Talked to Dr. Melmed/more confused what to do!

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Just when I think I have it all figured it out...I need your help!

so I had a phone consult w/ Dr. Melmed to go over what the ps I was

going to go to for explant is suggesting. I LOVE Dr. Melmed, he is

darling, but he was really just telling me how he does the explant and

how I could come there etc. I mean, I contacted him just for his take

on this and was going to pay for a phone consultation. I was just

surprised it was about me going there, as that really wasn't an

option, so he didn't refer to the organized questions I sent him. I

LOVED talking to him and what he said, don't get me wrong, I just had

to hurry and get a few questions in there regarding how I was going to

get it done HERE.

A couple of things I would love you Melmedians' opinions on

please!

1) He said the breasts WILL sag after the implants are removed. SO

confused! i thought that was not the case all the time and the skin

healed back. And he does a lift right then and there to everyone? My

ps was saying she doesn't do a lift til she sees if you even need one

after you heal. and she doubts I would!

If I don't get a lift is it for sure I will sag? Has anyone here NOT

gotten a lift and been ok? I was an A.

2) I love his technique of not using stiches, but some of your own

blood to make the tissue stick. I've heard of this, and it sounds

very cool.

3) I wasn't totally clear about the capsulectomy thing with him: I

said 'so do you recommend getting all of the scar tissue out' and he

said 'we want to clean you out so your breast is virginal again " but

he didn't use words like capsulectomy or capsulotomy.

3) Yes, if I had the money I WOULD go to him in a heartbeat, but the

reality is this: I have a ps here who says she'll do it how I want

it. No, I don't adore her, and I wouldn't follow her advice about not

wearing a bra, for example, but she does have some good things to

recommend her.

4) Let's just pretend that if I now I consider FLYING to Texas, I

figure I then might as well explore DRIVNG to OHIO to dr. Feng - (I'm

in Chicago) But that office never got back to me on the two msgs I

left, so I let it go.

I know people say you 'can't put a price on health' etc, but if she is

a good surgeon, does it matter that she doesn't agree with me? I am

not looking for idealism here, but reality - I do not have job

security right now, and I may be without one around the holidays, so I

have MUCH to consider. We are talking about thousands of dollars

difference, and traveling, which deeply stresses me out. This not $$ I

even HAVE. If I had it in savings, I would spend it.

The only other thing is, I left word two weeks ago with my ps that I

DIDN'T want deflation prior to explant and just confirmed a " Retalk "

appointment would still be that same day. I never heard back, and

they never put my $300 deposit thru to hold the OR date. It may be

just a fluke...but that was 2 wks ago. I didn't call to see WHY they

didn't take my money yet, because I knew I would be talking to Dr.

Melmed. It occured to me she didn't like that I refused deflation,

but that seems preposterous.

oh geez, I can't even remember the last time I had this kind of stress

eating away at me.

Sorry, I babble, but this is my first step in 'meditating on it'.

I guess I just wanted to talk to him, pay him for his time, but not be

sold on doing it there. sigh.