Guest guest Posted January 1, 2008 Report Posted January 1, 2008 Happy New Year everyone! I had a very wierd experience this morning. I awoke with one very lucid thought in my mind. My husband will occasionally say things like " The house is a mess " (which is usually true) or " We should take the kids to get their hair cut soon. " Both non-accusatory statements, right? Except every time he'd say something like that, I'd immediately feel awful. And for whatever reason, I woke up this morning and realized that growing up with someone who was always projecting on me, I had grown used to these types of statements being jabs at me, off-handed statements about things that I should be doing. In other words, if nada said " The house is a mess " , it meant, " You better clean the house or else. " " We should take the kids to get their hair cut soon, " would be interpreted as " YOU need to take better care of the kids. " I realized this morning that I have been internally processing these types of statements as personal attacks, and although I certainly bear some responsibility for the upkeep of my house and children, I need to better consider the intent behind these statements. Anyone else with similar experiences? Quote
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