbICQ: 22579907My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2005 Report Share Posted April 27, 2005 hey, thanks!! im definately going to check out that website. when my youngest was still in my tummy,i took refresher classes for taking care of a baby.i already had 2 kids, but i was having a hard time. i was newly divorced and living in the slums and was a mess. so i took classes to help me cope. but i think that we need classes on how to parent TEENS. they are the hardest to parent. not knowing when to let go or lay down the law. tlvc@... ilovedavid22000@... -- Re: cont another group is parents anonymous...they deal a lotwith abuse and neglect but the group i worked with hadparents who were just having a rough time parentingand not at all in danger of abusing their kids. iknow it sounds odd i'd say they can help but you'd besurprised at what they can do. we also had parentswhose kids were in the juvenile justice system alreadyand the leader had been known to say that some of theissues could have been prevented if parents hadsupport during rough times. just another idea. thenational website is www.parentsanonymous.org28 yrs old, married, 3 yr old sonJRA dx'ed at age 7 (1984)FMS dx'ed in 2001OA, Osteoporosis, Scoliosis, occasional depression from chronic illness, etc. All the fun stuff that goes with chronic illness!Contact me:Yahoo Messenger: wport77AIM: Wayneypooh286MSN Messenger: troubleinmbICQ: 22579907My Website: http://wayneyscorner.0catch.com__________________________________________________ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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