RE: RE: Robyn

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Thanks for the info. Small goals are a good idea. I don't know why I didn't think about that before! So yesterday I tried it-Today my goal is to only eat when hungry. Not hard, at least not until after dinner. For some reason, I have a tremendously strong desire to have some kind of dessert w/in an hour or two after dinner. I'm not usually hungry and if I wait until I am, then it's bedtime and I don't like to eat something right before bed. Not a diet mentality, I just don't like to eat that close to going to bed. So the easy solution to this is to eat less at dinner so I'll be hungry for my snack later. The only problem w/ that is....I need to save that goal for a later date b/c that is where my problem lies. I don't have a real problem w/ eating only when hungry. It takes a bit of effort, but not NEAR as much effort as stopping when politely

full. So...while I work on my small goal of eating only when hungry over the next week, how do I combat this "need" for something sweet around 8 or 9 o'clock? Should I bother to combat it at this point, or wait until I address the stopping when full goal? Who knew this was so hard? Last time when I followed EI it just seemed to be so effortless and easy for me. It really was. Now, it takes sooooo much focus for me. Or maybe better said, it takes sooooo much obedience for me. Years ago my body, mind, and heart all seemed to be on the same page and were "all in" when I decided to EI. Now they all seem to disagree and want their own things! Again...any thoughts or help is welcomed! Thanks! Robyn"Jenn S." wrote: --- Robyn wrote:> I just need some help here. And I'll be perfectly honest...right now, I want to EI mainly b/c I want to lose about 35+ lbs. I DON'T want to diet b/c I KNOW that doesn't work. EI is the only thing that's helped me before. I just can't seem to overcome my own mind/desires.>>Any thoughts or help...please send it my way!!! Thanks.*** Oh, believe me, Robyn, losing weight is my first priority, too! I can't help it. That's been my *obsession*, so-to-speak, for the last 8 years. And, IE is the only thing that's ever

TRULY worked for me, too.I agree that it's tough to overcome our old "diet mentalities". I'm still struggling with mine. I ate intuitively for 6 whole months after I first found out about IE, and I released 25 of the 30 lbs I'd wanted to get off! I got to just 5 lbs away from my goal! And then I sabotaged myself. I loosened the reigns, so-to-speak, and I went back to my old habits.... slowly at first, but then it just snowballed out of control! And now, sad to say, I'm basically right back where I started. :-(BUT, I also know that IE works, and dieting doesn't. I am bet-and-determined to get back on the IE wagon, and keep trying. As I wrote in a separate email today, you don't have to get it perfect... just be consistent at making the effort to EI. You'll get the hang of things, eventually.Try setting very TINY goals -- for example, you could say that JUST FOR TODAY you're going to eat only when you're truly at a "0" (when you're stomach's

truly empty). Don't worry about anything else for today, just that. Then the next day you can choose a new goal! That way you're making an effort, but you've not got this HUGE obligation hanging over your head!That's what I'm doing, though I'm doing it weekly. This week I've determined to fixate on eating only when hungry. Nothing else. If I eat 'til I'm stuffed, that's fine, so long as I started eating when I was empty. If I eat chocolate for every meal, and don't exercise one iota, that's fine, too. As long as I'm eating ONLY when I'm truly hungry. Next week, if I succeeded at this week's goals, I'll move on to something else. But, if I don't succeed this week, I'll keep trying with this "eating at 0" goal until I get it. Hope that helps....Jenn<><Books Read: http://mizbooksreads.blogspot.comFaith Group: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/unshakablefocusHealthy Eating: http://intuitive-eating.blogspot.comWishlist: http://www.librarything.com/catalog/mizbooks94

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This is just a thought….could it be

that your body actually needs something sweet in the evenings? Perhaps you

could try to not get too full at dinner and leave room for a slim piece of pie

or a fun size candy bar for later in the evening, or maybe add those to the end

of your dinner.

Vicki

From: IntuitiveEating_Support [mailto:IntuitiveEating_Support ] On Behalf Of Robyn Wells

Sent: Friday, October 27, 2006

8:02 AM

To: IntuitiveEating_Support

Subject: Re:

RE: Robyn

Thanks for the info. Small goals are a good idea. I don't

know why I didn't think about that before!

So yesterday I tried it-Today my goal is to only eat when hungry.

Not hard, at least not until after dinner. For some reason, I have a

tremendously strong desire to have some kind of dessert w/in an hour or two

after dinner. I'm not usually hungry and if I wait until I am, then it's

bedtime and I don't like to eat something right before bed. Not a diet mentality,

I just don't like to eat that close to going to bed.

So the easy solution to this is to eat less at dinner so I'll be hungry

for my snack later. The only problem w/ that is....I need to save that

goal for a later date b/c that is where my problem lies. I don't have a

real problem w/ eating only when hungry. It takes a bit of effort, but

not NEAR as much effort as stopping when politely full.

So...while I work on my small goal of eating only when hungry over the

next week, how do I combat this " need " for something sweet around 8

or 9 o'clock? Should I bother to combat it at this point, or wait until I

address the stopping when full goal?

Who knew this was so hard? Last time when I followed EI it just

seemed to be so effortless and easy for me. It really was. Now, it

takes sooooo much focus for me. Or maybe better said, it takes sooooo

much obedience for me. Years ago my body, mind, and heart all seemed to

be on the same page and were " all in " when I decided to EI. Now

they all seem to disagree and want their own things!

Again...any thoughts or help is welcomed! Thanks!

Robyn,_._,___