Guest guest Posted February 22, 2004 Report Share Posted February 22, 2004 I too would take those genes over LBD or Cancer. But God doesnt give us a choice. We just have to live with the things He places in our lives. M > >Reply-To: LBDcaregivers >To: LBDcaregivers >Subject: Re: Coyote >Date: Thu, 19 Feb 2004 00:17:00 -0000 >MIME-Version: 1.0 >X-Originating-IP: 152.163.253.2 >X-Sender: BBagam@... >Received: from n29.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.85]) by mc4-f5.hotmail.com >with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Wed, 18 Feb 2004 16:22:35 -0800 >Received: from [66.218.66.95] by n29.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 19 Feb >2004 00:17:50 -0000 >Received: (qmail 1305 invoked from network); 19 Feb 2004 00:17:45 -0000 >Received: from unknown (66.218.66.218) by m7.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >19 Feb 2004 00:17:45 -0000 >Received: from unknown (HELO n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com) (66.218.66.99) by >mta3.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 19 Feb 2004 00:17:40 -0000 >Received: from [66.218.67.160] by n31.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 19 Feb >2004 00:17:01 -0000 >X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jH/nLry6dmYIRNpnSkUrrFZ >X-eGroups-Return: >sentto-2141318-25270-1077149868-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >Message-ID: <c10v9s+52qeeGroups> >In-Reply-To: <c0vot8+k4aneGroups> >User-Agent: eGroups-EW/0.82 >X-Mailer: Yahoo Groups Message Poster >X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 66.218.66.99 >X-Yahoo-Profile: abbybb1 >Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >LBDcaregivers-owner >Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >Precedence: bulk >List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >Return-Path: >sentto-2141318-25270-1077149868-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-OriginalArrivalTime: 19 Feb 2004 00:22:37.0281 (UTC) >FILETIME=[7A306510:01C3F67E] > > > > Sometimes I really envy the people whose LOs go quickly and > > suddenly...like my aunt who had a massive heart attack in her sleep > > and never even woke up...even though I know that would be > > traumatizing, we wouldnt have to " mourn " for 5-7 years or > > whatever... BEFORE they die! I tell ya, if I have a choice of > > inheriting my Mother's " heart attack " genes over my father's LBD > > genes...I'll take the heart attack!! > >Same here...If only we had a choice, > >Abby > _________________________________________________________________ Stay informed on Election 2004 and the race to Super Tuesday. http://special.msn.com/msn/election2004.armx Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 19, 2004 Report Share Posted March 19, 2004 Dear Abby: I ams sorry your dad had a bad day after many good days. It is good he understood that he could tell you about his pains, even if he still shields you a little. Hoping for more better days as you had before and your dad not be stressed with pains, etc. hugs and love, Josie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 21, 2004 Report Share Posted March 21, 2004 Courage, I'm so glad your Mom has her dolls to " tend " to. It gives her something to live for because she loves them so. Endear is doing great. She is now VERY mobile on her 3 legs. We play a silly version of " red light, green light " in the back yard and she just LOVES it. Tomorrow she is going for her 3rd chemo...thats the 1/2 way mark. Took her to see Dad today in the NH and he was very happy to see her. As a matter of fact, ALL the residents and staff loved her. Cool NH...we can bring Endear every time we go if we want. Coyote > >> >> Wow! Your dad gave your mom a real kiss at long last, huh? > >Once > >> >she > >> >> got over the shock, that must have made your mom feel awesome! > >> >> > >> >> I don't think I responded to your comment from your last post to > >> >me > >> >> re: you feeling so much more at ease now that your dad is in a > >> >safe > >> >> place. I know what you mean. The night we left my dad in the > >> >home - > >> >> the very first night - my sister and my mom left crying but I > >was > >> >sad > >> >> to leave him there but I knew it would be the best place for him > >> >> because we just couldn't give him the type of care he needed. > >As > >> >it > >> >> turns out, my dad ended up getting a lot sicker much more > >rapidly > >> >> than any of us expected but right from the start the idea that > >my > >> >dad > >> >> is being tended to by people who are qualified to give him the > >> >best > >> >> possible care has lifted quite a weight off my shoulders. > >> >> > >> >> I'm OK with March 31st even if this isn't the route I would have > >> >> chosen. To top it off, although my dad is confused, he's having > >> >very > >> >> good days this week. I tend to attribute it to the fact that > >I'm > >> >> there all the time again and I can tell he likes spending time > >> >with > >> >> my kids and I. I don't know what it will be like once March > >Break > >> >is > >> >> over. Yesterday, he told me it was hard for him to feel sad > >when > >> >we > >> >> were there and it nearly broke my heart because I do need to go > >> >back > >> >> to work. But I've joined the " try living for the moment " club > >as > >> >> part of my positive thinking and I can't let what may happen > >> >tomorrow > >> >> cloud my enjoyment of the day. > >> >> > >> >> Glad to know all is well with your dad and that you are > >continuing > >> >to > >> >> celebrate joyous as opposed to really sad " firsts " with your > >> >father. > >> >> I hope you have many other phenomenal times with him. > >> >> > >> >> Abby > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > >> > > >> > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 31, 2004 Report Share Posted March 31, 2004 Coyote- When I went through my dad's things, in his apartment, I through out all that needed discarding, and cleaned up everything else. I had a sale, in his apartment, of all his things and applied the earnings toward a pre-burial fund. My brother had advertised the sale, I manned the apartment. After the sale, my brother and I went to the funeral home of our choice, picked out everything we wanted to have for our dad (was one of the toughest things I have ever done, yet so very useful) and applied the money. Then, I had a minimal payment every month that I used to finish paying off the burial fund. At the time of the funeral, I was grateful. We were locked in at the pre-trial costs, and only had to finalize it all. Ended up we had some cash left over so we used it to have a luncheon - then there was still a little cash left and my brother insisted on me taking it to go on a vacation, from all that I did for caring for our dad. I ended up buying a ruby and diamond ring, unique in its style to honor my dad. Rubies are mine and his birthstone and the uniqueness defined LBD. Then, I took the rest of the money and bought a couple nice things for my brother as well as a gift certificate at a local bookstore. What I am trying to say is there are ways to use the items accumulated by your parents. There is no time like the present to plan for the future. Hope this is helpful- Sanide Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2004 Report Share Posted April 4, 2004 --- Yes, I've been spending everyday there and really am rarely ever home. I'm home this afternoon because my husband and my kids came to visit my dad and my mom demanded I go home because I've spent no time with my family this weekend. They are watching Bugs Bunny (amazing how they still love that stuff) and I'm checking in here while my dinner is being prepared by my wonderful husband. My dad is doing a bit better today but when I arrived at the hospital this morning at 8:30 he was belligerent and wouldn't let Ron, our favorite nurse - we know them all down there, do anything to him. He was refusing medication. I asked Ron to leave it with me and it took 20 minutes but my sister and I got him to take it and with a bit of cajoling, he calmed down somewhat. He was more responsive today and kept his eyes open just a tiny bit more. We had lots of visitors and by the middle of the afternoon, he was sleepy beyond belief. Overall, a much better day except for the horrible mood swing this morning. I'm taking it day by day. The hospital is being great to us. We can come and go as we please and they're forever wanting to feed us. It's touching really. We have seen almost all the nurses we knew from before and some from the other floor my dad was on also came to say hello and check on him. He wasn't a long time resident there this fall and winter for nothing. Tomorrow, back at work. Four day week and my midterm marks are due on Thursday. I've been marking like a madwoman throughout this - at home, at the hospital. This next weekend I don't even want to see a student's handwriting or even a red pen. It's nice that your dad had a good birthday even if he didn't quite want to accept the notion that with birthdays come an increase in age. I'm pretty much the same way myself and I'm still in my 30s. Have a good Sunday Coyote. Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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