Re: HELP!!!!!!!

[Guest guest]

TY Lianne...but this is soo darn frustrating. I so badly just for one week I

want everyone in this world to experience what we have to go through. They

would not say the things they say and they would not do the things they do. I

hurt so bad emotionally and through my body. I don't know where to begin or to

end. It is so hopeless. My sister told me to stop feeling sorry for

myself...what can I do..I don't understand...I don't ever ever speak to any of

my family about any of my problems...and so when my fiance did what he

did...being so abusive towards me the other day for the first time I reached out

and said something..and that to my family was feeling sorry for myself...all I

do is keep it to myself..and it is killing me..I think that is what they want me

to do..they don't want to know what it is like to be in my place because if they

did they would want to kill themselves. If only they knew even a quarter of

what is in my head right now? There is absolutely nothing nothing for me. I am

grateful I have this support group..thank god for it!!!!!!! Don't know what I

would do..I usually don't write to you guys..I just like to read your stories.

But now...I'm in such a hole and I need help so bad!!!!!

[Guest guest]

Jana Sweetie, Believe in yourself. You will get through this . No

matter how hopeless it seems right now things will improve with

time. Unfortunately you can't pick your family. But you can pick

your friends and we are here for you.

As for that fiance...well sounds like you need to kick his butt to

the curb. Get yourself some counseling, to help deal with all the

crap you are going through right now. Even if it has to be a free

clinic somewhere.

P.S. I said the same thing about everyone should have Fibro for one

week, just today. I am sure if that were the case we would no longer

have to take the crap we take.

Hugs and Hang in, Janet

[Guest guest]

Dear Jana,

It floors me to read that your partners behavior was attributed to your illness, saying you just need to stop your meds, etc, Didn't anyone have the guts to say his behavior is abusive! I don't care what the situation is no one deserves to have dishes thrown at them and cussed at! My God some people!

I'm so sorry about your situation. Maybe the only way out is a shelter. You can't go on and on like this without it affecting your health. It already is doing that. Please remove yourself from this situation before it gets worse.

Kathleen in NC

[Guest guest]

Exactly.

I understand the bed thing. So move out all you can or all you want or just the "important" items one day and say good bye.

Then if you feel it needed, get a lawyer and fight him later for 1/2 the equity but since he is on the deed and not you... your probably screwed on that.

By the time I got divorced, I just wanted out. I didn't care about anything except my children and I ended up losing them too....but I would still leave again if I had it to do over again. THINGS can be replaced. Yes it sucks, yes it is hard.....but yes they are replaceable.

With our health.....I'd take the bed too. He would probably destroy it knowing that you wanted it most, so take that and your pictures (photos) and get out.

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