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I don't have orgasm by intercourse either. It has to be oral or other clitoris stimulation. I had not actually had an orgasm with a man until my current hubby, and I was married for 10 years to my first hubby. (faked it the entire time) With my husband now, I have orgasm via "other stimulation" and only fake it during intercourse to get him to hurry up and climax....kwim? I know that sounds bad but we have plenty of foreplay where I orgasm and then he just won't stop with the intercourse unless he thinks I have climaxed again. (rather a pain...literally. I've tried to explain that I can't take the marathon anymore but he won't listen.)

I also feel quite ...um... embarrassed or guilty... when I do orgasm. I want everything to stop immediately after. I'm sure it has to do with my history of several childhood molestations and a rape.

I did actually have a therapist that told me, as a teen, that I would not enjoy sex until I felt true love and I, as a teen, shrugged him off. He was right. I did not "enjoy" sex until I felt love.

Now, that I feel love... but sex or lack of, has become such an issue I once again view sex as a way to make someone else happy, something I have to do whether I want to or not, something that will cost me my happiness if I don't participate. I feel dirty and used, because I don't want to have sex but feel that I have to for my mate.

Alenna --------------------------------------------------

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Jen,

It's you WOMEN I so ENVY!!!!!!! I always make love to my Hubby even initiate it to try to keep him happy! HOWEVER sex has NEVER done anything for me. I had NEVER had a climax until AFTER my children were born and I was rubbing my legs with a vibrator one day and it got close and I had this weird feeling. Ended up checking out this feeling since it was a nice sensation. When I reached Orgasm it SCARED ME TO DEATH I thought I was dying!!!!!! I mean that literally! After I discovered I was going to live I decided that felt pretty good LMAO! Later I married my second husband and he was very good at oral sex something I had never experienced before and I learned to love it. My 3rd. Hubby had a golden hand! But other than these alternate means to reaching orgasm I have never enjoyed sex. The actual act of penetration does absolutely NOTHING AT ALL for me. :-( My Husband now is very inexperienced so unless it's the few times we use the vibrator at the same time as making love (Which is the ULTIMATE FOR ME) I am just a blow up doll that fakes it real well. I so envy you women that get natural enjoyment out of sex. I have to work for what I do get and most of the time it is just to exhausting to even be worth it. Even with the alternate means it is still very hard for me to reach climax. Do any other women have this problem???????? I have always wondered about this and never felt comfy talking about it! But decided since the conversation was open might as well jump in with both feet LOL!

Love & God Bless! Rev./Wolf~(MOM)~(SIS)~Owner, Moderator or Member