Guest guest Posted June 4, 2008 Report Share Posted June 4, 2008 i think you can probably train yourself through logic puzzles and word games to constantly be on your mental toes. i probably would have said something like, " Wow, mom. You don't see that there's a difference between 90% and 60%? Does...dyslexia run in the family? " my sister, however, would say, " MOM, WHY WOULD YOU SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT!? What do you have to gain by trying to diminish my daughter's success? " i have to say, though, that there is a constant danger of shooting my mouth off. even i can't predict what i'm going to say... i think basically, you're proud of your kid and your mom is probably jealous of that feeling since her painted white kid did not live up to some expectations she had of him. she can't compete with you, so she's going to try to tear you down. SHE'S A JERK! bink > > I think there must be this horrible huge looming black cloud in the > mind of all bpd/npd types that just blocks out the sun. It's like > the happy part of themselves is dead and they feel they have to ward > off the happiness of anyone else so they won't remember that place > inside themselves that has been murdered. > > I am very happy for your daughter and for you, that is fantastic. My > brother's daughter is reading on a 4th grade level already and he is > trying to get her away from his bpd wife before she ruins this child > like she did her other two. It is heartening to know your daughter's > potential will be fostered instead of stifled. It seems to me that > what your mom said was a double whammy, not only hurting you for > your daughter but your own inner child as well that was proud and > happy. > > Sometimes I wonder, and maybe someone can answer this, is it worth > it to try and figure out how to respond in moments like what you've > described? Like, are there some magic words that can rectify the > situation and make it 'okay' again, and put the bpd 'in their > place'? Or is that moment just ruined. It seems so unfair to allow > them to ruin everything but at the same time devoting mental energy > to figuring out the perfect reply seems kind of unfair to ourselves > too. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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