Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 , I'm glad to read that your spirits are up. I'm afraid I'm a much older woman....41 big ones! Courage Hello again >Hi all, > >Thanks for your responses from the other night. >I think that we are counting the days until dad has to go into a home. We've >got a meeting in a few weeks to talk about how he's doing. Would be a shame >to " lock him up " though. He's been brilliant today. We've been in the >garden. He started by trimming the roses. Well actually his eyes aren't that >good so most of the time he was attacking the fence. Well the fence needed a >trim. It had grown a lot. Then he wanted to cut the lawn so I started the >mower for him, pointed him down the garden, he pulled the lever and off he >went. The mower is a bit faster than he is now so it dragged him along >unleashing rotary death on any daffodils that didn't run out of the way. >Sadly most of them stood firm as if rooted to the spot. I'd have run for it. >I can proudly say that as confused and depressed as I may sometimes be I >still have more common sense than a daffodil. He gave up at that point and I >cut the lawn. If only I'd had a pair of roller skates for him he'd have been >ok... Anyway it seems cruel to put him in a home when a lot of the time he >is so capable. It's just the nights. > >I am now convinced that if he has a bad evening he doesn't take his night >time pills one of which is Aricept. Then he's on a downward spiral until he >winds up in hospital again. > >We are at mums NH at the moment. She is awake but snoring, I guess because >she is losing control of her throat. She can't be with us for much longer >surely. Mind you I've said that before and she has proved me wrong by almost >2 years now. Mum is the only person in the world more stubborn than me. And >she was the only person that could drive faster than me but that's somewhat >in the past now! Although when she had one of those motorised chairs that >was quite fun. You could get it on 2 wheels if you cornered fast enough. >Needed a limited slip diff though. Sorry I've degenerated into car speak. >I'll shut up now. > >Courage, >Happy birthday! Sorry I'm a bit late I'm still a couple of hundred posts >behind and just got to that bit! Did you admit how old you were anywhere? >I'll be 35 next month. At least I think I am. I was ok counting on my >fingers until I was 10, then it was toes too. 21 was a bit embracing if >anybody asked in public and now I've run out of appendages to count so I'm >not entirely sure. > >Abby, >For what it's worth I think of you and your dad often. He's one of the few >LBD folks I'd like to meet. No idea why, I usually want to avoid the >buggers! I think perhaps that he sounded a lot like my dad. And up until >this latest hiccup he sounded at a similar stage too. Hope things go well. >I'm thinking of you. > >Sandie, >6 foot 5!? Funny, he doesn't look that tall in the conference photos. In >fact I got my ruler out and measured him on the screen and he was only 3 >inches tall. Six and a half feet must be almost as tall as IA's only tree! > >See you all soon. > >Love > > > > > >Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 You have a wonderful sense of humour and I am glad that you are smiling once again. You have found the way to enjoy time with your dad and I hope I am able to do the same one day with mom. Kath Hello again > Hi all, > > Thanks for your responses from the other night. > I think that we are counting the days until dad has to go into a home. We've > got a meeting in a few weeks to talk about how he's doing. Would be a shame > to " lock him up " though. He's been brilliant today. We've been in the > garden. He started by trimming the roses. Well actually his eyes aren't that > good so most of the time he was attacking the fence. Well the fence needed a > trim. It had grown a lot. Then he wanted to cut the lawn so I started the > mower for him, pointed him down the garden, he pulled the lever and off he > went. The mower is a bit faster than he is now so it dragged him along > unleashing rotary death on any daffodils that didn't run out of the way. > Sadly most of them stood firm as if rooted to the spot. I'd have run for it. > I can proudly say that as confused and depressed as I may sometimes be I > still have more common sense than a daffodil. He gave up at that point and I > cut the lawn. If only I'd had a pair of roller skates for him he'd have been > ok... Anyway it seems cruel to put him in a home when a lot of the time he > is so capable. It's just the nights. > > I am now convinced that if he has a bad evening he doesn't take his night > time pills one of which is Aricept. Then he's on a downward spiral until he > winds up in hospital again. > > We are at mums NH at the moment. She is awake but snoring, I guess because > she is losing control of her throat. She can't be with us for much longer > surely. Mind you I've said that before and she has proved me wrong by almo st > 2 years now. Mum is the only person in the world more stubborn than me. And > she was the only person that could drive faster than me but that's somewhat > in the past now! Although when she had one of those motorised chairs that > was quite fun. You could get it on 2 wheels if you cornered fast enough. > Needed a limited slip diff though. Sorry I've degenerated into car speak. > I'll shut up now. > > Courage, > Happy birthday! Sorry I'm a bit late I'm still a couple of hundred posts > behind and just got to that bit! Did you admit how old you were anywhere? > I'll be 35 next month. At least I think I am. I was ok counting on my > fingers until I was 10, then it was toes too. 21 was a bit embracing if > anybody asked in public and now I've run out of appendages to count so I'm > not entirely sure. > > Abby, > For what it's worth I think of you and your dad often. He's one of the few > LBD folks I'd like to meet. No idea why, I usually want to avoid the > buggers! I think perhaps that he sounded a lot like my dad. And up until > this latest hiccup he sounded at a similar stage too. Hope things go well. > I'm thinking of you. > > Sandie, > 6 foot 5!? Funny, he doesn't look that tall in the conference photos. In > fact I got my ruler out and measured him on the screen and he was only 3 > inches tall. Six and a half feet must be almost as tall as IA's only tree! > > See you all soon. > > Love > > > > > > Welcome to LBDcaregivers. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 22, 2004 Report Share Posted March 22, 2004 : It's worth a great deal to me that you think of my dad and I - especially amidst everything else that is going on with you. And, I must tell you, my dad would love to meet you because he loves sarcasm and natural wit and that is you personified. My dad, like your dad, also loved his garden. I hope his surgery brings him back to a time when we will be able to bring him back to his garden even if he just looks at it. Don't think we'll be attempting to ride the lawnmower though!! It is a shame to put your dad in a nh when he is, for the time being, only needing assistance at night so that someone can remind him to take his meds. How about hiring a caregiver? I don't know how much that would cost nor if money is even an issue but that may give him his independence for a bit longer. Always a pleasure to hear from you. Your posts are so much better than anything I could read, watch or hear. Great to know your dad had a good day - especially amongst his lawnmower woes and his attempt to single handedly take out the daffodil population in his garden. Have a great day , Abby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 24, 2004 Report Share Posted March 24, 2004 Glad to see your sense of humor has returned. Nights were the hardest for my mother too. But dad refused to let us or anyone else stay with them at night. Be sure to enjoy any good times you have because they help you with the time after they are gone. M > >Reply-To: LBDcaregivers >To: " LBDcaregivers " <LBDcaregivers > >Subject: Hello again >Date: Mon, 22 Mar 2004 17:58:04 -0000 >MIME-Version: 1.0 >X-Sender: james@... >Received: from n6.grp.scd.yahoo.com ([66.218.66.90]) by >mc11-f12.hotmail.com with Microsoft SMTPSVC(5.0.2195.6824); Mon, 22 Mar >2004 17:17:43 -0800 >Received: from [66.218.67.194] by n6.grp.scd.yahoo.com with NNFMP; 22 Mar >2004 18:02:00 -0000 >Received: (qmail 3587 invoked from network); 22 Mar 2004 18:01:56 -0000 >Received: from unknown (66.218.66.172) by m12.grp.scd.yahoo.com with QMQP; >22 Mar 2004 18:01:56 -0000 >Received: from unknown (HELO protactinium.btinternet.com) (194.73.73.176) >by mta4.grp.scd.yahoo.com with SMTP; 22 Mar 2004 18:01:56 -0000 >Received: from [81.131.15.17] (helo=noisylaptop)by >protactinium.btinternet.com with smtp (Exim 3.22 #25)id 1B5TkF-0000zy-00for >LBDcaregivers ; Mon, 22 Mar 2004 18:01:51 +0000 >X-Message-Info: JGTYoYF78jHTDvl5yWVF47K1NPazIQhf >X-eGroups-Return: >sentto-2141318-27031-1079978518-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-Apparently-To: LBDcaregivers >Message-ID: >X-MSMail-Priority: Normal >X-Mailer: Microsoft Outlook IMO, Build 9.0.2416 (9.0.2910.0) >X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.00.2800.1165 >X-eGroups-Remote-IP: 194.73.73.176 >X-Yahoo-Profile: a_j_hodgson >Mailing-List: list LBDcaregivers ; contact >LBDcaregivers-owner >Delivered-To: mailing list LBDcaregivers >Precedence: bulk >List-Unsubscribe: <mailto:LBDcaregivers-unsubscribe > >Return-Path: >sentto-2141318-27031-1079978518-cat86443=hotmail.com@... >X-OriginalArrivalTime: 23 Mar 2004 01:17:44.0015 (UTC) >FILETIME=[A4C9B5F0:01C41074] > >Hi all, > >Thanks for your responses from the other night. >I think that we are counting the days until dad has to go into a home. >We've >got a meeting in a few weeks to talk about how he's doing. Would be a shame >to " lock him up " though. He's been brilliant today. We've been in the >garden. He started by trimming the roses. Well actually his eyes aren't >that >good so most of the time he was attacking the fence. Well the fence needed >a >trim. It had grown a lot. Then he wanted to cut the lawn so I started the >mower for him, pointed him down the garden, he pulled the lever and off he >went. The mower is a bit faster than he is now so it dragged him along >unleashing rotary death on any daffodils that didn't run out of the way. >Sadly most of them stood firm as if rooted to the spot. I'd have run for >it. >I can proudly say that as confused and depressed as I may sometimes be I >still have more common sense than a daffodil. He gave up at that point and >I >cut the lawn. If only I'd had a pair of roller skates for him he'd have >been >ok... Anyway it seems cruel to put him in a home when a lot of the time he >is so capable. It's just the nights. > >I am now convinced that if he has a bad evening he doesn't take his night >time pills one of which is Aricept. Then he's on a downward spiral until he >winds up in hospital again. > >We are at mums NH at the moment. She is awake but snoring, I guess because >she is losing control of her throat. She can't be with us for much longer >surely. Mind you I've said that before and she has proved me wrong by >almost >2 years now. Mum is the only person in the world more stubborn than me. And >she was the only person that could drive faster than me but that's somewhat >in the past now! Although when she had one of those motorised chairs that >was quite fun. You could get it on 2 wheels if you cornered fast enough. >Needed a limited slip diff though. Sorry I've degenerated into car speak. >I'll shut up now. > >Courage, >Happy birthday! Sorry I'm a bit late I'm still a couple of hundred posts >behind and just got to that bit! Did you admit how old you were anywhere? >I'll be 35 next month. At least I think I am. I was ok counting on my >fingers until I was 10, then it was toes too. 21 was a bit embracing if >anybody asked in public and now I've run out of appendages to count so I'm >not entirely sure. > >Abby, >For what it's worth I think of you and your dad often. He's one of the few >LBD folks I'd like to meet. No idea why, I usually want to avoid the >buggers! I think perhaps that he sounded a lot like my dad. And up until >this latest hiccup he sounded at a similar stage too. Hope things go well. >I'm thinking of you. > >Sandie, >6 foot 5!? Funny, he doesn't look that tall in the conference photos. In >fact I got my ruler out and measured him on the screen and he was only 3 >inches tall. Six and a half feet must be almost as tall as IA's only tree! > >See you all soon. > >Love > > _________________________________________________________________ Check out MSN PC Safety & Security to help ensure your PC is protected and safe. http://specials.msn.com/msn/security.asp Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 7, 2004 Report Share Posted May 7, 2004 Tis me, Ann, yes, I'm a lefty, also a redhead, from MN. Like I said in my intro, I don't talk much, at first. LOL I want to thank you all for letting me read your posts. I feel for all of you. I moved my mom out of her house that she designed and lived in for 52 years into a place that specializes in taking care of dementia clients. She was lucky a room was available when it was. Two nights befor, when I tried to call her, the line was busy. After 30 min. I called the opperator and she said the line was off the hook. I went to mom's and she was holding the reciever, staring blankly at the phone saying she was trying to call me. She took a good fall and there was blood all over the kitchen. I had her connected to LifeLine but she didn't push the button and after she picked up the phone it wouldn't have worked anyways. She's been moved in to Praire Sr. Cottage and loves the place. Today I got a call from them. She wasn't feeling well,sleeping alot and had a thick cough and her lungs had a congetested sound. I left work early to take her to her Dr. and she has pneumonia. She's on anti-biotics now and if she get's worse, it's off to the hospital. My brother is still no help, he's worried about his job. Hell, I haven't had a 40 hr. week since Jan. and he had a fit about coming home for a week for Easter. Basically it's send him the updates and info and he sits backs and send sorry e-mails. Venting again, nothing new for me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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