Guest guest Posted November 2, 2004 Report Share Posted November 2, 2004 My dear sweet Alenna {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ ALENNA }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} mega mucho hugs to you hun. I wish I could come up with some words that would help but I'm running blanks on everything right about now. I may have been pushing myself a little more today than I should... but I just wanted to keep on top of all this e-mail and stay caught up. I hope you're getting as much rest as you can and feeling better real quick hun. I'm off to bed.. knees in flare right now... hugs hugs and more hugs hun. love, Norah Norah Bleazard - Burlington, Ontario Canada www.bleazard.net ~ www.janorlites.com E-MAIL= norah.fibroyahoo@... CHAT= MSN = black_dak_98@... Yahoo = drazaelbn AIM = black98dak ICQ = 105346330 Site Moderator for: fibromyalgia_support_group Site Owner for: Fibromites_Fighting_Weight: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Fibromites_Fighting_Weight http://fibromites.ath.cx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Alenna, Sounds like hubby has some issues from his past. I wonder if he feels frustrated. Maybe he feels that these things wouldn't happen if he was around more... Maybe he learned this behavior from someone he grew up with (father, mother)? This isn't behavior that we're born with.... it's what we develop from experience. Maybe he was yelled at every time he did something wrong or was hurt. It sure sounds like learned behavior to me. Parents sometimes have no clue how their behaviors effect our lives and our future. On the topic of nitpicking about bills but being wasteful of electricity and heat.... Maybe you can type up a bill to your hubby for his extra usage of utilities for non-essential reasons. My warped sense of humor would do just that. I'd hand him a bill every time he did it and tell him... this comes out of your savings for that special something.... but that's not really the healthy way to take care of it... I'm just warped. Sounds like you two need to sit down and discuss all the issues between you two and how they affect you. Just a thought. healing hugs, Norah Norah Bleazard - Burlington, Ontario Canada www.bleazard.net ~ www.janorlites.com E-MAIL= norah.fibroyahoo@... CHAT= MSN = black_dak_98@... Yahoo = drazaelbn AIM = black98dak ICQ = 105346330 Site Moderator for: fibromyalgia_support_group Site Owner for: Fibromites_Fighting_Weight: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Fibromites_Fighting_Weight http://fibromites.ath.cx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Alenna, Sounds like hubby has some issues from his past. I wonder if he feels frustrated. Maybe he feels that these things wouldn't happen if he was around more... Maybe he learned this behavior from someone he grew up with (father, mother)? This isn't behavior that we're born with.... it's what we develop from experience. Maybe he was yelled at every time he did something wrong or was hurt. It sure sounds like learned behavior to me. Parents sometimes have no clue how their behaviors effect our lives and our future. On the topic of nitpicking about bills but being wasteful of electricity and heat.... Maybe you can type up a bill to your hubby for his extra usage of utilities for non-essential reasons. My warped sense of humor would do just that. I'd hand him a bill every time he did it and tell him... this comes out of your savings for that special something.... but that's not really the healthy way to take care of it... I'm just warped. Sounds like you two need to sit down and discuss all the issues between you two and how they affect you. Just a thought. healing hugs, Norah Norah Bleazard - Burlington, Ontario Canada www.bleazard.net ~ www.janorlites.com E-MAIL= norah.fibroyahoo@... CHAT= MSN = black_dak_98@... Yahoo = drazaelbn AIM = black98dak ICQ = 105346330 Site Moderator for: fibromyalgia_support_group Site Owner for: Fibromites_Fighting_Weight: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Fibromites_Fighting_Weight http://fibromites.ath.cx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 10, 2004 Report Share Posted November 10, 2004 Alenna, How much Vitamin E do you take to keep your fibrocystic breast disease in check? Does it make the cysts go away or just not be painful? hugs, Sundra -- Kristy I know the fibrocystic breasts isn't disabling or really even much of a problem for me since I started the Vitamin E but I just listed everything. It means more mammos for me, with a high risk of breast cancer due to family history. I was getting painful lumps but since Vit. E, I haven't had any. Just have to have a mammo every year, and have since I was 30. I didn't know that PCOS was still an issue after my hysterectomy until I talked to you upon first joining the list. Until then, I was under the impression that it was JUST an issue with my ovaries and once they were gone that was it. So I was under the same fallacy. Because doctors don't tell you, and when I looked it up the information was limited. Either too extensive or not extensive enough kwim? I still haven't gotten to an endocrinologists but I did get a referral to a really good one in my area. So I plan on doing that eventually. I need to talk to him about the PCOS and my thyroid. Lately, I have noticed that my thyroid level is normal when I am taking the meds but it is also normal if I am not taking my meds before the blood draw. So I am really confused as to whether I still need to be on thyroid replacement or if it needs to be changed to a different kind. Any Ideas?? Thanks..... Alenna -------------------------------------------------- ____________________________________________________ IncrediMail - Email has finally evolved - Click Here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 15, 2004 Report Share Posted November 15, 2004 The very last thing I want to do is sound mean in any way, BUT.. there is only one way that your girls will learn to take responsibility for themselves and for your needs, and that is for you to make clear to them what is needed. Perhaps a little heart to heart where you explain to them how bad you feel. Have they ever had flu? You could explain that you feel that bad all the time.. surely they will believe you? Then a tour of the fridge and an explanation of what they are allowed to use and how to tidy up! My sons are grown up now and away from home, but every Christmas they are both here and do most of Christmas lunch for me.. any time they drop in they make me a cup of tea, and when they were at home they did what they could for me. Of course we are here for you to vent to, and always will be, but just this once do a little gentle vent to your daughters:) Hugs, Penny UK On 15/11/2004 08:15:59, fibromyalgia_support_group wrote:> Thanks Sophia.> > I> don't want to put too much on them, but they are old enough to learn to be more considerate.> > Hubby does help alot and he also thinks the girls need to start thinking of more than just themselves now. They are both mature enough and old enough in years to do simple things like make their own lunch, know how to reason logically that everyone else is asleep so they should chill for a while and such. Most of the time, he thinks I do way too much for them already, because I get up and make them breakfast then go back to bed. As long as they let me go back to bed, I think those memories of mom making a hot breakfast for them are good. But for goodness sakes, if I lay down to take a nap at noon, they could make their own sandwich for lunch. :-) There I go venting again...LOL> > Alenna> --------------------------------------------------> > Site Moderator for: fibromyalgia_support_group > > Site Moderator and Co/Owner for: ncm_wisdom > > Emails: alenna@... and alennam@... / Aim id: brucenorton2000> > "When one door of happiness closes, another opens; but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us."> > Helen Kel Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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