mother's day again

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Happy Mother's Day to all the mothers out there.

Now that MD is here again I have that sinking feeling in my stomach.

Each year I have the same anxiety about it. I think to

myself: " Should I send a card and get berated for it because she

doesn't like the card I chose (which has happened at least four

times)? Should I not send a card and deal with what a lousy daughter

I am for not sending a card? Should I call tomorrow and deal with

the tension on the phone and the forced pleasantries? Should I not

call and let her add another reason to hate me? No matter what I

can't win so I try to just put it out of my mind. It's a little

easier now that I have my own kids and a great MIL who we will end up

spending dinner with.

Although I called and asked my mother if she'd like to have lunch or

dinner with us, she told me she did not want to. So I tell myself I

tried and put a card in the mail. The card is a 'Happy Mother's Day

Grandma " card that my girls picked out and we all signed. I felt it

was the most appropriate since I dont' feel like I have a mother

anyway. She's a better grandmother than she ever was a mother so I

guess that's the best way for me to deal with it.

Anyone else out there deal with these issues?

Avesey69