repost on abuse-sorry if it posted twice- may delete if it did

[Guest guest]

Many of us here have dealt with either verbal, emotional or physical

abuse. Some men feel " big " to kick a woman around, especially when

she is sick or dependent upon him financially. My husband goes in

spurts with this behavior, and I never can predict when it will

occur. Thankfully, my prepayment penalty on my mortgage disappears in

Feb. 2005. I am hoping I have enough equity in my house then to tell

RW " Sayonara " . I will probably have to purchase something very small

at first or either find a mobile home on some land, but that is okay.

I really want my boys to have some space to have a go cart and some

dogs. As my AH will owe me at least $1600/mo in child support and

have to pay the kid's health insurance, it will be affordable to

leave. My only dilemma is I will have to sell my house by owner,

which is a pain in the a**, otherwise I am looking at taking money to

close, since the realtor commission will be over $10K.

I am praying I can figure out a way financially to leave this a**hole

once and for all. He is unpredictable, and I don't love him anymore.

I am just having to figure out a way to do all this financially,

since the house is in MY name, not his.

I pray for all of you who are in abusive relationships, and pray you

can figure out a way to leave. It is NOT worth it. My self-esteem is

ZERO, not to mention the guilt I bear from being sick all the time.

Love and prayers to all,

Kim W.

[Guest guest]

Kim W.

I truely hope all work's out well for you..

If I had my SSDI or even SSI for that matter I would be long gone..

my hubby can be nice when he want's to be and a total A-hole most of

the time..

I am in a situation where at the moment I can not go any where..

one day again. I will be able to be on my own till then I will muddle

through like I always have..

I wish you all the best..

Gentle Caing Hug's

Marie

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dear kim W.

i surely sympathize with you and your situation. do you have an abuse shelter close by. they have wonderful counselors who will give you the advice you need on how to make your transisiton, perhaps even showing you how to get the house, lock stock, and barrel. it might help as well, if you talk to a counselor and have it on record for when you do file, to show that you sought help for abuse. my heart goes out to you. stay strong!!!

love and hugs,

lindy lou

Many of us here have dealt with either verbal, emotional or physical abuse. Some men feel "big" to kick a woman around, especially when she is sick or dependent upon him financially. My husband goes in spurts with this behavior, and I never can predict when it will occur. Thankfully, my prepayment penalty on my mortgage disappears in Feb. 2005. I am hoping I have enough equity in my house then to tell RW "Sayonara". I will probably have to purchase something very small at first or either find a mobile home on some land, but that is okay. I really want my boys to have some space to have a go cart and some dogs. As my AH will owe me at least $1600/mo in child support and have to pay the kid's health insurance, it will be affordable to leave. My only dilemma is I will have to sell my house by owner, which is a pain in the a**, otherwise I am looking at taking money to close, since the realtor commission will be over $10K.I am praying I can figure out a way financially to leave this a**hole once and for all. He is unpredictable, and I don't love him anymore. I am just having to figure out a way to do all this financially, since the house is in MY name, not his.I pray for all of you who are in abusive relationships, and pray you can figure out a way to leave. It is NOT worth it. My self-esteem is ZERO, not to mention the guilt I bear from being sick all the time.Love and prayers to all,Kim W.

[Guest guest]

i understand, totally!!!!!

love and hugs,

lindy lou

" . . . my hubby can be nice when he want's to be and a total A-hole most of the time.."