Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I've thought about this a lot since posting and hearing your comments. I truly feel that the restaurant meal is a whole experience for me - one of release, celebration, and relaxation. At home, during the week, I am eating with the family but not as relaxed due to kids' evening demands of homework, bed time, etc. I also recognize now that I overeat to comfort myself - I am not necesarily depressed or angry or avoiding anything, I just find something warm and fuzzy in eating, and the experience somehow allows me to relax. What do you make of this? Is it terrible to seek comfort in food as I have been? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as alternatives > > to > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, and > > it > > > > was > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that I > > found > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > frustrated > > > > > with > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went to > > the > > > > > store, > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic ability > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random things. It > > was > > > > so > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > binging. > > > > It > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > moment) > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I've thought about this a lot since posting and hearing your comments. I truly feel that the restaurant meal is a whole experience for me - one of release, celebration, and relaxation. At home, during the week, I am eating with the family but not as relaxed due to kids' evening demands of homework, bed time, etc. I also recognize now that I overeat to comfort myself - I am not necesarily depressed or angry or avoiding anything, I just find something warm and fuzzy in eating, and the experience somehow allows me to relax. What do you make of this? Is it terrible to seek comfort in food as I have been? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as alternatives > > to > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, and > > it > > > > was > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that I > > found > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > frustrated > > > > > with > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went to > > the > > > > > store, > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic ability > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random things. It > > was > > > > so > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > binging. > > > > It > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > moment) > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well, it sounds like the comfort is short-lived b/c you feel like you've overeaten. Am I following you right? So, maybe you should look for some other way to comfort yourself. Like, sometime during the week go somewhere or do something by yourself that makes you feel warm and fuzzy. I like to get a massage occassionally, but obviously that gets expensive. Maybe you could go to a bookstore and just sit and look through books. Or go to a movie all by yourself (I've always wanted to do that, but never had the courage). Basically, what I'm saying is try to take time out to do something warm and fuzzy for yourself besides waiting til the restaurant night. Just a suggestion. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > alternatives > > > to > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > and > > > it > > > > > was > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > I > > > found > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > frustrated > > > > > > with > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > to > > > the > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > ability > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > things. It > > > was > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > binging. > > > > > It > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > moment) > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well, it sounds like the comfort is short-lived b/c you feel like you've overeaten. Am I following you right? So, maybe you should look for some other way to comfort yourself. Like, sometime during the week go somewhere or do something by yourself that makes you feel warm and fuzzy. I like to get a massage occassionally, but obviously that gets expensive. Maybe you could go to a bookstore and just sit and look through books. Or go to a movie all by yourself (I've always wanted to do that, but never had the courage). Basically, what I'm saying is try to take time out to do something warm and fuzzy for yourself besides waiting til the restaurant night. Just a suggestion. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > alternatives > > > to > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > and > > > it > > > > > was > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > I > > > found > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > frustrated > > > > > > with > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > to > > > the > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > ability > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > things. It > > > was > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > binging. > > > > > It > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > moment) > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 Well, it sounds like the comfort is short-lived b/c you feel like you've overeaten. Am I following you right? So, maybe you should look for some other way to comfort yourself. Like, sometime during the week go somewhere or do something by yourself that makes you feel warm and fuzzy. I like to get a massage occassionally, but obviously that gets expensive. Maybe you could go to a bookstore and just sit and look through books. Or go to a movie all by yourself (I've always wanted to do that, but never had the courage). Basically, what I'm saying is try to take time out to do something warm and fuzzy for yourself besides waiting til the restaurant night. Just a suggestion. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > alternatives > > > to > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > and > > > it > > > > > was > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > I > > > found > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > frustrated > > > > > > with > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > to > > > the > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > ability > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > things. It > > > was > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > binging. > > > > > It > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > moment) > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I was told by my dietician that on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being ravenous & 10 being stuffed, that you should strive to eat at a 3 & stop at a 5. > > I agree of being too hungry. I read IE and then read Thin Within... TW taught eating > intuitively, but said that you should only eat when you were hungry (which is normal)... but > " hungry " being on a scale from 1-10 (1 being starving; 10 being stuffed and sick), being a > ZERO or ONE!!! I found that I was trying to follow it and was bingeing more than EVER... > that's why I'm back. I'm trying to recover from trying to change my mindset and now I'm > trying to change it back... GOSH, who would have thought that eating would be SO MUCH > MORE than just fork to mouth motions... You know!??! Its so hard! I just hate that I've made > it that way... > > Nat > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I was told by my dietician that on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being ravenous & 10 being stuffed, that you should strive to eat at a 3 & stop at a 5. > > I agree of being too hungry. I read IE and then read Thin Within... TW taught eating > intuitively, but said that you should only eat when you were hungry (which is normal)... but > " hungry " being on a scale from 1-10 (1 being starving; 10 being stuffed and sick), being a > ZERO or ONE!!! I found that I was trying to follow it and was bingeing more than EVER... > that's why I'm back. I'm trying to recover from trying to change my mindset and now I'm > trying to change it back... GOSH, who would have thought that eating would be SO MUCH > MORE than just fork to mouth motions... You know!??! Its so hard! I just hate that I've made > it that way... > > Nat > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I was told by my dietician that on a scale of 1-10 with 1 being ravenous & 10 being stuffed, that you should strive to eat at a 3 & stop at a 5. > > I agree of being too hungry. I read IE and then read Thin Within... TW taught eating > intuitively, but said that you should only eat when you were hungry (which is normal)... but > " hungry " being on a scale from 1-10 (1 being starving; 10 being stuffed and sick), being a > ZERO or ONE!!! I found that I was trying to follow it and was bingeing more than EVER... > that's why I'm back. I'm trying to recover from trying to change my mindset and now I'm > trying to change it back... GOSH, who would have thought that eating would be SO MUCH > MORE than just fork to mouth motions... You know!??! Its so hard! I just hate that I've made > it that way... > > Nat > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I don't think it is terrible at all; however, a healthier way to live would to find a variety of mechanisms to give you comfort. The IE book, that I read, basically said that it's ok to sometimes get comfort from food. What causes us to be unhealthy or overweight is when we turn to food for comfort most of the time. If you want to get comfort from food less, maybe you can brainstorm with the family a way to make evenings more relaxing for everyone. Can the children or your husband take on more responsibilities? Is there something about your daily meals that could be changed to make them more relaxing? Knowing that someone else has to clean up the message sure makes me enjoy the food better. :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > alternatives > > > to > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > and > > > it > > > > > was > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > I > > > found > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > frustrated > > > > > > with > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > to > > > the > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > ability > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > things. It > > > was > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > binging. > > > > > It > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > moment) > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I don't think it is terrible at all; however, a healthier way to live would to find a variety of mechanisms to give you comfort. The IE book, that I read, basically said that it's ok to sometimes get comfort from food. What causes us to be unhealthy or overweight is when we turn to food for comfort most of the time. If you want to get comfort from food less, maybe you can brainstorm with the family a way to make evenings more relaxing for everyone. Can the children or your husband take on more responsibilities? Is there something about your daily meals that could be changed to make them more relaxing? Knowing that someone else has to clean up the message sure makes me enjoy the food better. :-) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > alternatives > > > to > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > and > > > it > > > > > was > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > I > > > found > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > frustrated > > > > > > with > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > to > > > the > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > ability > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > things. It > > > was > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > binging. > > > > > It > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > moment) > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 I think having a small dessert or treat at the end of the meal would make it a comfortable experience, but in being TRU to my body signals, I find that I don't actually crave or feel hungry for such a thing. Strange, huh? I also worry that if I had this sweet treat every night after dinner, I would...yeah, you guessed it...gain weight. So what do you think? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > > alternatives > > > > to > > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > > and > > > > it > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > > I > > > > found > > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > > frustrated > > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > > to > > > > the > > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > > ability > > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > > things. It > > > > was > > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > > binging. > > > > > > It > > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > > moment) > > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 9, 2007 Report Share Posted February 9, 2007 Marguerite-- Most nights after dinner I have a Hershey's Treasure--the kind with caramel in them. I usually take 3-4 small bites and savor it. I find that when I have this small piece of chocolate, more often than not, I don't eat again afterward. When I lost 20 lbs eating intuitively, I had chocolate every single day. I also ate french fries and burgers and cookies, I did not restrict my food choices at all--I still don't. I did not gain weight when I first started. I could not believe how much less I could eat and be satisfied. For me the struggle wasn't in legalizing food, I have no problem with that at all. I also do not have a problem with waiting until I am hungry to eat. When I slip up it is because I keep eating even after I am satisfied. I am about 10 lbs from where I'd like to be. Cheryl Re: Alternatives to binging I think having a small dessert or treat at the end of the meal would make it a comfortable experience, but in being TRU to my body signals, I find that I don't actually crave or feel hungry for such a thing. Strange, huh? I also worry that if I had this sweet treat every night after dinner, I would...yeah, you guessed it...gain weight.So what do you think?> > > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > > alternatives > > > > to > > > > > > > > emotional> > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not?> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of binging, > > and > > > > it > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > very> > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment that > > I > > > > found > > > > > > > > would lead> > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > > frustrated > > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > myself> > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I went > > to > > > > the > > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > > and> > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > > ability > > > > > > > > whatsoever. I> > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > > things. It > > > > was > > > > > > so> > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle of > > > > binging. > > > > > > It > > > > > > > > feels> > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at any > > > > moment) > > > > > > > > activity to> > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated.> > > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > >> > > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > >> > > >> > >> >> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2007 Report Share Posted February 10, 2007 Thank you for the amazing and encouraging testimony. I'm still new to this process and VERY anxious about gaining weight. So far, I have maintained my weight and am also finding that I eat a a lot less than before. Nevertheless, I am still very fearful of having a sweet/dessert type of treat after my meals. Your feedback helps a lot. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > > > alternatives > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > emotional > > > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not? > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of > binging, > > > and > > > > > it > > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > > very > > > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment > that > > > I > > > > > found > > > > > > > > > would lead > > > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > > > frustrated > > > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > > myself > > > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I > went > > > to > > > > > the > > > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > > > and > > > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > > > ability > > > > > > > > > whatsoever. I > > > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > > > things. It > > > > > was > > > > > > > so > > > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle > of > > > > > binging. > > > > > > > It > > > > > > > > > feels > > > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at > any > > > > > moment) > > > > > > > > > activity to > > > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated. > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2007 Report Share Posted February 10, 2007 Cheryl-congrats-and good for you for listening to your body-I myself am still trying not to overeat the sweets!Marguerite wrote: Thank you for the amazing and encouraging testimony. I'm still new to this process and VERY anxious about gaining weight. So far, I have maintained my weight and am also finding that I eat a a lot less than before. Nevertheless, I am still very fearful of having a sweet/dessert type of treat after my meals. Your feedback helps a lot.> > > > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > > > > > What kind of activities have you tried as > > > alternatives > > > > > to > > > > > > > > > emotional> > > > > > > > > > > > eating? What worked for you and what did not?> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Recently, I found myself in a pattern of > binging, > > > and > > > > > it > > > > > > > was > > > > > > > > > very> > > > > > > > > > > > depressing. Every bored or frustrated moment > that > > > I > > > > > found > > > > > > > > > would lead> > > > > > > > > > > > to a binge. The more that I binged, the more > > > > > frustrated > > > > > > > > with > > > > > > > > > myself> > > > > > > > > > > > and isolated I became. Finally, on a whim, I > went > > > to > > > > > the > > > > > > > > store, > > > > > > > > > and> > > > > > > > > > > > bought some art supplies. I have no artistic > > > ability > > > > > > > > > whatsoever. I> > > > > > > > > > > > came home and started to just create random > > > things. It > > > > > was > > > > > > > so> > > > > > > > > > > > satisfying that I was able to break the cycle > of > > > > > binging. > > > > > > > It > > > > > > > > > feels> > > > > > > > > > > > good to know that I have any easy (pick up at > any > > > > > moment) > > > > > > > > > activity to> > > > > > > > > > > > do whenever I feel bored and frustrated.> > > > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > > >> > > > > > > >> > > > > > >> > > > > >> > > > >> > > >> > >> >> Food fight? Enjoy some healthy debatein the Yahoo! Answers Food Drink Q&A. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2007 Report Share Posted February 12, 2007 There is a group called Project Linus that takes homemade blankets, afgans and gives them to hospitalized children that normally wouldn't receive anything like that. You might want to think about looking into donating your knitting efforts. The website is www.projectlinus.org > Knitting is a great hobby and pretty > easy to master (the basic anyway!). Sometimes I just buy a couple of > balls of yarn at Walmart and just start to knit. Not with a specific > goal in mind (like a sweater or a scarf) as that's too time consuming > for me right now (bogged down with teaching and grad school) but just > knitting. The action with my hands helps calm me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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