Dear Fran.....

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on Mon, 28 Jan 2002 at 20:33:31, fross2001 wrote:

>I just thought I should tell you all that I am going through a major

>change in my life.

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>I know this is a bit off topic and I'm not looking for sympathy. I

>just feel so alone with the AF senario and the situation I am in.

Fran,

I am not sure this *is* off topic!

I don't know about you, or anyone else, but I am quite sure part of my

own AF is that my heart is telling me that the life situation I found

myself in (which is not family, but work) is not good for me. I

actually saw a hypnotherapist at one point to see if he could help with

the psychological aspect of my AF (he had helped our daughter). I only

mention this because at one point he said he felt sure that if I totally

changed my work life my heart problems would go away. I am not sure

about this - maybe so, but I certainly know that if I have a very

traumatic or emotional or depressive time because of something I feel

passionately about in life, it will often convert me shortly afterwards,

when the therapeutic effect of the emotional release works through.

(btw, he did help me cope with the *having* of the AF, though not so

much with the AF itself)

Anyway, whatever, I hope that since you've made a big decision it will

actually help your heart, Fran. It can't harm it, really ! The stress

of making the move will not last, and the release of not having the

daily stress will help sooner than you realise.

Keep strong, but also have a good blub if you want to !!

However, as well as hopefully gaining inner strength from this decision,

I also know it is important to look after your own safety at a very

practical level, both physically, mentally and medically, so make sure

your doctor knows, as well as others as suggested by Rich.

Best of luck,

Vicky